Kahanah
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Posts: 59
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
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Post by Kahanah on May 17, 2021 17:11:47 GMT -5
I guess no real news at this point. Still not meetup/date. Both our lives got super hella crazy. His with some family health stuff and mine with work. We’re still just chatting and what not. But damn I am SO itching to meet up soon! It’s gotta happen or I’m gonna explode!!! Yea, I had to wait for 2 months to meet my fiancé. Cause apparently he was “scared” and was brushing me off, lmao. One day I said “that’s it! I’m flying in this weekend ”🤪 |
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Post by Celaena on Jul 20, 2021 21:05:49 GMT -5
I guess no real news at this point. Still not meetup/date. Both our lives got super hella crazy. His with some family health stuff and mine with work. We’re still just chatting and what not. But damn I am SO itching to meet up soon! It’s gotta happen or I’m gonna explode!!! Any updates?!? I've got my fingers crossed for you! |
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Post by rebeckers84 on Jul 28, 2021 23:05:51 GMT -5
I am SO sorry I have not visited to give any updates. I have a bit of a roller coaster of emotions adventure to take you on.
Me & boy finally had the chance to meet up mid May pretty much right after my last post! I was going to my hometown for an event and we grabbed lunch. Had a lovely time. We continued chatting, texting, FaceTiming but also really started making an effort of doing things together.
We are total complete opposites. I’m a city girl through and through and pretty much hate nature. He loves to fish, camp, hunt and everything nature. But you know what, opposites attract so whatever. I let him pull me out of my comfort zone a bit by doing some natury things. And I made him come to the city to enjoy some of my things. I really don’t think either of us loved each other’s worlds but it was fun to explore and do some things together. Besides it not like you have to spend every single waking moment together right!?!?
So we’ve been chatting for like 4 months now and getting together when we can for a couple months now…and this past weekend we got to some serious talking. I recently got promoted at work which is a lot more responsibility, a lot more hours, I’m pretty stressed out and I’m tired of spending a lot of my free time driving to my hometown constantly.
I’m honestly open to living anywhere but not back in my hometown. No way no how! It is a very small, middle of nowhere, mix of retirees and (to put it bluntly) red necks. I’ve hated it there since the day my parents moved me from Chicago. I left as soon as I could after high school and I’ll never go back. It might sound a little dramatic but I really truly despise the place.
He on the other hand, has neverrrrrr left and does not want to. At first he was sort of open to the idea of leaving at some point but the more we talk about it I can see it in his (gorgeous) eyes and in his voice that he could never leave. It’s one of those places where you either hate it, get out, and never look back. Or you’re there forever. There is no in between.
So that brought us to our crossroads. Not that either of us are ready right this moment to take a step like moving in together but if neither of us are willing to budge on where we’re going to live what’s the point of continuing on with things getting serious.
We have still talked pretty much everyday. I think we are still going to be very close friends. But I need to take a serious step back before I get really truly even more invested emotionally.
I’m a little sad. But honestly I feel good about the talk and decision and where we’re at. I’ve gained a really super awesome friend. And like I do with every “failed” (for lack of a better term) I’ve learned some new things about myself.
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Post by feelsunshine on Aug 1, 2021 15:25:01 GMT -5
Thanks for the update!
If you don’t try you don’t find out, right?
so it’s great that you guys got together and got to know each other!
How far do the two of you live apart from each other?
I don’t know how the two of you feel about it but, does it necessarily always have to go further steps? Let me explain. I am also the person (or I thought I was) who wants to be totally committed in a relationship and best thing is living together in a happy family style.
I had that part in life where I lived together with an AB guy for almost 5 years and after that separation I found that being single is actually an awesome thing because you are your own boss and no one cares if you for example change you mind 5 times within a minute for whatever reasons. And you can be spontaneous because you don’t have to wait for your significant others opinion on things.
I mentioned it in another thread earlier. I am currently in a fwb relationship with a wheeler. We live about an hour drive apart. we see each other approximately every other weekend, sometimes more, sometimes less. … when we’re together, it feels like a happy romantic relationship, then we go apart and are single people again and live our regular lifes.
It took me a while to adapt to that and to not wanting more boundaries and more commitment. But now I can really enjoy the way we handle it.
We basically only share the good stuff and not the stressful stuff that (most of the times) comes along when you go deeper into a relationship.
Apologies for this long essay about FWB. I just wanted to show how relationships can work as well. It doesn’t always have to follow the road of being closely together. by the way. About city and countryside, we’re also on two sides. I’m the country girl and he’s the city guy. But I do have to admit, seeing the advantages of city life, I usually get sad at the point where I have to go back home. Back to the woods 🤣… but that’s another story for another essay 😊
All the best and I hope the two of you can figure out a way - and if not a relationship- as you said, you gained a new friend, that’s awesome, too!!!
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