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Post by lisa on Oct 20, 2017 12:58:01 GMT -5
Welcome back, lilyth! I'm really happy for you! It's certainly a great feeling to be able to be totally open and to experience so much acceptance and interest to satisfy your dev feelings.
I just checked what I wrote back when we first discussed this and I think my answer is still right. I am still talking with my SO about my devness and after some years he has a pretty good grasp on my preferences as a dev. When we see a disabled guy out in public, he can usually say quite quickly whether the guy would be attractive to me. Well, there is still this thing that I do have dev desires that aren't that easily satisfied in a relationship with an AB guy. I usually am pretty happy with shoving this stuff into my fantasy world. But when I recently started to talk to a disabled guy more than just a few lines, I also noticed how different it can be to have someone in your life who can relate to the whole dev talk more.
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Post by straycatsnperiodpads on Oct 21, 2017 10:31:54 GMT -5
When we see a disabled guy out in public, he can usually say quite quickly whether the guy would be attractive to me. Just curious, are you considering the fact that he might act differently in a sexual context or is it not relevant? It's been quite hard for me to tell in some cases unless I see the guy getting frisky because it can be an 180 degree turn to how he normally is. On top of it, prosthetics aren't normally noritceable when someone is fully clothed so having no visual factors can add to the confusion.
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Post by lisa on Oct 23, 2017 13:49:38 GMT -5
Well, it's mostly just about which kind of disabilities I find most interesting (and which subtypes). I think my boyfriend can tell that and just figures that if it's a guy and he is about our age, he could be attractive to me. I don't need to see disabled guys in a sexual context to be aroused, everyday stuff is much more interesting to me. Not sure whether this answers your question?
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Post by straycatsnperiodpads on Oct 24, 2017 12:14:11 GMT -5
Well, it's mostly just about which kind of disabilities I find most interesting (and which subtypes). I think my boyfriend can tell that and just figures that if it's a guy and he is about our age, he could be attractive to me. I don't need to see disabled guys in a sexual context to be aroused, everyday stuff is much more interesting to me. Not sure whether this answers your question? So as long as the everyday stuff is there, the way he acts can't make it or break it? People have different ways of. Erm. Being in sexual contexts if it makes sense and sometimes it resonates with me, sometimes it doesn't.
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Post by lisa on Oct 28, 2017 14:20:10 GMT -5
Well, there are of course other factors besides looking at him doing everyday stuff. I just meant that I don't necessarily find it more appealing to see the guy naked ;-). Anyway, I don't have much experience in being in sexual contexts with a disabled guy, so most of it is a lot more what I like to watch on Youtube than what I have confirmed in a real life experience.
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Post by straycatsnperiodpads on Oct 28, 2017 16:17:16 GMT -5
Well, there are of course other factors besides looking at him doing everyday stuff. I just meant that I don't necessarily find it more appealing to see the guy naked ;-). Anyway, I don't have much experience in being in sexual contexts with a disabled guy, so most of it is a lot more what I like to watch on Youtube than what I have confirmed in a real life experience. Nonono, sexual behaviour doesn't equal "naked". I mean the guy's sexuality. The way he talks or touches you, stuff like that. Everyone's sexuality is different. Like a fingerprint. And it can push all the right buttons or it can leave you underwhelmed, depending on the person.
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