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Post by infinatedreams on Apr 12, 2023 9:44:09 GMT -5
Was that you - if you can remember things you wrote, oh, 5-10 years ago on this board - who said that your partners look to you for confidence, so you just have to be the one to express that to pass it on to them? Maybe I was thinking of someone else. At any rate, you’ve made some really good posts over the years about this sort of stuff, so yeah. Go you Practice makes perfect Oh jeez im lucky if i can rememember what I had for tea last night never mind what I may have posted years ago, may well have been me as its a topic that comes up every so often. I guess for us PWD dudes we need to know what works for us, what pleases us as most encounters are going to be with someone who has never slept with a PWD and if we dont 'function' traditionally then they dont know how to please us and that can make the other half anxious and nervous, so being able to say, kiss me here, touch me there, bite me a bit harder etc etc shows them that we understand our bodies and we want them to understand it too. Pretty easy to arouse and please an AB guy to the point of ejaculation it aint exactly complicated, we PWD guys can be complicated that way and ive always found the other half to take great satisfaction in getting me to a place where very few have. It hasnt happened every time and it took a long time to figure my body out (should say a very kind lady did the exploring on my behalf), one nighters dont do it for me, sure they can be nice but ive never hit the sweet spot with them. Its always been with someone ive really been into and that where i think the brain really is compensating for the lack of sensation to get me over that edge. Right touches, right person, right time and it can be magical.
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Post by sungod on Apr 12, 2023 10:52:28 GMT -5
not THAT violet that's a very good point, made by both @infinitedreams and others over the years, I believe. It's not just confidence that some partners might appreciate, but even guidance through intimate encounters. When with a non-dev, they might be completely foreign to the world your disability, so they need to know what to do, how to help, what works, etc. Even when with a dev, a real experience could be so different from fantasies that guidance is still very much needed.
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Post by sungod on Apr 14, 2023 12:31:31 GMT -5
Find a nice girl to suck on your neck SunGod's new dating profile: "Quadriplegic seeking a nice girl to suck on my neck. Inquire within." Step 4: Profit! 3 Days Later Sadly, this update to my Bumble profile has had no positive effect. Shocker.
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Post by Quad787 on Apr 14, 2023 17:07:18 GMT -5
SunGod's new dating profile: "Quadriplegic seeking a nice girl to suck on my neck. Inquire within." Step 4: Profit! 3 Days Later Sadly, this update to my Bumble profile has had no positive effect. Shocker. I don't know for sure, but I think you might have a better chance of success by asking that at closing time at a bar. Perhaps I'll try tonight. Will report back if I do. 🙂
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StingATL
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Dev Status: Disabled
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by StingATL on Apr 23, 2023 19:54:24 GMT -5
I tried everything: MUSE a little pill you put in your urethra - It worked once, and then it didn't. TriMix is a shot of three ingredients - hit or miss. Pump and rubberbands - It never worked for me. Blue pill (and the others) is about 50% of working but not long enough when taken weekly. But works 90% of the time if taken days at a time beforehand.
Penile Implant Protisis - I could have gotten the penis implant pump 20 years ago, but my ex-wife wouldn't have it. Since my divorce, I got the AMS 700 by Boston Scientific surgically installed and love it, and it is not perfect, but close and great for my self-confidence. I have yet to use it and waiting on someone special. I can ejaculate but usually 1-4 times a year. I get a huge headache and then a deep calm feeling. It's incredible. About six months ago, I got a back massage gun. I pulled it out of the package and put it on my penis, and I came in 10 seconds, but haven't since then. Live is an adventure, let's see what happens next. Maybe there is a Devotee, or maybe online dating will work; I've made a few good friends through online dating, but nothing that has gone to an LTR. I must know a lady well before I'll sleep with her. If anyone has any questions, I've been in a wheelchair for 24 years. Ask here or DM me.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Apr 23, 2023 20:02:37 GMT -5
Visual stimulation works for me when I'm horny, and neck sucking sounds hot.
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vvulfie
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Relationship Status: Single
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Post by vvulfie on Apr 25, 2023 16:43:44 GMT -5
If a woman digs you, it won’t be an issue, if she wants you, you two will make it work, and when everything is on the table, it makes things much easier. Aren't women great?
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StingATL
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Post by StingATL on Jul 10, 2023 13:17:53 GMT -5
Update, so far, I have only had a friend (non-sexual, she is a lesbian) take a look at StingATL 2.0 with a penis implant and do a bit of playing. She wanted to video the inflating and deflating.
I've had two dates from Bumble Crash and Burn and two dates from Hinge no-show when I said I was in a wheelchair. My 30-year-old co-pilot GF still insists photos of me in a wheelchair or telling them in advance should never be required. If they are upset upon meeting, point out they are ableists. I had another nurse who said I was a fraud and would report me to Bumble. I said, "For what, you discriminating against the disabled," and I called her an Ableist. She is a redhead and went crazy. A Philippino lady said I tricked her but would invest the one dinner but said because of my deception, she informed me we were no longer splitting dinner to me paying for everything. She thanked me for the beautiful dinner via text and then ghosted me.
Anyway, on a positive note, I have a date with a cute younger lady tonight. The women my age seem to be more closed-minded. I have tried for 18 months and found one "Fatal Attraction crazy lady" who told me what she did to her ex BFs and ex Husband. I have another who earned the title of "Just Friends." She took me home after my Penis Implant surgery but had zero interest in learning more. We still have a before-bed chat for 4 of 7 nights a week. Hopefully, the younger lady will work out for monogamous LTR.
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Post by someonerandom on Jul 10, 2023 13:58:42 GMT -5
Update, so far, I have only had a friend (non-sexual, she is a lesbian) take a look at StingATL 2.0 with a penis implant and do a bit of playing. She wanted to video the inflating and deflating. I've had two dates from Bumble Crash and Burn and two dates from Hinge no-show when I said I was in a wheelchair. My 30-year-old co-pilot GF still insists photos of me in a wheelchair or telling them in advance should never be required. If they are upset upon meeting, point out they are ableists. I had another nurse who said I was a fraud and would report me to Bumble. I said, "For what, you discriminating against the disabled," and I called her an Ableist. She is a redhead and went crazy. A Philippino lady said I tricked her but would invest the one dinner but said because of my deception, she informed me we were no longer splitting dinner to me paying for everything. She thanked me for the beautiful dinner via text and then ghosted me. Anyway, on a positive note, I have a date with a cute younger lady tonight. The women my age seem to be more closed-minded. I have tried for 18 months and found one "Fatal Attraction crazy lady" who told me what she did to her ex BFs and ex Husband. I have another who earned the title of "Just Friends." She took me home after my Penis Implant surgery but had zero interest in learning more. We still have a before-bed chat for 4 of 7 nights a week. Hopefully, the younger lady will work out for monogamous LTR. lol this is too funny, you don’t tell them you use a wheelchair until you show up to the date, or just before the date? Regardless if people are ableist about it, this is just not effective. It’s like any other number of things someone might be surprised about, like having titty cancer or 5 kids or something. I mean, if a lady showed up to a date being fatter than her pictures, would you reject her? If so, would you admit that you’re being fatphobic, or would you pretend it’s primarily because you care so much about honesty? Your friend who thinks you should just be able to show up to a date and surprise them by being in a wheelchair is not giving you good advice… there’s how things should be, and how things actually are. I hope your date tonight knows what you are like! Also, why did you say “she was a redhead and went crazy”, why is the redhead part in that sentence? I’m just laughing, imagining the Curb Your Enthusiasm music playing as you roll out in your wheelchair 😂
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Post by sungod on Jul 10, 2023 16:16:59 GMT -5
Update, so far, I have only had a friend (non-sexual, she is a lesbian) take a look at StingATL 2.0 with a penis implant and do a bit of playing. She wanted to video the inflating and deflating. I'm really curious about this first line. What do you mean by, "take a look"? If you mean I think you mean, I'm surprised that this falls under the umbrella of lesbian friendship duties.
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xxxpoisonivyxxx
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Post by xxxpoisonivyxxx on Aug 24, 2023 22:21:16 GMT -5
Dicks are not really as important as you would think there is so much more. Find someone you can trust to explore with. I have never had an experience with a disabled person but what a beautiful thing to learn and explore with someone. I promise there people that are interested in finding more with you. But explore for yourself as well.
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Post by Experimentalist on Aug 25, 2023 11:43:21 GMT -5
3 Days Later Sadly, this update to my Bumble profile has had no positive effect. Shocker. Don't be so cynical - give it an honest try! Keep tweaking until it starts working. Seriously, you should be open and honest in your dating profile about who you are and what you want. You'll get messages saying "Your profile is refreshingly sincere". I've run this experiment already. Trust me, it works
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Post by dutchdev on Aug 26, 2023 5:47:45 GMT -5
3 Days Later Sadly, this update to my Bumble profile has had no positive effect. Shocker. Don't be so cynical - give it an honest try! Keep tweaking until it starts working. Seriously, you should be open and honest in your dating profile about who you are and what you want. You'll get messages saying "Your profile is refreshingly sincere". I've run this experiment already. Trust me, it works Probably also depends on what you want 🤣
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j
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Post by j on Aug 26, 2023 9:12:21 GMT -5
a para guy who never had any experiences sexually and is 38, It makes me wonder about the delio of life I watch other guys and it makes me bitter Sometimes how easy it easy to not try and be normal it becomes difficult having physical limitations and explaining to someone who accepts it Also how do you explain to a girl you are a virgin ...........and of this you already feel like you are late to the party and yeah sex becomes not a thing because you want it or need it its just curiosity and if other can why can't I
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j
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Hold on .. If it's A good thing baby!
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Post by j on Aug 26, 2023 9:24:10 GMT -5
I understand having a lifetime connection is far greater than anything 3D or physical but we live in a world with what is normal and what isn't so it becomes a different kind of existence Yes I would like a relationship with the person I love and would have a deep connection and meaningful friendship first I would like to be with someone who accepts all of me
but at the same time, I wouldn't be the wiser to an NSA relationship due to the fact I never have had either one
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