zendog
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Post by zendog on Sept 12, 2013 22:31:22 GMT -5
I once rocked a mullet,lol
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2013 14:25:38 GMT -5
I did a pretty mean bowl cut with long rat tail as a kid. I'd look kinda creepy now if I did that. I was a tweener back then.
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Post by RyooT on Sept 13, 2013 14:59:57 GMT -5
Hmmm - No. Short hair - definitely short hair!!!
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wheelchairstud84
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Post by wheelchairstud84 on Sept 25, 2013 14:45:26 GMT -5
I'm just sort of ambivalent I guess I just perceive it as my own unique body not in a bad way or a particularly great way either. It just is what it is
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2014 11:25:08 GMT -5
How do I view my body? God that's an emotion provoking question. Honestly I hate it. It's pretty useless to me.
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lilyth
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Post by lilyth on Oct 6, 2014 22:33:40 GMT -5
zendog , that mullet was serious! You fully committed there! Loving it.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2018 4:07:27 GMT -5
As a C5/6 quad I have always tried to keep In good shape through sport, I have a good breath of shoulders and still retain some tone in my legs because of spasm What i can’t shake is the Quad belly because having no abdominals I can’t train it and I hate my closed hands, although they are good for gripping it still embarrasses me after 30 years that I can’t offer a decent hand shake I want to be viewed as a normal guy sat down
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hungryquad
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Post by hungryquad on Sept 13, 2018 11:52:57 GMT -5
As a C5/6 quad I have always tried to keep In good shape through sport, I have a good breath of shoulders and still retain some tone in my legs because of spasm What i can’t shake is the Quad belly because having no abdominals I can’t train it and I hate my closed hands, although they are good for gripping it still embarrasses me after 30 years that I can’t offer a decent hand shake I want to be viewed as a normal guy sat down The quad belly struggle is real lol
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Post by elbs on Sept 13, 2018 21:08:05 GMT -5
I know this wasn't aimed at me, but I actually did a presentation for my class on how my dyspraxia affects my body image.
Honestly, it makes me sad. It seems like most of you guys feel bad about your bodies. I wish the idea of disabilities as attractive was more mainstream. If you look at the stereotypical attractive features, you never see disabled people represented, or maybe rarely a really fit low para. (Who is probably played by a non-disabled actor anyway.)
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Post by Braced4Impact on Sept 13, 2018 21:59:24 GMT -5
There's a bit of a dichotomy when it comes to body image for me. When in the context of devs, I'm happy to show off my body, even proud of it, but when it comes to non-dev AB people, I'm embarrassed, bashful, and deflective when it comes to my body.
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Post by someonerandom on Sept 13, 2018 23:31:56 GMT -5
I perceive my body as being pretty sexy.
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Post by Hopper on Sept 15, 2018 2:04:25 GMT -5
A skeleton by any other name. A handsome one though, egregiously so. I like it's unconventional shape and how easily it can be distorted. And how surprisingly muscular it can look. But that's just me, how some other people perceive my body is a different story entirely. I'm not as weak or as feeble as I look, but people never really give me any time to prove them wrong. I'm also someone who adapts easily and again that can be quite a boost to one's confidence. But when some people only see a disability that means I'm 'stuck' with no room for improvement, it's a confidence that's hard to maintain for long.
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Klyde
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Post by Klyde on Sept 16, 2018 23:52:59 GMT -5
Nowadays I avoid mirrors and taking pictures When I do see myself all I see is someone who is weak and useless and needs someone to take care of him
I miss having big strong hands. Before my accident I used to be a working cowboy/wildland firefighter/heavy equipment operator. Now I have these soft hands and skinny fingers... I remember while I was cowboying most of my palms and fingers were callused. It seemed like every other day during the branding season they would crack open and I would use superglue to close them back up.
I don't feel comfortable at all in my body but I sure can fake it and act like I am
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Geo1
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Post by Geo1 on Oct 8, 2018 12:11:04 GMT -5
Having been in a chair for 35 years now I am pretty confortable in my own scarred up skin.However I have broken my big toe five times so I always wear socks to hide it .(lol) I think I am more handsome than I am but I chalk that up to self confidence. .QUOTE“Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see ...each other in life. Vanity, fear, desire, competition-- all such distortions within our own egos-- condition our vision of those in relation to us. Add to those distortions to our own egos the corresponding distortions in the egos of others, and you see how cloudy the glass must become through which we look at each other. That's how it is in all living relationships except when there is that rare case of two people who love intensely enough to burn through all those layers of opacity and see each other's naked hearts.” ― Tennessee Williams ZenDog. Thanks for the quote. I related to the many posts about mirrors. I avoid too. Pictures with me in it . So the perception of my body is not in line with that guy in the mirror. I guess that's why I avoid....I don't want the reality smack. I still have dreams of running and skiing. On another note. What's up with the hair loss comments? Shift over to the dark side. Head Blade. I am NOT going bald. My shiny head is a Choice NOT a condition. I choose to shave those 3 hairs EVERY morning.
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Mister_S
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Post by Mister_S on Oct 8, 2018 12:27:10 GMT -5
Coming late to this thread, but being newly injured here’s my answer: I see my body in two different ways, generally related to my overall psychological state on a given day.
When I’m feeling positive and hopeful I see my body as a new set of challenges, like being given the opportunity to live in a new body for the second half of my life. My upper body is stronger and more beautiful than it’s ever been. I have muscle definition and strength that I personally find beautiful and sexy. My lower body is atrophying before my eyes. I used to be so proud of my legs. Big, thick, strong. I was athletic and a fast runner. Now they look like they belong to someone else, like appendages I’ve been tasked to carry around with me. And they are shrinking and limp.
On bad days my body just looks broken, and I feel the loss of my former self very keenly. Those days are hard, and they are generally precipitated my bad nerve pain, so my body feels like the enemy.
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