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Post by blueskye101 on Nov 3, 2020 21:58:53 GMT -5
Not really explored a lot about being an empath but people always say I’m “ too sensitive”. Take things too to heart. Also am very intuitive and have been since a young thing. No dreams come true nor premonitions. No horror movies for me. Interesting thinking about how this jives with being a dev. Had never though about it. Hmmmm
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Post by dev4ever on Nov 6, 2020 5:53:56 GMT -5
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Post by mona on Nov 16, 2020 15:28:50 GMT -5
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Nov 17, 2020 17:45:37 GMT -5
I am most definitely an empath!  |
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Post by Slinxter on Nov 17, 2020 17:54:13 GMT -5
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Nov 17, 2020 18:15:28 GMT -5
I've read this before and some other similar articles. The mind is a powerful tool and too often we want to put labels on everything that we can't explain. I love being an empath - it has allowed me to become extremely successful in what I do for a living and I consider it a gift. I have established good boundaries for myself and tend to not get completely overwhelmed when I "feel" what others are feeling. There are many other gifts that come with it as well. Borderline Personality is an extremely hard diagnosis to reach and there are many facets of it that you have to meet to become diagnosed with it. I've never been diagnosed with it and do not exhibit any other signs of a BP diagnosis. Other empaths I know, this is true for them as well. So, I will continue to embrace my empathic self as well as my dev self which coincidently is/or was considered a paraphilia which in some forms could be considered or viewed as a mental illness. To me, I seem pretty normal.  |
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Post by mili on Nov 17, 2020 18:32:22 GMT -5
I like that this article holds the largely non-pejorative view of BPD! I work with clients with BPD and yes, the sensitivity and ability to read people is totally a thing. I don't think you were implying this, but not everyone who is sensitive/highly empathic has BPD. BPD traits (which I would argue almost everyone has passively) may be more common, though, especially if one grew up in an invalidating environment where the message was, "your emotions are not ok/too much". |
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Post by elbs on Jan 3, 2021 9:12:16 GMT -5
I like that this article holds the largely non-pejorative view of BPD! I work with clients with BPD and yes, the sensitivity and ability to read people is totally a thing. I don't think you were implying this, but not everyone who is sensitive/highly empathic has BPD. BPD traits (which I would argue almost everyone has passively) may be more common, though, especially if one grew up in an invalidating environment where the message was, "your emotions are not ok/too much". My guess is that certain types of environments make BPD in people with higher empathy and sociopathy in people with lower empathy. The two conditions are both linked to attachment disruption (eg being in foster care, emotionally abusive/neglectful parenting, etc), but have opposite features in empathy and forming emotional attachments to people. Some people shut down all ability to care, and others get overwhelmed by it. |
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Post by Kahanah on Mar 13, 2021 22:18:45 GMT -5
I am definitely considering myself as an empath, but I do not see any correlation with my devness.
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Post by ayla on Mar 17, 2021 20:23:51 GMT -5
I’m empathetic but not an “empath,” at least not in the sense of experiencing others’ emotions as my own or having a psychic-like ability to pick up emotions.
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Post by Nia on Mar 26, 2021 2:45:53 GMT -5
English is not my first language so I don’t really recognize the difference between being an empath and being emphatic but I would definitely say that I’m emphatic especially when it comes to the injury of my preferred guy. Its so interesting that I logged here after ages and stumbled upon this thread since I’m these days in the middle of a long story I’m writing and just yesterday I’ve been revising the part of it that talks about my emphatic feelings towards what my main character who then lost both of his legs went through. It’s now from this perspective interesting to me how intensely and in details I wrote about it. At some point after making love (of course:)) she asks him how it was and as he knows that she is a dev and he likes that fact and her very very much he opens up and tells her everything down to tiniest detail. The storyline follows his story and her experience and reactions and it’s really all about the fact he felt and believed that she wants to know him so much and to feel what he feels that she lets every word of his to literally injure her. She is suffering from hearing all off it but also she is suffering from the fact that he was alone and she would give everything to go back and to be there with him and to relive everything together with the fear, pain, loss... at some point she falls into self hate after realizing what it takes to “make a man she will fall in love with” and she feels destructive feelings realizing that the only right and justified thing would be for her to experience exactly the same or at least to be faced with his words every day never to forget what it takes for her to feel this fucking sexual arrousment... she feels about her as a monster, she cries her eyes out and at one point she asks him to stop for a minute so she can run to the bathroom and throw up.
What I personally felt while writing this part was extreme emphaty towards my imaginary boyfriend in the story but also towards a guy I’ve been with in reality couple years back and at the end towards any other injured guy who ended up with life long disability whichever that might be...
I’m still after so many years of trying to accept myself struggling with feelings of guilt and also I feel like the more close to them I get and the more I know about the reality of it the more emphaty I feel and also the greater my need to feel some of it myself becomes....
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