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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2016 15:02:13 GMT -5
I don't spot attractive wheelers that often, but when I do, I smile in their direction if possible. I hope that people can tell apart a pitying and a desiring smile. I've tried the flirty smile approach as well, but I've only got weird looks in return maybe that's a hint that I should work on my flirty smile.. or that I shouldn't try flirty smiling when dressed up for fantasy events AngelsFallFirst I honestly don't think there's anything you can do differently. It's no secret that you're breathtakingly gorgeous. Guys will always be at least somewhat intimidated by that. PWD and AB alike. Like, "why would she be interested in me?"
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Post by wheelieInCali on May 5, 2016 15:07:52 GMT -5
Girls girls girls. It's still difficult for me to believe that women don't understand the power of their gender. Men will put up with almost anything from the opposite sex without complaint. Don't misunderstand, I'm not saying that I put up with you, I just mean in general. I'm sure I speak for my entire gender when I say that when it comes to female strangers, I at least want to be polite, at most want them to desire my company. Forget your emotions and think logically, if a random wheeler in the wild catches you, what is the worst that will happen?
Guys, give up. Catching a dev in the wild is all on her and where she is in her journey. I have one interaction however. I was on the bus to/from school years back and I met a young black guy less than a year into his injury. The first year post-injury is hardest and conversation is almost an obligation between SCI guys of differing experience levels. I talked with the guy trying to feel out his situation when I noticed the cute girl with him. She was shadowing him for assistance I assume but whenever I made eye contact with her, she would give me a huge smile and literally look me up and down. I had a girlfriend at the time so I didn't offer my number or anything but wow! I hope I run into her again.
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Post by Experimentalist on May 5, 2016 15:32:03 GMT -5
Girls girls girls. It's still difficult for me to believe that women don't understand the power of their gender. Men will put up with almost anything from the opposite sex without complaint. Don't misunderstand, I'm not saying that I put up with you, I just mean in general. I'm sure I speak for my entire gender when I say that when it comes to female strangers, I at least want to be polite, at most want them to desire my company. Forget your emotions and think logically, if a random wheeler in the wild catches you, what is the worst that will happen? He's right, you really can get away with a lot. Remember, guys in general aren't used to intrusive behavior like from women like cat calling, whistling, groping and such so we don't really have defence mechanisms for that. Our natural instinct is to be friendly and at worst uninterested. If you every want to get chatting with a guy in public (though I'm hearing that many of you are terrified to) then almost any intro will do - 'nice shirt', 'nice chair', asking for directions. If you're in a shop, ask for his opinion on something you're buying. If he's keen he should help the conversation along from there. If not it'll only be a minute or so before the situation has passed. There is nothing to worry about I know many will disagree about that last line because you get extra nervous when you see a cute disabled guy, etc. I get it That's why we need the training camp, see?
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Post by matisse on May 5, 2016 15:35:58 GMT -5
I don't spot attractive wheelers that often, but when I do, I smile in their direction if possible. I hope that people can tell apart a pitying and a desiring smile. I've tried the flirty smile approach as well, but I've only got weird looks in return maybe that's a hint that I should work on my flirty smile.. or that I shouldn't try flirty smiling when dressed up for fantasy events We can usually identify a pitying smile. But it would be tough to distinguish between just a regular friendly smile and a flirting smile, unless the flirting smile is accompanied by some other behavior like in WheelinCali's example above. MNG speak for yourself on that one!!! Hot girls don't intimidate me, even when I was on the market so many parsecs ago ago...... [Intentionally using the Star Wars meaning of parsec..... }
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Post by matisse on May 5, 2016 15:45:26 GMT -5
Guys, give up. Catching a dev in the wild is all on her and where she is in her journey. Randomly, yes. But non-randomly, just go volunteer at a rehab clinic or volunteer/play in wheelchair sporting events and there will be some around.
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Post by Quadfather on May 5, 2016 15:51:18 GMT -5
I got to see Nitro circus last fall where Bruce Cook got to make his triumphant return to the show in our home province of BC. It was beyond incredible.
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Post by gshotta on May 5, 2016 16:48:20 GMT -5
I have seen Bruce do this to at the 02 London
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Post by lacey on May 7, 2016 7:04:05 GMT -5
Pity we didn't bump into one another Experimentalist, I'm in the UK. I would have undoubtedly found an excuse to say hello. The reason being is I pass for the most conventional looking middle aged woman of all time. It's a great disguise Anyway, so glad you've taken to viewing the world that little bit differently.
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Post by Experimentalist on May 7, 2016 15:54:42 GMT -5
Pity we didn't bump into one another Experimentalist, I'm in the UK. I would have undoubtedly found an excuse to say hello. Hehe, maybe next time lacey It's a small set of islands.
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Post by mags0528 on May 11, 2016 0:39:47 GMT -5
One time, ONE time, I used to go to this gym where there was this para guy that I had seen a couple of times. And one day, I just went for it and gave him the "I wanna fuck you look," with a friendly smile and a hello. He looked kind of bewildered? Confused? Bemused? Who am I kidding, maybe just creeped out. I realy don't know. I honestly didn't care, I just had to do it. No regrets, it was like for any other guy that gets me going!
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on May 11, 2016 3:42:32 GMT -5
I've tried the flirty smile approach as well, but I've only got weird looks in return maybe that's a hint that I should work on my flirty smile.. or that I shouldn't try flirty smiling when dressed up for fantasy events AngelsFallFirst I honestly don't think there's anything you can do differently. It's no secret that you're breathtakingly gorgeous. Guys will always be at least somewhat intimidated by that. PWD and AB alike. Like, "why would she be interested in me?" Breathtakingly Gorgeous, I'll admit that made me laugh, probably because it's 100% true hahaha! What kind of costume were you wearing btw? and fyi, if it was a Melisandre cosplay than I'd probably give you a weird look too. i.e something like this.
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Post by robbb on May 26, 2016 10:33:46 GMT -5
I'm passing some time at a big out of town mall when I see a fairly cute wheeler heading into a shoe shop. Naturally I suddenly remember I need to buy shoes.
I'm watching this guy try shoes on when the sales assistant says to him "nice feet, buy me a drink some time and I'll massage them for you".
Hands up any dev that wishes they had the confidence to be that forward.
R.
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Post by mike on May 26, 2016 11:17:15 GMT -5
A couple times I have noticed a lady who appears to be looking rather intently, and really wished there was some kind of sign that says "go ahead, I really don't mind". Of course it could have just been an absent-minded pensive moment for her, or possibly a figment of my imagination, but every single time I really liked it a lot. Turn it around for a moment: imagine you were dressed nicely and felt pretty. Some guy looks at you approvingly (not leering), even if he's clearly not your type sometimes you still enjoy feeling that he thinks you're pretty. I have never had the experience of being bothered, but really wished there was some sign.
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Post by lacuna on May 27, 2016 8:14:35 GMT -5
I'm one of those fools that would need to be hit over the head with it to even notice. Most times when I'm out and about I'm focused on avoiding the many pitfalls to be found on a regular UK street, uneven paving. Grates (I've lost many a walking stick stopper down those bastards!) Moss, which is the worst btw, not only does it make the ground more slippery than a politician at an expenses hearing, but ruins my clothes when I inevitably take a tumble. If I cross paths with a dev and she likes the look of me pirouetting on a bit of lichen, I'd rather she'd take the lead (ha dancing puns FTW!) and come say hi, but alas we don't live in a perfect world, and I think overt friendliness between strangers in the street, might actually be illegal in the UK.
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