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Post by Triassic on Apr 14, 2009 18:19:46 GMT -5
i was wheeling up an inclined area in a mall once-not a steep incline. i was doing fine. an older man came up from behind and asked if i needed a push. i clearly said; 'no thanks. i've got it.' no matter. he pushed me the rest of the way up. i wasn't going to bitch him out, but then he came around, smiling and asked; 'you ok now?' i said; 'i was ok to begin with. when you ask if someone needs help and he says 'no thanks', that means he DOESNT NEED ANY HELP.' his face fell like he'd been sprayed with shit-mist, and he walks away.
was i right? technically, yes...but i dunno...
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Post by laurasweetou on Apr 15, 2009 10:39:13 GMT -5
OK I get this same thing with my fibromyalgia ALL the time (I'm sure AB can relate to this), I say my back really hurts or I'm super tired and people are all yeah me to... WTF?
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Post by E on Apr 15, 2009 11:06:39 GMT -5
OK I get this same thing with my fibromyalgia ALL the time (I'm sure AB can relate to this), I say my back really hurts or I'm super tired and people are all yeah me to... WTF? I'm tired... and my back hurts.
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Post by matisse on Apr 15, 2009 11:12:57 GMT -5
i was wheeling up an inclined area in a mall once-not a steep incline. i was doing fine. an older man came up from behind and asked if i needed a push. i clearly said; 'no thanks. i've got it.' no matter. he pushed me the rest of the way up. i wasn't going to bitch him out, but then he came around, smiling and asked; 'you ok now?' i said; 'i was ok to begin with. when you ask if someone needs help and he says 'no thanks', that means he DOESNT NEED ANY HELP.' his face fell like he'd been sprayed with sh*t-mist, and he walks away. was i right? technically, yes...but i dunno... Seems kinda harsh to me. I would save that for times when a person's "help" can actually cause serious problems, like dumping you off of your chair. In those situations, safety has to prevail. I do get a little snippy myself when people don't pay attention during the transferring and other stuff that needs to happen when I fly. It's not uncommon for me to tell someone to "let go" and they just keep holding me, preventing me from doing an adjustment. In that case, when I ask again, and I can't help but change my tone a little...........I have also had people on occasion swing my leg rest right into my leg.........
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Post by Phil on Apr 15, 2009 12:15:22 GMT -5
i was wheeling up an inclined area in a mall once-not a steep incline. i was doing fine. an older man came up from behind and asked if i needed a push. i clearly said; 'no thanks. i've got it.' no matter. he pushed me the rest of the way up. i wasn't going to bitch him out, but then he came around, smiling and asked; 'you ok now?' i said; 'i was ok to begin with. when you ask if someone needs help and he says 'no thanks', that means he DOESNT NEED ANY HELP.' his face fell like he'd been sprayed with sh*t-mist, and he walks away. was i right? technically, yes...but i dunno... That's intrusive, and that's different. Putting their hands on you when you made it clear you didn't want it (assuming his Miracle Ear was turned on, lol) crosses a very distinct line. Elderly are often just looking for points to get into Heaven, lol. My point was the silly act of holding a door. People get all worked up over it. I hold doors for AB's. It's no big deal.
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Post by roger888 on Apr 15, 2009 14:49:45 GMT -5
One time i was going into a shop & a woman opened the door for me,stopped & looked straight at me & told me I had the most beautiful eyes she had ever seen. was she hot? Yes ,she was quite an attractive 50 something ;D
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Post by Tweed on Apr 15, 2009 18:21:47 GMT -5
OK I get this same thing with my fibromyalgia ALL the time (I'm sure AB can relate to this), I say my back really hurts or I'm super tired and people are all yeah me to... WTF? Well, I suppose it must be bad if you're telling everyone you're "disabled" for a living.
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Post by cunning69guy on Apr 16, 2009 0:54:47 GMT -5
It's absolutely baffling to me how many people will just grab my handles and push me up an incline or into/through a crowd without asking when I'm in control and I need the exercise, but when I'm stubborn and prideful and stuck somewhere, people just look the other way and walk right past me as I fight to get unstuck!
And don't get me started on the drunks who come up to me and cling to my chair and sit and tell me what an inspiration it is to meet me and how they know someone in a chair, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Damn, I had a couple friends wind up in chairs years before me, and I realize now how judgmental or reckless I was with them at times in the past now that I'm living it, but I sure as hell hope I wasn't that way with strangers (I don't think I was and can't recall any instances thank God!).
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Post by roger888 on Apr 16, 2009 1:30:24 GMT -5
And don't get me started on the drunks who come up to me and cling to my chair and sit and tell me what an inspiration it is to meet me and how they know someone in a chair, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Yeah,I must have had drunks magnet attached to me recently.Why do they always try to shake your hand?Which gets ignored,you dont know where they have been!! Getting to the point where the next one that tries it is going to be told to f*** off.
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Post by Valkyrja on Apr 16, 2009 23:51:14 GMT -5
I had a wonderfull pregnancy but a really awfull Caesarean section, I was discharged (medically speaking) after 6 month of med care. I wanted a "natural delivery" so... I was in labor for 38 hs; it was 38 hs of excruciating pain, but... it couldn´t be. So, they took me to the OR. The caesarean use to be about 3.9in (10cm)... mine was 13.7in (35cm). Usually, they discharged women from the hospital at the second day... I was 15 days!!. Now, when friends and/or familly tell me "I know what it's like... when little Jonny born, I was 2 hs of labor... it was terrible!!!" LOL!!! I perfectly know that is not the same, but,,, I suppose the feeling is alike. When they try to compare I can´t avoid thinking: "WTF!!... are you serious!?... you cant be comparing the cases!!"
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Post by thegoodlife on Apr 17, 2009 0:32:19 GMT -5
It's absolutely baffling to me how many people will just grab my handles and push me up an incline or into/through a crowd without asking when I'm in control and I need the exercise, but when I'm stubborn and prideful and stuck somewhere, people just look the other way and walk right past me as I fight to get unstuck! And don't get me started on the drunks who come up to me and cling to my chair and sit and tell me what an inspiration it is to meet me and how they know someone in a chair, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Damn, I had a couple friends wind up in chairs years before me, and I realize now how judgmental or reckless I was with them at times in the past now that I'm living it, but I sure as hell hope I wasn't that way with strangers (I don't think I was and can't recall any instances thank God!). Two things, first in regards to the drunks who come up to you and tell you how inspirational you are to them, if it's a girl my replay is usally something along the lines of: "so what you're saying is you want to make out with me or not? Because I'm really getting mixed signals here"..that usually breaks the ice rather quickly, unless her boyfriends there, then it could result in broken otherthings. But you can simply add "I was joking, I really don't know how to reply to someone telling me I'm inspirational so I just turn it into an opportunity to flirt with a beautiful girl". I've never actually got to the latter part, but t he first part is usually well recieved unless they are so drunk they don't get the joke. Second, my friend has a rather funny story about the people who grab wheelchairs to push them up or down ramps. He was on campus one day and there was a particular troublesome ramp that was very steep. So he finally, after a lot of struggle makes it down the ramp safely. Usually you have to grab the railing for assistance and it progresses rather slowly. Anyways once he got down a lady do-gooder walking by decides to do her good deed for the day and push him back up the ramp, all the while praising herself, and saying loudly how she tries to help disabled people whenever she can and that she sympathises with us etc etc. My friend was trying to tell her to let the chair go but she was too busy talking about how politically active she was. Then she leaves him at the top of the ramp and proceeds inside leaving him to go all the way back down the ramp. So after another fifteen minutes of struggling with the ramp again, a group of people on the grass were laughing their asses off at the events they had just observed. One of the members of the group yells out, "hey! someone help that man, he's fallen down the ramp again!", hahaah it was kind of rude, but he had a good laugh about it at the bar later on.
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