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Post by devogirl on May 8, 2016 9:06:15 GMT -5
My ideal mate ........... Caprica One from Battlestar Galactica *sigh* ........ Dude, don't give her those nuclear codes! I don't care how hot she is.....oh no.... kaboom! Or wait, did you mean your ideal lady is a hallucination that you convince yourself is real?
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Post by Paradise on May 8, 2016 9:07:45 GMT -5
The height/size thing fascinates me. I'm sure many would assume that a wheeler would have a Napoleon Complex, though us devs know better. My guess would be that you guys are used to being shorter than women when you're in your chairs (and that you're mostly fine with it). But in other situations-- say, lying next to each other in bed or sitting together on the sofa or even lending her something to wear--do you enjoy dominating her in size (if you do) or wish you did (if you don't)? I'm a dev too so I can't speak for wheelers who want to answer this, but from personal experience, I will say I did enjoy the times my lover wanted to assert his "dominance" in what ways that he could. Years of living with MD had twisted his body, so he was going to be shorter than me no matter what, and he was confined to the bed at that point, adding another degree of "short stature" because he couldn't even sit up in a chair (though he was semi-reclined in bed so he was at least sitting up a little). I never really saw it as a matter of his "manliness" or "dominance" - I mean, I just enjoyed his company. But as a woman, sometimes those natural longings to be protected, fussed over, and to be the "smaller/weaker" one in the relationship did win out. Now, I'm not saying I want to be some submissive little housewife, haha. That would never have worked for our situation. But here are the ways in which he enjoyed being the "big man" in our relationship: He enjoyed having me go through his closet and choose some of his expensive athletic jerseys to wear at times (USA NBA - basketball teams). I'd put on the jersey with nothing under it, or maybe only panties, and he really enjoyed seeing me that way. I know he couldn't move very much, but he did try to overly compensate by buying me gift upon gift from Amazon; everyday there was a new shipment arriving, and they were expensive things. He gave me credit cards and told me to go shopping or do whatever I wanted. I felt weird about this, but he would insist - he said he had waited his whole life to be able to do this, to give his woman his card and tell her to go have fun. I did not go extreme - I think I got gas one day, and food the next (living dangerously!). During the quiet moments, I'd wrap myself up carefully next to him, being careful of all the tubes and wires, but once I was in the right position, I'd snuggle up next to him and we'd sleep that way all night. I WAS "shorter" than him in those moments, with my head laying on his chest. He confided in me that he never slept during those times; he just listened and watched me sleep, again mentioning it was something he'd always wanted to do, to have a woman fall asleep on his chest. So those are some ways he was still very "masculine and dominant" in our relationship. Sorry to go off topic, but the above quote had sparked this memory.
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Post by §cαrL£t on May 8, 2016 9:08:27 GMT -5
I suppose to flip that question, after youve spent all day with your wheeler, clearly "taller" than him and for those that dont know, appearing the dominant partner, do you enjoy those moments when your on the sofa or in bed and he exerts his strength, or is at the very least your height or taller? Yes, 100%, but that is something I enjoy with an AB partner as well. I really have both desires in me: sometimes I like to be in the position of being physically stronger ( that's part of my devness) and sometimes I just want to be nearly crushed.
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Post by Paradise on May 8, 2016 9:15:00 GMT -5
The height/size thing fascinates me. I'm sure many would assume that a wheeler would have a Napoleon Complex, though us devs know better. My guess would be that you guys are used to being shorter than women when you're in your chairs (and that you're mostly fine with it). But in other situations-- say, lying next to each other in bed or sitting together on the sofa or even lending her something to wear--do you enjoy dominating her in size (if you do) or wish you did (if you don't)? the height thing doesn't bother me at all, maybe that's because im used to it now. But laying side by side, do I enjoy "dominating" her in size ........ well, yeah i do, not just size but strength too, i love it when she admires my biceps or shoulders, squeezes then and lets out a little "phwoaar" .......... but surely that's a "male" thing that's hard wired into us pwd or AB I suppose to flip that question, after youve spent all day with your wheeler, clearly "taller" than him and for those that dont know, appearing the dominant partner, do you enjoy those moments when your on the sofa or in bed and he exerts his strength, or is at the very least your height or taller? I remember one encounter with a dev where she squealed with delight when i pinned her arms back over her head with one hand, and with the other hand and ummm moving my head several places, ravished her mercilessly, she couldn't free her arms from my hand .......... hmmmmmm thinking about it, she didn't struggle that much ........... awwww bollox she just let me do it didnt she! ............ bloody dev's Now Tykes, that sounds amazing, and that's awesome you were able to dominate her in some way! Yes, I myself in that situation would try my best to play along, but I'd probably be so into it that I'd forget I'm supposed to be struggling, haha. But for the other part of your question, at least for me, I did not ever mind that he was shorter than me in any way. I guess it was a matter of comfort though, come to think of it, because when I was with him, he could barely move his head anymore, so I did have to sit next to him in JUST the right spot so that he wouldn't have to strain his neck to look at me. When sitting next to him, yep, I was shorter, and looking up at him, but I guess I never had any thoughts of, "Wow, I'm shorter than him and this is nice." It was just a normal thing to us, something we didn't think about.
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Post by Hopper on May 8, 2016 9:15:42 GMT -5
Physiciality is an interesting one to me. Having a girl with an unexpected level of strength for her size would be exciting. I'd imagine it'd be visa-versa as well, considering I have a lot of strength in my arms compared to my legs.
Weight is something I don't care about either way. She could be huge, she could be skinny as long as she's aware that I love her all the same it wouldn't matter.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on May 8, 2016 9:19:34 GMT -5
I suppose to flip that question, after youve spent all day with your wheeler, clearly "taller" than him and for those that dont know, appearing the dominant partner, do you enjoy those moments when your on the sofa or in bed and he exerts his strength, or is at the very least your height or taller? First of all, I love the fact that he's significantly taller than I am. I've always prefered tall guys over short or average sized ones. Not only do I love the aesthetic part of him being tall (I love how his legs, arms and also his torso are visibly all quite long, the fact that he's skinny probably adds to the effect), but I also just like knowing that he's taller than me. Of course when we're laying next to each other we can see it and that's a nice visual. As to what you asked, Tykes, yes!!! That's definitely a great feeling for me! There's certain positions where he's the one in control over kissing or I have to look up when we kiss and that definitely gives me a very special feeling, as it's obviously not something I get every day. I really love the rare occasions when he's the one in control.
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Post by §cαrL£t on May 8, 2016 9:20:22 GMT -5
I remember one encounter with a dev where she squealed with delight when i pinned her arms back over her head with one hand, and with the other hand and ummm moving my head several places, ravished her mercilessly, she couldn't free her arms from my hand .......... hmmmmmm thinking about it, she didn't struggle that much ........... awwww bollox she just let me do it didnt she! ............ bloody dev's OK, another question. If a woman reacts so positively to that sort of domination, would you assume that she wants more, that she wants you to pick her up, toss her on the bed and jump on top of her? Does "damn, I am doing something she loves" turn into "shit, she'd love it more if I could take it further"?
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Post by §cαrL£t on May 8, 2016 9:38:15 GMT -5
I guess to flip that one around, when I've noticed how much he likes asserting power over me, I've never thought "shit, he'd love it even more if I were 4 inches shorter and 100 pounds soaking wet" i.e. I don't focus on my limitations either.
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Post by Paradise on May 8, 2016 9:44:24 GMT -5
I guess to flip that one around, when I've noticed how much he likes asserting power over me, I've never thought "shit, he'd love it even more if I were 4 inches shorter and 100 pounds soaking wet" i.e. I don't focus on my limitations either. Yep, I think that for whoever you are, whether PWD or AB, getting into thoughts like that is kind of a dangerous area. It can get you down on yourself, and besides, you can't change it, so why worry about it and analyze it? I've seen my guy break down as he started to realize there were just some things he'd never be able to do for me sexually. He knew this already, I'm sure, but once we were actually DOING things, he started to get sad about it some nights. But like you said, if I had been like 90 pounds and tiny, maybe HE would've liked it more (though somehow I doubt that to be true - I think I was pretty damn good, haha). We both had our times of wishing we were different in one way or another... but I've learned it's best to avoid those thoughts; it takes us down a sad path and what's the point? Enjoy what's in front of you, big or not! Able to move or not... dominant or not!
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Post by midwestguy on May 8, 2016 10:24:09 GMT -5
I'll be honest I have to find them physically attractive and it's a definite plus if they can fit on my lap. I'm 6 feet "tall" and I prefer short women but I'd never not date someone because of their height. I do have a thing for short hair but it's sexy seeing a lady quickly pull her long hair back and twist a hair band around it, and the less makeup they wear the better. They also need to be smart and capable of carrying on an intelligent conversation. I also like someone who can think for themselves, take charge and be assertive. It's annoying when a woman answers questions with "I don't care." A great sense of humor is a must and a desire for exploring and trying new things. Some commonality in interests is good but I also want them to expose me to things important to them. And lastly I hope they're ok with me spoiling them
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Post by Turbowheeler on May 8, 2016 11:07:47 GMT -5
I have spent some time reading up on threads, and I was going to give it a few days before starting my own, but this question is burning a hole through my... well... mind! I'm just so curious! Now that I've found you here, I would like to know a few things. And please forgive me; if this post belongs somewhere else, by all means, I accept my mistake. I didn't think this fit into the "Personals" section because this is more of a general question for everyone. And devs, if you have any input at all, please, go for it! I want to know, who's your ideal mate? What does she or he look like? Are there attributes to this person that you imagine would make it "easier" for you two to get along and/or live comfortably together, or date each other? I guess I'm just really curious about what you guys think about when you envision your ideal mate. Not that any of us sit around doing that... or do we? I guess I ask because... well... being a devotee myself, I'm a little self-conscious of the fact that I'm SUPER tall (5'10" or 5'11" depending on my mood). Now, I love being tall, but I never have quite fit into the "dainty, tiny little devotee" category - a gal who comes along and hops on someone's lap and off we go, spinning wheels into the setting sun. No, for me, I always feel like I'd be crushing some guy with my weight/height. And I'd hate for this little hiccup to be a hindrance to dating someone when, again, I'M not really worried about my tall-ness, but what about PWDs? Wouldn't they prefer me to be smaller, thinner, etc.? Again, forgive me, these are just thoughts coming onto paper as quickly as they enter my brain. When I was with B, my partner who had MD, and the guy who opened my eyes to this whole new world, I, of course, outweighed him, out-"grew" him years ago, etc. He was small and I was big. But, we totally made things work. And he didn't seem to mind at all. I always kind of wished I was a bit smaller - there were mornings he'd give me a gentle nudge with his voice. He couldn't do it with his hands, so that's why I say it was with his voice. "Hey, can you move position? You're kind of crushing that side of my chest." Ah, gotta love him. But, in the end, I think he thought I was beautiful no matter what. So is this a factor for you guys? Do you prefer small and petite? Or does it even matter? Are physical attributes a non-issue? Putting all feelings aside and with no worries about hurting mine , I want to know what you've imagined as your "dream girl/guy." hey paradise I don't really have a type of girl but there are somethings that I do find very attractive. like the most important things I am searching for in a girl is a good heart with a great sense of humor and just having a positive vibe around them. when they have those things that's when it doesn't matter if they are big or small i love them all . and i am 6'6 myself so I'm pretty sure height would never be a problem for me.
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Post by Tommy on May 8, 2016 13:53:12 GMT -5
I'll be honest I have to find them physically attractive I second that. That's an initial barrier that needs to be taken. Other than that, being smart and funny without labeling yourself smart and funny.
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Post by Sir Paul on May 8, 2016 14:14:51 GMT -5
I appreciate affectionate women as well - deep hugs without the fear of hurting me, greetings that come with a kiss, and laughs followed by a touch. That goes a long way when determining who I'm interested in. Oh, and cleavage in a profile picture
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2016 14:20:48 GMT -5
Oh, and cleavage in a profile picture Smooth.
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Post by Sir Paul on May 8, 2016 14:35:15 GMT -5
Smooth. Fist bump.
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