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Post by Emma on Mar 24, 2015 21:38:22 GMT -5
Ok so a friend of mine posted this on FB and I had to look at the link because it always fascinates me to learn what non-dev women think is attractive in a guy. www.buzzfeed.com/niaalavezos/older-men-that-will-make-you-weak-in-the-knees?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgp#.frV1voNDLI do find AB guys hot but only in a somewhat sexual way, I'm just not as turned on by AB guys. As a teen I was obsessed with celebrities and had the typical posters of them covering my bedroom walls. As I got older I realized I was very particular in who I found attractive and that made dating AB guys tough because finding a guy I though was super hot in the small city I lived was next to impossible. 4, 5, 6, 9, 15, 17, 22, and 25 were the guys my friends' friends responded were hot. I voted for 7, 15, 21, and 25. I know there have been threads about this before and Brace has a somewhat similar thread in general now. I thought it would be interesting to discuss our attraction to AB's vs disabled guys and talking in terms of celebrities can simplify things. For me, if a guy is the type of amputee I like, his other features become more attractive to me. I guess in general my standards for a disabled guy are different. Do the rest of you feel the same? |
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Post by blueskye101 on Mar 24, 2015 23:50:25 GMT -5
My picks are 5,6,10,13,18,and 20. Have always loved Viggo.  |
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Post by eva on Mar 25, 2015 3:57:06 GMT -5
I vote for 28 (Liam), 5 (Downey Jr.) and 13 Javier Bardem, whom I love, especially in "Live Flesh"  |
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Post by eva on Mar 25, 2015 6:08:19 GMT -5
For me, if a guy is the type of amputee I like, his other features become more attractive to me. I guess in general my standards for a disabled guy are different. Do the rest of you feel the same? I really get what you're saying. I don't think my standards are entirely different, but a man in a wheelchair definitely grabs my attention more than any AB. And, if I'm somewhat attracted, I might start looking for that little something that's going to make him more attractive to me. I wouldn't do that with an AB. |
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Post by kivic on Mar 25, 2015 10:48:31 GMT -5
Interesting choice of men. I'll play!
Djimon Hounsou
Daniel Dae Kim
Pierce Brrosnan
Javier Bardem
Brad Pitt
George Clooney
According to a Dev friend, I am bidevual, as in I am attracted to both AB and PWD. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Obvious looks and physique are big attractors but also depth of character and intelligence play a big role. Moral value is also a big one for me. Initial physical attractions lead into stronger emotional attractions which is what gives me a firmer sense of "holy f**k, I'm hot for you! Let's get it on!"
This is true for AB and PWD, albeit hard to find in both.
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Post by Cake on Mar 25, 2015 11:43:57 GMT -5
Bardem, Pitt, Downey, Clooney. I'm like Kivic, like both ABs and PWDs. As for what makes a guy attractive for me, it's hard to put in a nutshell. All I can say is, with AB men I'm not extremely particular in my preferences, if I find a guy sexy, I find him sexy. It's a certain kind of aura that intrigues me I guess. Now here's what's really, really strange: I'm MUCH more particular in my taste when it comes to wheelers. I have like ONE type I find really attractive as a whole, and with the rest it's more like "the disability is hot, but the rest is meh". Maybe that's why I prefer to make my own fantasies and like to use certain AB guys as fantasy-para material. I think that's so weird. I have yet to meet a dev who's the same way.
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Post by Emma on Mar 25, 2015 14:53:13 GMT -5
Bidevual is an interesting term. I think its hard as a dev to really know what you want when you can be attracted to AB guys. For me I think generic attraction is one thing and sexual attraction is another. I never really understood being sexually attracted to someone until I was with my husband who also was the first amputee I had sex with. I thought I was sexually attracted to the very hot AB's I dated however didn't realize why I was not so into sex with them until afterwards. Back then I actually thought there was something wrong with me because I didn't understand why I was so disinterested in sex compared to my partners and other women.
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Post by kivic on Mar 25, 2015 15:17:20 GMT -5
Bidevual is an interesting term. I think its hard as a dev to really know what you want when you can be attracted to AB guys. Hard to know what you want in terms of....? I've certainly always known what I DON'T want and, really, have retained my dev attractions throughout my life from teen to adulthood. I think it depends on the woman and how in touch she is with her needs and desires, what priorities she has in a relationship/partner, what she will and will not compromise on. |
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Post by tori on Mar 26, 2015 14:53:50 GMT -5
Ooh fun. I'm game. 28/25/23/20/18/7/6/5
Honorable mention not on the list:
Eric Dane
Jim Caviezel
Joe Manganiello (SWOON - that body)
Patrick Stewart (he just DOES something for me in a really odd way, and his younger photos are just as hot)
Sam Elliott (that voice...oh that voice)
I could go on, but I won't. I like AB men as well. They don't HAVE to be disabled for me to be into them. I attribute it to how some men may prefer brunettes over red-heads, however does that mean they wouldn't find a redhead hot?
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Post by Emma on Mar 26, 2015 16:12:40 GMT -5
Bidevual is an interesting term. I think its hard as a dev to really know what you want when you can be attracted to AB guys. Hard to know what you want in terms of....? I've certainly always known what I DON'T want and, really, have retained my dev attractions throughout my life from teen to adulthood. I think it depends on the woman and how in touch she is with her needs and desires, what priorities she has in a relationship/partner, what she will and will not compromise on. I meant it's hard to know if you want to be with an AB or put in the effort to try and find a disabled guy. In my experience, those two types of partner searches are very different. When I was single I struggled with which to focus more on. Sorry to be unclear. |
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Post by Emma on Mar 26, 2015 20:51:39 GMT -5
LOL the only one who makes me sick is Irrfan Kahn. Ugh those eyes.
Sorry Inky I do think Pierce Brosnan is hot.
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Post by lpoc on Mar 26, 2015 21:36:28 GMT -5
Well the hot guys for me would be:
20 - Viggo Mortensen
18 - Daniel Craig
13 - Javier Bardem
7 - Brad Pitt
6 - Hugh Jackman (Wolverine)
5 - Robert Downey Jr.
4 - George Clooney
Nice game!!!
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Post by Emma on Mar 26, 2015 22:25:23 GMT -5
I'm curious for those of you who participated in the game where do you stand on the disabled guys vs AB guys? I guess I'm asking specifically about how the disabled guys you find attractive compare to the AB guys you find attractive. I know some of you have already answered this question but I noticed many of you didn't.
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Post by lacey on Mar 27, 2015 5:40:10 GMT -5
Well I'm utterly not into AB guys....they gotta have a disability or, share our ism for me to have any interest at all in a physical way. That said, I do find Ralph Finnes, Robert Downey Jr., George Clooney and Gary Oldman absolutely wonderous to behold and observe. I think that has more to do with an appeal they have for me on an intellectual level rather than just the purely physical look.
I tend to go for more geeky type of disabled men due to my extreme weakness for intellectuals.....swoon.
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Post by jrm on Mar 27, 2015 12:55:07 GMT -5
I found several of the guys on the list to be quite attractive, but some not at all. Amazing how everyone's definition of what makes a person attractive is different, isn't it? I find that my standards of who is attractive are different between AB and DA men. Honestly, the wheels make a guy so much more attractive that I find a wheeler attractive when I wouldn't think he was if he were AB.
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