swirlsss
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Post by swirlsss on Mar 4, 2024 18:10:11 GMT -5
I have read some posts about what devotees find attractive or notice first when it comes to their disability of choice, specifically relating to physical characteristics. I may have missed a post like this one: When you are out in public and notice an individual with a disability, what would they be doing that would really make you do a second take? Or give you butterflies or that wonderful feeling? As opposed to just noticing an individual with a disability and their physical characteristics.
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lazuli
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Post by lazuli on Mar 5, 2024 2:56:24 GMT -5
As primarily a CP dev, the first things I notice are power chairs, involuntary movements, & CP speech impediments. I was driving the other day and I saw a guy in a power chair and I was rubbernecking so hard that I almost rear-ended the car in front of me when they stopped at the light. Ooops. It's so rare to see men that I'm actually attracted to out in the real world, I feel like I remember every single time it's ever happened in my adult life. There was that guy by the pool in Maui. That other guy near the big silver sculpture in the plaza in Barcelona. I'm not sure, but I kind of doubt that non-devs have SUCH vivid memories of every attractive person they've ever seen. Because it probably happens way more often for them. But yea, in terms of things that have ~really~ given me butterflies... one of the hottest things ever is when a guy tries to maintain eye contact with me while resisting involuntary movements. Ayeyayayay.
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Post by ichbin on Mar 5, 2024 13:16:51 GMT -5
So funny, just like lazuli I remember every single para I have seen in my adult life. to answer swirlsss question: what I find most appealing is when paras adjust their feet / legs (as did the guy who was a student in the same class as me), also of course transfers (same guy infront of university, out of his car!), but, tbh, they don´t have to "do" much in order for me to "give me that wonderful feeling" (as you prettily put it). It's enough for them to just sit there... once there was this guy in the subway. He had a very low backrest and looked so athletic: very sexy. another really young and sportive guy wheeled very quickly to an escalator, turned around, got on it, holding himself with his left and right hand on the handrails. He seemed to be enjoying the peoples looks who seemed to be scared that he was gonna fall off it. his whole appearance was amazing to watch (problem: I told myself not to.... I didn´t want him to feel "stared at"). or this other guy, in a supermarket once..... I spotted him from faaar away (sometimes I wonder how that works... it´s selective perception or something 🤣)
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swirlsss
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Post by swirlsss on Mar 5, 2024 13:30:20 GMT -5
I've gotten those looks of the wondering how I am doing what I am doing or why I am doing it or concerned looks about safety as well. Being out to the lake swimming and some individuals are in disbelief of me swimming out to the buoys and all around. I'm thinking some individuals can't do something themselves or can't see themselves doing something so they think that someone without the use of their lower body can't either. As for the adjustments, I do that all the time as I can be fairly spastic at times. The more spastic the more I do it.
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Post by ParaDevGuy on Mar 5, 2024 14:24:59 GMT -5
Honestly, for me, it’s largely the same as ichbin from above. I get that wonderful feeling seeing the guy in his wheelchair. It doesn’t take much I guess 😂
Bonus points for transfers or going up a curb or ramp or something. But I guess I’m a simple guy. I see someone paralyzed, I get that “wonderful feeling.”
But then, yeah, I struggle with wanting to observe for as long as possible but not stare. I guess it’s our predisposition to not want to make others feel uncomfortable with a stare, so I always avert my eyes. Though, I’m sure the keen observer will notice my lusty glances. 😂😉
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Post by ParaDevGuy on Mar 5, 2024 14:28:27 GMT -5
I will say, though, that I think my brain is wired to be alerted to any wheelchair in the vicinity. Some people are wired to sense danger. Me, when I see an ass between a pair of wheels, I’m locked on and zeroed in almost immediately. 😂🤷🏻♂️
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swirlsss
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Post by swirlsss on Mar 5, 2024 14:53:12 GMT -5
Certain disabilities stand out in a crowd or from a long ways away. Paraplegia or quadriplegia it's easy to pick out usually, even from a long distance.
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Post by justnick on Mar 5, 2024 16:35:44 GMT -5
When I’m with friends and/or in a crowd, I almost always have my seat elevated. it is so nice to be able to speak and interact with people at the same level. I do get a lot more looks and comments from strangers, for sure.
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Post by ayla on Mar 5, 2024 18:04:17 GMT -5
Literally everything my fellow devs said above. It doesn't take much just ~exist~
As for less commonly mentioned things that will really get my heart racing if I'm fortunate enough to see them in public: wheeling while using furniture/walls/environment to maneuver rather than purely hands on wheels, guys with kids on laps or next to them (even though I don't have or want any kids, something about this makes me swoon), PDA with a partner - even simple hand-holding, or guys wearing non-casual, tailored clothing like a business suit. Then there's OBVIOUSLY pressure lifts, adjusting legs or clothing, transfers... these are a given among our kind, no?? LOL
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swirlsss
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Post by swirlsss on Mar 5, 2024 19:17:46 GMT -5
Literally everything my fellow devs said above. It doesn't take much just ~exist~ As for less commonly mentioned things that will really get my heart racing if I'm fortunate enough to see them in public: wheeling while using furniture/walls/environment to maneuver rather than purely hands on wheels, guys with kids on laps or next to them (even though I don't have or want any kids, something about this makes me swoon), PDA with a partner - even simple hand-holding, or guys wearing non-casual, tailored clothing like a business suit. Then there's OBVIOUSLY pressure lifts, adjusting legs or clothing, transfers... these are a given among our kind, no?? LOL So you're saying that there are women swooning over me for existing in a public space and using what's available to me. You are so sweet and I feel great haha.
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Post by ayla on Mar 5, 2024 19:21:37 GMT -5
Yep that’s right swirlsss ...unless you’re hideously ugly of course! 😜 I am obligated to note that a set of wheels can’t make up for EVERYTHING lol
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Post by swirlsss on Mar 5, 2024 19:26:39 GMT -5
Yep that’s right [mention]swirlsss [/mention] Unless you’re hideously ugly of course! 😜 I am obligated to note that a set of wheels can’t make up for EVERYTHING lol Of course. I like to think of myself as not bad looking. No one has asked me to turn the lights off or handed me a bag.
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Post by ayla on Mar 5, 2024 20:27:35 GMT -5
Yep that’s right [mention]swirlsss [/mention] Unless you’re hideously ugly of course! 😜 I am obligated to note that a set of wheels can’t make up for EVERYTHING lol Of course. I like to think of myself as not bad looking. No one has asked me to turn the lights off or handed me a bag. I’m just pulling your leg 😉
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Post by swirlsss on Mar 5, 2024 20:44:17 GMT -5
Nothing wrong with that. Gotta have some fun.
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Post by artlover1994 on Mar 5, 2024 21:31:46 GMT -5
Transfers and pressure releases for me for sure. As well as crossed legs, the position of legs in the chair/feet on the footrest, or if standing/walking, the amount of visible effort it takes to do so.
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