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Post by irishclaire on Apr 26, 2009 3:14:26 GMT -5
Ok, something that's been drawn to my attention in one of the new threads....how many of you believe in love at first sight? My initial reaction is 'no' as I tend to be more of a lust-at-first-sight kinda gal! But maybe that's just because I haven't experienced it before. Am I alone in this?
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Post by Phil on Apr 26, 2009 15:24:17 GMT -5
I don't think it's possible. Lust? Absolutely. Love? I can't see how.
I think many people have a hard time telling the two apart.
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Post by Triassic on Apr 26, 2009 19:45:59 GMT -5
i must be surely one of the LEAST romantic guys ever...but yes, i do believe that 'love at first sight' really does happen. not often maybe, but sometimes. i think it's possible because, when we're open to it, when we want to; a HELL of a lot of information can be exchanged between two people in just a single glance lasting a few seconds...that is, two strangers can almost meet, get to know, and come to care deeply for each other almost instantly.
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Post by annie on Apr 26, 2009 20:11:43 GMT -5
I think the seed for love can be planted at first sight. Of course it needs to be fleshed out, but sometimes that instant "love" can be so intense that it actually hinders real, true love from forming. I definitely am a firm believer though, a real hopeless romantic.
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Post by Pony on Apr 26, 2009 20:30:08 GMT -5
Well, I'm with Phil on this...love takes MUCH more than a visual attraction!! If you believe in ;love at first sight', then aren't you saying love can only be a physical thang? Lust, definitely....I lust everyday of my life, but never fall in love with some girl I merely see. MY GOD, love takes MUCH more exploring, history, experiences!!
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Post by Ouch on Apr 26, 2009 21:51:51 GMT -5
I think it would depend on the definition of Love...for some that could be accomplished at first sight, for others, it may take a period of longer time.
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Post by annie on Apr 26, 2009 22:09:50 GMT -5
Like I said, it is not full blown love at first sight that I believe in so much. I suppose it is more like a predisposition to love at first sight. I definitely believe more than just lust at first sight is possible.
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Post by Valkyrja on Apr 26, 2009 23:04:34 GMT -5
I don´t believe in "love at first sight"... that's just attraction or lust, but not love.
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Post by faith on Apr 27, 2009 0:01:35 GMT -5
I also fall in the hopeless romantic column. I think on rare occasions there is an instant, immediate attraction that goes beyond lust. A connection of some kind that is deeper than looks or physical appearance. It wouldn't be the kind of love that involves history or experience, that all comes with commitment. And wouldn't it be wonderful to find someone in life and have both- love at first sight and true commitment.
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Post by roger888 on Apr 27, 2009 1:14:51 GMT -5
Love at first sight is possible,all depends on that chance meeting.Its best to believe in it because if you dont you might miss out if the opportunity comes your way.
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Post by Phil on Apr 27, 2009 11:49:51 GMT -5
To love (the undying once-in-forever love) someone, you need to know them. With me, there's also a respect factor. You can't tell much about a person from across a crowded room. You can see that precursor look they give you where they catch you looking and they respond in a positive way. And, lol, you can see lust if it's obvious enough. ;D But love?
I just don't believe you can run across someone in some chance meeting and hopelessly fall in love with them at the drop of a hat. I'd at least want to try to know something about her (like, if she has bodies buried in her backyard, lol).
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Post by Triassic on Apr 27, 2009 16:55:34 GMT -5
since reading the title of this thread, i've had ac/dc's 'love at first feel' going thru my head...
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Apr 28, 2009 7:34:40 GMT -5
I'm kind of on the fence, leaning toward yes, love at first sight exists. But I don't think that love alone will necessarily create a relationship or keep one going. I think that, in America, love is often viewed in unrealistic ways. It's expected to conquer all when, in reality (and my opinion), it takes consciousness and effort to make a relationship work. And I have great respect for the couples I know who are willing to invest that in their relationships. 0o0o0o, and I just watched a film that I very much enjoyed on this topic (kinda) called "How Will We Love?"
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Post by Ouch on Apr 28, 2009 8:59:38 GMT -5
I'm kind of on the fence, leaning toward yes, love at first sight exists. But I don't think that love alone will necessarily create a relationship or keep one going. I think that, in America, love is often viewed in unrealistic ways. It's expected to conquer all when, in reality (and my opinion), it takes consciousness and effort to make a relationship work. And I have great respect for the couples I know who are willing to invest that in their relationships. 0o0o0o, and I just watched a film that I very much enjoyed on this topic (kinda) called "How Will We Love?" Well I think love is an inspiration, and if people truly love one another, that inspiration should conquer all. Love is meaningless unless there is reinforcement to back it up to make it meaningful, and I think that is the very point of love.
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Post by Pony on Apr 28, 2009 12:06:58 GMT -5
WOW Windy, that was sooooo BEAUTIFUL that I got a little misty!! I think I love you...
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