littlesparkle
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I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Nov 15, 2014 4:37:27 GMT -5
Ok I told him I would go. Wish me luck
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littlesparkle
New Member
I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Nov 15, 2014 9:16:06 GMT -5
He asked me if I want to spend the day together tomorrow. He needs to buy a gift for his friend, so we're going to do some shopping, then take his dog to the park and then go back to his place for some take away and maybe watch a movie. I've never been to his place before so it's going to be interesting. I'm feeling a little more comfortable now with the idea that maybe he does like me a bit. I think the fact that we've been talking and texting helps but I still get super nervous before I see him. It's funny when you have this idea of a person you're attracted to in your mind not knowing if they would be the same when you actually meet them, well he definitely is even better than I expected. I still have the whole dev issue at the back of my mind all the time and I'm trying to think of a way to let him know but I am very scared. Maybe I'll mention my ex in conversation. This is so frustrating
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2014 9:24:04 GMT -5
Good for you! I think you may have regretted it if you'd have said no. Remember he may be just as nervous as you. After all, you're meeting all HIS friends. He may be thinking "what if Mike drinks too much and starts acting like an ass? Or what if Steve brings his awful girlfriend again? Or what if John forgets he's not at the frat house and burps and farts all night long?" Who knows what he may be nervous about. Of course he may not be nervous at all, he may be too excited about showing you off!
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Nov 15, 2014 10:18:42 GMT -5
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 15, 2014 10:18:42 GMT -5
^^^^ The group I spend time with on New Year's Eve includes a dude who has a "Humping the Ottoman" stage of drunkenness.
I kid you not.
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Nov 15, 2014 14:57:15 GMT -5
Post by dolly on Nov 15, 2014 14:57:15 GMT -5
the whole "dev-reveal" thing is super stressful for me, too. and it can really suck some of the joy out of the fun initial stage of getting to know the guy. try not to let it!! i think it's a good idea to tell him early on, but i don't think it has to be *right* away, especially since in this case he has been pursuing your attentions at least equally. let him get to know you a bit better first and have some fun with it. you also have such a good possibility for him to bring up the topic after the "putting his chair together" incident. i would suggest (when it happens) to stay away from the dev word and the complexities of your feelings around it, just saying that you are particularly attracted to guys in chairs...or something similar... is enough i think.) anyway, for this weekend i hope you can just relax a bit and enjoy. this really *is* like a fairy tale to some of us who are following the developments vicariously! meeting a wheeler in a natural habitat! one that you like, and who likes you back! already you are so ahead of the odds with this guy. good luck, have fun, and please keep us posted!
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Post by faith on Nov 16, 2014 6:56:33 GMT -5
Instead of using the dev word outright you could just mention you find him super attractive.... and that the chair thing actually adds to that, making it intriguing and exciting. I guess what I am saying you can tell him how you feel without using the label that has been given to us... he'll get it without using the "D" word. And it may be easier for you to explain. This is so exciting!
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Post by Dreamer5678 on Nov 16, 2014 7:06:20 GMT -5
Good luck with the party...its going to be fine and once it's over you're going to wonder what all your fussing was about. Your guy sounds like a real catch!!!
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littlesparkle
New Member
I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Nov 16, 2014 8:25:18 GMT -5
It's past midnight and I just got back from his place. I had an amazing day and for all of you wondering, I told him about my attraction, well sort of and he was very cool about it. In fact it didn't seem to bother him at all but I'm not sure he really understood what I meant, he might have intepreted it differently. But I'll fill you in tomorrow cos it's been a long day and I'm heading off to bed. But I can't stop smiling and yes we kissed for the first time and feeling his arms around me, it was amazing, I got butterflies all over. Haven't felt this way in a long time
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Post by mwin on Nov 16, 2014 8:44:44 GMT -5
Yay! Sounds like an amazing day and night! I think it's great that you've mentioned your attraction. Even if you don't feel he fully understood, at least it's out there and you don't have to feel like you're hiding anything or deceiving anyone. Excited to hear more details of how you broached it!
Really happy for you that it all went so well
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Nov 16, 2014 17:37:31 GMT -5
Post by eva on Nov 16, 2014 17:37:31 GMT -5
I love the first kiss! Always.
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Nov 17, 2014 6:41:23 GMT -5
Post by Dreamer5678 on Nov 17, 2014 6:41:23 GMT -5
That's so amazing!!! Happy that you're having such an awesome experience
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littlesparkle
New Member
I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Nov 17, 2014 7:26:54 GMT -5
Here's how the day went... I drove to his house just before noon and left my car there. We then took his car cos it's easier for him and went to one of the malls close to his house. We drove around the car park for at least 20 mins and couldn't find a free disabled spot and it was getting frustrating, so we decided to go get some lunch and come back when it's less busy. We went to this cafe/restaurant not too far from his house, it was located near the coast so the view was amazing. It was a really beautiful day, nice and warm. We both had some delicious fish and chips and we talked mostly about our jobs and his dog! At some point, all I could think of was whether this was the right time to tell him about my attraction or not, and he must have noticed it. My mind was elsewhere when he asked me if everything was ok, cos I suddenly got very quiet. So I said there is something I need to tell him...he was more curious than worried. So I took a deep breath, here we go, it's now or never. I asked him if he remember the chair incident, and he said yes he was very impressed. So I said, well I knew how to do it because I've done it before, many times. So he asked me if someone close to me uses a wheelchair...and I said, not anymore but used to. And I said well, my ex-bf was a quadriplegic too and he used a manual chair as well. And without pausing I said that I think guys in chairs are sexy and I think you are. And I waited....for the big crash. But it didn't happen. He looked at me, smiled and he said...is that what you were worried about? I said yeah, I don't want you to think bad of me. And he laughed and said "if anything, I think you are amazing. You have no idea how many times I've been told that my wheelchair is a dealbreaker and here you are telling me you find me sexy and I'm supposed to be upset?". I said, well I don't know, I was hoping you wouldn't be upset. And he gave me a big hug and whispered to me... "I'm happy I am here with you". So there it is, I told him, I'm not sure if he really understood..but it's out there. I do feel a lot better, like a big weight lifted off my shoulders. After that conversation, the waitress brought over our dessert, we ordered a huge piece of lemon meringue pie which we shared. Again I couldn't stop thinking how handsome and sexy he is, the way he moves and talks and his gestures. And I couldn't believe this was happening. As we left, we stopped to look at the beautiful view of the coastline. He said we should make use of this nice weather and take a pic. I thought he meant a selfie, but he obviously had other ideas. He asked this older couple who was walking past if they would please take out picture and handed them his phone. I felt a little awkward not knowing where to stand, so I casually stood next to him and placed my hand around his shoulders. But then he said "sit on my lap" and next thing I know I feel his arm around my waist pulling down. Before I could think, the guy had already taken our photo! So in the pic it looks like I'm halfway on his lap. We tried to check if it came out ok but the sun was way too bright and with the glare, we couldn't see anything, so we hoped it turned out ok. We then left for the mall, it was less crowded and managed to find a spot. It was nice just being there with him, it felt like we were 'together'. Now I don't know if it's me, but I felt like every other girl was checking him out, almost as if they were wondering if we were together or just friends. But maybe it's just my mind playing tricks and making me paranoid. He ended up getting a nice shirt and a gift voucher for his friend. We then headed to his place, and we picked up his dog and went to the park. By then it wasn't as hot as before, so it was nice just sitting there and just enjoy the company. We talked some more, he told me about his last relationship. His ex-gf left for a job in Canada and they tried to do the long distance relationship but it failed when she met someone else there. He said he was really heartbroken at first but then realized maybe it wasn't meant to be. They broke up 2yrs ago and he hasn't been in a relationship since, although he has been dating on and off. At one point, we got really quiet and I caught him staring at me...and I smiled. That's when he placed his arm around me and pulled me closer. Next thing I know, we were kissing. It felt amazing. I couldn't stop smiling after this. After a couple of hours, we went back to his place and ordered some food. We watched a bit of tv together, we didn't end up watching any movie cos we were too busy kissing some more So that was my night, we didn't do anything more, I don't want to rush things, it felt nice and I don't want to spoil it. So I went home around 11pm. I won't be seeing him next week as he's flying interstate tomorrow for a work project, so next time will most likely be for his friend's birthday. I miss him already. Here's the pic we took, it's not the best one but we couldn't really see how it turned out until afterwards. And it was taken a bit far away. But since you have all been so supportive I wanted to share it with you. I probably won't leave it on for long as I don't like posting personal pics in public forums.
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littlesparkle
New Member
I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Nov 17, 2014 7:56:51 GMT -5
Aww thanks Ink. I hope you are right. I'm so happy but i don't want to get overly excited cos we're not officially a couple, it's still very new. But I'm hoping it works out.
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Post by dolly on Nov 17, 2014 14:29:01 GMT -5
you know that old saying about "if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is"...?
well, it was brought to the moderators' attention that the photo littlesparkle shared with us from her date with "dan" was actually stolen from another person's blog, from a post made in 2013.
so i guess it really was a fairy tale, folks...
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 17, 2014 14:46:52 GMT -5
Sigh. Why wasn't the fiction blog enough? It really would've been a great story there.
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