Post by Experimentalist on May 4, 2016 15:42:25 GMT -5
Today was the first warm and sunny day this year in this part of England and so I went for a 'walk'. I like to go out after work and get some sun, look at the life on the street and of course check out the nice women walking around. It's good for my eyes and my soul 
This was my first such leisurely walk after learning about devs (March this year) and so this time I had a different perspective. My outlook has always been positive and pragmatic - I know some people will like me and others not and I also realise that many women will dismiss me as a potential date due to my disability (and many for other reasons). That's perfectly fine and I dismiss women as dates for reasons of preference as well. My thought has always been though that there are also plenty of women who don't care much about disability either way. They might see it as a minor concern or might even be impressed by the way I choose to deal with it. In general though, I've always thought of it more as a liability than an asset.
But today was different
For the first time as I'm walking around looking at people (and women in particular) I'm thinking that any one of them might be a dev. It was a fun new perspective People normally look at me (if they do at all; this is England) with friendly acknowledgement, indifference, sometimes pity (rarely but annoyingly), a warm smile, curiosity or whatever, but now I realise some might actually look at me with desire or even lust (and not just for my handsome face 
, but the whole package). Chances are that never happened today, but that's OK because now I know that every once in a while it does. I did find myself trying to see if anyone looked at me longer than necessary (none today that I could see). Please tell me: are there any other secret signs to look for? If not we urgently need to agree on some!!
Also among devs there will be many who don't like me because of my poor sense of humour, boring choice of socks, the wrong type of facial hair or a very long list of other legitimate reasons. Still, it's cool to know that there is a group of ladies out there (and men for that matter) who fancy the one thing that I had thought was just a nuisance and a barrier. I may still never meet a dev in real life (though I hope and intend to), but just knowing you're out there gives me an extra spring in my 'step' So thank you all for being you and especially to those of you who run this site where we can meet and exchange our thoughts and feelings
Have a great day wherever you are!
This was my first such leisurely walk after learning about devs (March this year) and so this time I had a different perspective. My outlook has always been positive and pragmatic - I know some people will like me and others not and I also realise that many women will dismiss me as a potential date due to my disability (and many for other reasons). That's perfectly fine and I dismiss women as dates for reasons of preference as well. My thought has always been though that there are also plenty of women who don't care much about disability either way. They might see it as a minor concern or might even be impressed by the way I choose to deal with it. In general though, I've always thought of it more as a liability than an asset.
But today was different
For the first time as I'm walking around looking at people (and women in particular) I'm thinking that any one of them might be a dev. It was a fun new perspective People normally look at me (if they do at all; this is England) with friendly acknowledgement, indifference, sometimes pity (rarely but annoyingly), a warm smile, curiosity or whatever, but now I realise some might actually look at me with desire or even lust (and not just for my handsome face 
, but the whole package). Chances are that never happened today, but that's OK because now I know that every once in a while it does. I did find myself trying to see if anyone looked at me longer than necessary (none today that I could see). Please tell me: are there any other secret signs to look for? If not we urgently need to agree on some!! Also among devs there will be many who don't like me because of my poor sense of humour, boring choice of socks, the wrong type of facial hair or a very long list of other legitimate reasons. Still, it's cool to know that there is a group of ladies out there (and men for that matter) who fancy the one thing that I had thought was just a nuisance and a barrier. I may still never meet a dev in real life (though I hope and intend to), but just knowing you're out there gives me an extra spring in my 'step'
So thank you all for being you and especially to those of you who run this site where we can meet and exchange our thoughts and feelings Have a great day wherever you are!
I am so bad as a dev that I am close to passing out with anxiety and it sucks...I wish I could be more assertive and just stare at them with my lustful eyes... 
Seeing an attractive wheeler makes me very nervous actually so you wouldn't probably realize at all that I am dev. I feel though as they would sense it and I feel like it is imprinted on my forehead, so I just get super shy. It is not good and I wish I could be more careless about it... 
)!!!! 
