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Post by kyliestarz on Aug 14, 2020 18:37:11 GMT -5
Yeah, like everyone else I never really thought experience was the likely dev cause, I guess I just found my first dev experience to be so intense and have such warm feelings about it that I like the idea of it sending me down the dev road. It’s tidy in a way, and a story and an answer. In that way I prefer it over innateness.
That first experience was actually a very attractive person with symbrachydactyly, and yet I’m much more attracted to leg amputee and wheelers...though quad hands and arm/hand amputees can certainly get me going. Point being there’s little overlap with the of details of my first dev experience and what I’m most attracted to now.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2020 19:48:49 GMT -5
I just totally had to look up that disability, never heard of it
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Post by kyliestarz on Aug 14, 2020 19:53:27 GMT -5
Ha, so did I when I was posting. I never thought of a term other than birth defect but did some googling. I don’t know if it’s technically right. His left hand was very small, with tiny pee sized fingers. So Hot! :-)
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Post by blueskye101 on Aug 14, 2020 23:06:59 GMT -5
Definitely born this way. Never remember any kind of trigger but like others have mentioned, was very intensely interested In anyone in a wheelchair, mobility impairment, blind, deaf. I do remember needing to hide this from others as I “knew” this was weird but never really wondered why as there are so many differences in people I knew and just figured everyone had some kind f kink as I was older
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Post by kivic on Aug 15, 2020 10:51:27 GMT -5
I mean...if something happened to affect me like that...it absolutely happened way too young for me to remember. Like I remember being 4(?) and purposely searching the library for book with wheelchairs and crutches hahaha Even then I was like “oh this isn’t a thing other people do” so...who knows hahaha Tbh, this is something that I didn’t recognize until after I had sought the help of a sexual psychologist when my actions were destructive to my relationship. It wasn’t something I was aware of that my childhood emotional neglect was internalized and manifested in my play-pretend as a young child which evolved and transformed as I matured. We’re all different, all from diverse backgrounds, but, for me, the knowledge of the “where” has given me more peace and acceptance; it’s like knowing the whole of you. It truly has felt like I was born this way because it feels like it’s always been a part of my being
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Post by mili on Aug 19, 2020 16:56:18 GMT -5
This is an interesting question and I simply would want to know the truth rather than choose what I "want" to hear. What I think is that your two options may not be mutually exclusive, and that the whole thing is a mix of genetic predispositions and environmental programming. This environmental programming may go even deeper than simply seeing someone with a disability and a young age at the right time. I think it may be also linked to things like core beliefs and trauma.
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Post by Nia on Aug 26, 2020 14:33:27 GMT -5
Number 1 without thinking
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