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Post by Celaena on Jan 16, 2016 20:08:41 GMT -5
That's a fair assessment. So, out of curiosity, Deeva, I know you're looking for an NSA relationship, but if you hit it off with the PWD in question, do you see it blossoming from there, or is this strictly NSA? Guys- sorry for this and I feel REALLY stupid. What does NSA mean in this context? I'm assuming it doesn't mean National Security Agency or have anything to do with Edward Snowden... Perhaps I've been out of the dating pool for too long, but I'm fine with that. From my end, I've never used any online dating sites, but my friend did meet her now husband from my suggestion to go to Craigslist. I know @mrniceguy has tried that with little luck, but that is really all I have in the way of suggestions. I have some sarcastic suggestions for meeting someone, but I doubt any of my fellow devs would be creepy enough to find local PWD sporting group and create an elaborate backstory about coming to your nephew's SPORTSBALL game and just stumbling onto their practice/game/meet/whatever while wearing a teeny mini skirt, a top that is just a size too small and just as little too low cut, and heels and then accidentally falling into the PWD of your choice's lap. :-P An aside... Braced- I dig your Wash avatar. He was always my favorite after Dr. Sexy Simon.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Jan 16, 2016 20:25:26 GMT -5
NSA=No Strings Attached
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Jan 16, 2016 20:25:37 GMT -5
That's a fair assessment. So, out of curiosity, Deeva, I know you're looking for an NSA relationship, but if you hit it off with the PWD in question, do you see it blossoming from there, or is this strictly NSA? Guys- sorry for this and I feel REALLY stupid. What does NSA mean in this context? I'm assuming it doesn't mean National Security Agency or have anything to do with Edward Snowden... LOL, I was just as lost and was thinking the same as you at first. I was imagining a sneaky and stalking dev until I realized that's not what they meant and gave it a second thought. I think it means "no strings attached". EDIT: Darn it! A few seconds too late...
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Post by Tommy on Jan 17, 2016 16:50:20 GMT -5
EDIT: Darn it! A few seconds too late... It's not easy to beat Inigo Montoya ... and yes, without ud I would be lost all the time.
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Post by lucretia on Jan 19, 2016 19:20:29 GMT -5
I just got rid of my OKCupid account after a few months and a handful of non-responses. I didn't include the words "wheelchair" or "disabled" though. Right now I'm giving Plenty of Fish a whirl, so I'll add those keywords in order to help my quest. Has anyone else tried that one? My experience with POF seemed to boil down to picking the lesser evil of a bad bunch. None of my friends who've used it had any luck, either. It just seemed to attract the kind of person unwilling to put effort into anything. *shrug* A pay-for-use service at least winnows out the laziest of the lazy, the deadbeatiest of the deadbeats. In my humble, outdated, opinion. It's been over five years since I looked there....
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Post by guyonwheels19 on Jan 19, 2016 23:01:55 GMT -5
So this gay guy I met on kik is staking me, I talked to him about his gayness and I said I am in favor of gay rights and made it very clear that I am heterosexual. He said I was cute witch I was okay with up until. He made a fake kik account of a girl who wanted nude pics and I just stop talking to him. But now he stalked me on okcupid, made to accounts. What a creep!!
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Post by Hopper on Jan 20, 2016 13:24:29 GMT -5
You've reported the guy, I hope. Predators like that are why I'm so cautious about these things. See, even friendly conversation can give out the wrong signals to the wrong person.
Hope you get this sorted fella.
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Post by Sir Paul on Jan 20, 2016 14:51:47 GMT -5
My experience with POF seemed to boil down to picking the lesser evil of a bad bunch. None of my friends who've used it had any luck, either. It just seemed to attract the kind of person unwilling to put effort into anything. *shrug* A pay-for-use service at least winnows out the laziest of the lazy, the deadbeatiest of the deadbeats. In my humble, outdated, opinion. It's been over five years since I looked there.... That's been my experience so far. PoF has more in common with Tinder than OKCupid - very shallow. If you would have hung on for five more years, you would have found me though. Quitter.
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Post by disabledguy94 on Jan 20, 2016 22:16:26 GMT -5
So I’ve had an OkCpuid account for about a year and a half and have had zero luck. I haven’t found any dev’s on it at all and I’ve only talked to a handful of other girls and only went on one date (which is the only one I’ve ever been on btw) that went terribly. I’ve gotten to the point that I think online dating is useless. It’s a catch .22 though, I live out in the middle of nowhere so it’s not like I can just stroll down the street to a bar or anything and I can’t drive to one either. So I’m stuck either giving up entirely or keep trying to do online dating and it making me feel rather depressed quite often.
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Post by Kela on Jan 21, 2016 2:30:00 GMT -5
I am on both OKCupid and POF and have been for over a year and a bit. I even committed to a subscription to Eharmony. I have also had zero luck. I feel that it could be A) my location being in Scotland so not only is Britain pretty small but Scotlands population is even smaller and B) My age, now I could easily be wrong and honestly i hope that I am. But as deeva (above) says it's hard for a guy on these sights to find dev or dev like women on them. So that and my age in mind and from what I have read on other posts etc. I also don't feel that a dev in my age range would even approach me to begin with. Online dating is rather difficult but also one of my best options simply because going out meeting is more difficult for me I find because I basically have to be out with someone (Due to arms tiring etc. when out driving)
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Post by Hopper on Jan 21, 2016 6:30:49 GMT -5
OKCupid is not too bad, I'm surprised that I've been able to chat to one girl in particular for so long.
Nothing against her at all, she's lovely and we've become fast friends but the idea that the opening message I sent her, which was a light-hearted list of how I fit into her own list of preferences has lead on to us talking daily for just over a month now is something I never expected.
At the moment things are flirty yet platonic and slow in pace which is fine. Rushing things like this isn't smart at all.
Still curious about POF, maybe I'll give it a whirl.
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Post by Maurine on Jan 21, 2016 6:45:35 GMT -5
I met my bf on a dis dating site. We found each other almost immediately, but I guess I was just lucky. Most people I came across there were very strange, but in a bad way, and also in various different ways. Online dating is easier for women than for men, but my bf still had luck with it. He met one of his exes on there, too, and he went on a couple of dates or had some NSA going on with women he met online, some of whom were probably devs.
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Post by devogirl on Jan 21, 2016 7:39:15 GMT -5
I was on several dis dating sites 10-15 years ago, so maybe things have changed. There were not enough members to make it really work. Even though I was in a major city, there were hardly any guys in my age range nearby. I met a blind guy I think on whispers4u and we dated for a few months but it didn't work out.
Even though I didn't have a problem with pretenders, I kept getting messages from guys with back pain or learning disabilities. If I politely explained I wasn't interested, I would get hostile, angry replies insisting that they were also disabled and I should be more open-minded.
I also used the "regular" dating sites a lot, mainly OkCupid, and went on a ton of shitty dates with AB guys. I met one deaf guy through OkCupid, actually he contacted me. But by the second or third date he revealed major anger issues so that was the end of that.
I was always a big proponent of online dating but in the end I met my husband at work through a group of mutual friends, so make of that what you will. I guess it's just best to keep all options open, online or IRL.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2016 19:52:54 GMT -5
So I’ve had an OkCpuid account for about a year and a half and have had zero luck. I haven’t found any dev’s on it at all and I’ve only talked to a handful of other girls and only went on one date (which is the only one I’ve ever been on btw) that went terribly. I’ve gotten to the point that I think online dating is useless. It’s a catch .22 though, I live out in the middle of nowhere so it’s not like I can just stroll down the street to a bar or anything and I can’t drive to one either. So I’m stuck either giving up entirely or keep trying to do online dating and it making me feel rather depressed quite often. If it makes you depressed then drop it. Online dating should be just one of many tools.. if its your only one I can understand why it would get depressing. BY IT'S VERY NATURE it's very shallow and superficial. I've had some success with it (never tried until after the injury)... AND there are a dev or two on it from this board.. so there's got to be more devs out there on it. But with this type of injury your strongest asset is an interesting mind and engaging personality.... Having a decent looking mug doesn't hurt either.. and from your avatar... I'm secure enough to say that you do. *no homo*.. Something that worked as a "hook" was a clever, quirky or humorous one liner followed by.... guaranteed you spend 5 minutes chatting with me and you'll be swiping right. Just a thought. Look.. bottom line.. It should be just a tool. AND don't expect girls to go out of their way to talk to you. Minus the dev unicorns the reality is the injury is another obstacle/impediment to attracting most AB girls. I mean let's be honest.. before I was injured.. I never considered dating a wheeler girl (1. Because I never knew any... BUT 2. Given how active I was.. it would have taken time and a bad ass person to hook me into that.) Don't feel entitle either.. no chick likes that. Just have fun with it.. if it's causing you that much angst.. get rid of it... and join social friend groups.. there are sites geared around common interests, sports... etc.. Just gotta turn into a google "Ranger". Best o luck... and may the odds grow more in your favor. The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time. -Mark Twain
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Post by Hopper on Jan 23, 2016 9:50:18 GMT -5
Yeah, it's a shame that some people appear to use internet dating as their only option. Sure, it's a good stepping stone and for people like me who, say about a year ago, had no self esteem or confidence to m'name, it's a good way to give yourself a boost by discovering good qualities about yourself that you are unaware existed.
On the other hand, resorting to internet dating alone may severely limit one's options and makes us unaware of the bigger picture, so whilst I recommend using internet dating, never see it as the sole option.
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