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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2009 14:57:08 GMT -5
Maybe it's just me. Does anyone else find it annoying when some guy tries to tell you that he "knows what you're going through" because he hurt his back 10 years ago and couldn't walk for a few months? I don't know why, it just gets under my skin and it happens to me all the time. I don't know if they're just trying to relate somehow or what. It reminds me of my favorite quote: "It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt."
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Post by amy on Apr 11, 2009 15:52:29 GMT -5
"It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt." Takes one to know one! And yes, I don't blame you for being annoyed by that.
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Post by matisse on Apr 11, 2009 16:20:57 GMT -5
I find it annoying, but I let it slide. It's that person's good deed for the day, to talk to a cripple. Let the endorphines flow..............
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Post by Triassic on Apr 11, 2009 19:57:50 GMT -5
i let it slide too, unless the guy is unusually persistant or something. they're just trying to relate to you and they probably are somewhat at a loss as to what to say.
but yeah, it''s like telling a marine just back from iraq about the intense paintball battles you've been in.
and people EXAGGERATE. i don't know how many times i've heard someone say something like; 'i couldnt walk *at all* for 2 MONTHS!' and it turns out they had to use crutches outside the house for a couple weeks, and had some lingering pain and stiffness.
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Post by devogirl on Apr 11, 2009 22:48:46 GMT -5
I agree that such comments are stupid and insulting, even if unintentionally so.
If it makes you feel better, I think it's part of a larger social habit a lot of people have: when a person encounters someone quite different from themselves, or who has had some very different experience, even something as slight as travel to some far-off country or an unusual job, they feel the need to relate it back to them somehow: it's either "The same thing happened to me, let me tell you about it" or "My neighbor/cousin/friend's sister-in-law was also blah blah blah." If I say I went to Thailand last summer, the other person has to tell me about the last time they ate Thai food. I hate small talk in general, and this kind of chatter really bugs me. I'm not certain, but I think this tendency to talk so much about oneself is a particularly American habit. I wonder if our members in other countries have encountered this same thing or not.
And yes, Matisse's advice to just let it go is probably for the best. Devo Girl is not one to suffer fools gladly, but I'm probably destroying my health by getting worked up over the idiocy of others, ha ha.
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Post by thegoodlife on Apr 12, 2009 4:35:24 GMT -5
I don't know, I used to get annoyed at it. Now I just think that the guy is trying to relate to me in some way. That's not entirely a bad thing, even if he is asserting something false. It's difficult to not be awkward when someone says something like that though, that's where it becomes annoying for me. I need to think of something funny or witty after someone says something like that; otherwise it's just "I know what you're going through....." then awkward silence. hahaha.
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Post by Phil on Apr 12, 2009 10:20:03 GMT -5
I always smile and let it slide, until I hear them end with "...but I tried harder." Thus implying that I'd be walking again if I only tried harder. Then, all bets are off. ;D
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Post by roger888 on Apr 12, 2009 10:44:35 GMT -5
Then, all bets are off. ;D & the gloves are off too ;D. Think if someone is just trying to relate to you its best to be polite,that way the blood pressure doesn't take too much of a beating.
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Post by matisse on Apr 12, 2009 11:20:30 GMT -5
until I hear them end with "...but I tried harder." Dang....can't say I've had that happen to me. Not sure what I would do.......
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Post by yoell on Apr 12, 2009 12:32:22 GMT -5
Changing the subject slightly. I find it most annoying when I get un-solicited assistance with a door. I don't ask for anything, yet I have to say thanks. If I needed help, I would ask. I am just fine with my own doors. Having to say thanks for nothing, gets old. I also have to add that when someone turns 65 they feel they are entitled to a handicap spot. I go to sporting events and it is a joke finding a spot with the room to get out of my vehicle. there done.
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Post by E on Apr 12, 2009 13:03:06 GMT -5
Changing the subject slightly. I find it most annoying when I get un-solicited assistance with a door. I don't ask for anything, yet I have to say thanks. If I needed help, I would ask. I am just fine with my own doors. Having to say thanks for nothing, gets old. I also have to add that when someone turns 65 they feel they are entitled to a handicap spot. I go to sporting events and it is a joke finding a spot with the room to get out of my vehicle. there done. If you were AB and someone held the door open for you, wouldn't you still say thanks, even though you can do it yourself?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2009 14:44:22 GMT -5
I never say anything unkind. If the person is overly persistent, I usually just change the subject to avoid any unpleasantness. That's why I come here, to spout off to people that actually understand. It's better than those stress balls.
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Post by Phil on Apr 12, 2009 17:51:59 GMT -5
Changing the subject slightly. I find it most annoying when I get un-solicited assistance with a door. I don't ask for anything, yet I have to say thanks. If I needed help, I would ask. I am just fine with my own doors. Having to say thanks for nothing, gets old. I also have to add that when someone turns 65 they feel they are entitled to a handicap spot. I go to sporting events and it is a joke finding a spot with the room to get out of my vehicle. there done. The eldery get placards but have no idea that the stripes are not the parking spot. Either that or they're blind as a bat and park halfway in/halfway out of the spot so now 2 spots are useless. Or if all the spots are filled, they park on the lines and block me in. I see that all the time. I think they should get their own parking area where they only have to deal with themselves. ;D
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Post by amy on Apr 12, 2009 19:45:25 GMT -5
Changing the subject slightly. I find it most annoying when I get un-solicited assistance with a door. I don't ask for anything, yet I have to say thanks. If I needed help, I would ask. I am just fine with my own doors. Having to say thanks for nothing, gets old. What if a young woman such as myself held the door for you so that she could check you out? From your photos, I can say I would 100% hold the door for you. I get the door held for me a lot out of politeness and I hate it too. I also hate holding the door for people, but I always do it because I've actually been yelled at by some nasty bitches when I apparently let a door slam in their faces. Whatever, I'm just trying to avoid the drama. I wish we all lived in a world where we could slam the doors in each others faces and it was every person for themselves.
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Post by Claire on Apr 12, 2009 20:15:19 GMT -5
but yeah, it''s like telling a marine just back from iraq about the intense paintball battles you've been in. I love that analogy, Tri. What if a young woman such as myself held the door for you so that she could check you out? From your photos, I can say I would 100% hold the door for you. LOL, amy.
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