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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2016 19:48:40 GMT -5
I like em HOT...that comes in a lot of different physical packages, and the chemistry is para-mount. lol When a girl is tall, her ass is just about shoulder-level...kinda nice to have vital areas that close. Also, chair-straddle wrks great cuz she can mount n dismount easier than petite. However, smaller chick seems to be more ADA accessible..can reach easier. Taller = long legs, mmmmm...advantage! lol Yeah, that's what I was thinking! Long legs for the win! In fact, I was visually playing out the scenario you described... I can pretty much envision myself not having to do an acrobatic act just to get on top of a guy in a chair. Probably for me it would just be a matter of opening my legs a bit wider, sliding on, and then sliding back off. Hmm. Now I'm remembering all the ways I made it work with my previous boyfriend who couldn't even be in a chair. I had totally forgotten! Huh. Well I won't give ALL the secrets away. I'll just say... long legs are a plus! If you need to test your theories...
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Post by Pony on May 8, 2016 19:55:33 GMT -5
hahaha...yes, exactly! You win by a few legs...very easy to climb in saddle, I've had a few tall ones. Shorter girls struggle to balance, then throw leg over...they have harder time getting off, so advantage ME! .lol However, nothing sexier than tall girl standing besde me, looking at computer, wrapping my arm around upper thigh...HOT!
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Post by Sir Paul on May 8, 2016 21:14:03 GMT -5
My ideal mate would be all those things that really matter PLUS have nice medium or large breasts, because I love the way they look in and out of clothes, the way they feel in my hand and against my body, how they move with her body, and all the interesting ways women use them to their advantage. I also like my mate to enjoy giving and receiving oral. Full on sex can be challenging in terms of positioning and comfort for me. Do-able, but the level of difficulty is much less with oral. That's all for now
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Post by Maurine on May 9, 2016 3:45:08 GMT -5
For me, it's the reverse of what deeva said. I prefer AB guys and guys who use crutches to be shorter, whereas I prefer wheelers who are taller. Visually, that's what I like most when they are walking/rolling. My bf has a long torso, so, me being short, I don't have to bend down much to kiss him. Straddling has never been a problem, I just jump on his lap like that. Our height difference can be a disadvantage when we're lying in bed, though. When we're lying next to each other with our heads on the same level, I can barely reach farther than his belly.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2016 7:17:36 GMT -5
I prefer tall guys, and always have. Height isn't a requirement, though. I've dated shorter, smaller guys. It's not hard for me to find a taller guy, since I'm only 5'3", or "pocket-sized" according to my fiancé. He's around 6', which is perfect for me. He likes his girls shirt and curvy, and brunette - lucky me! Looks are semi-important to me, because I have to have a physical attraction. I like blonde hair and blue/green eyes, however he has light brown hair and blue eyes. Personality is a huge selling point for me. I need someone I can connect with, that we can share some common interests. I refuse to date assholes, as I deal with enough of them on a daily basis.
With my height, it is a little more difficult to straddle his lap, but when I sit on his lap, my head isn't too much higher than his. He likes to be able to roll up beside me and throw his arm around my waist. I like to be able to kiss him without having to squat down. We just work, lol.
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Post by Pony on May 9, 2016 10:09:45 GMT -5
With my height, it is a little more difficult to straddle his lap, but when I sit on his lap, my head isn't too much higher than his. He likes to be able to roll up beside me and throw his arm around my waist. I like to be able to kiss him without having to squat down. We just work, lol. [/quote] That is a great advantage...face to face when in his lap!
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Post by Pony on May 9, 2016 10:20:02 GMT -5
This is good thread bcoz it's a discussion on 'logistics'...really important in AB/chair relationship. Don't forget about sex-logistics that can be different sometimes...
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Post by coybrit on May 9, 2016 10:30:51 GMT -5
I appreciate the responses so far! I can see a similar theme developing. A combination of physical attributes, at least on some basic level, but more so it's the personality that wins you over. These are all awesome insights; thanks for contributing your thoughts. Exactly, the right attitude to life is really important to me: Beyond a basic level of physical attraction -- which I'm hesitant to try and define because it's so subjective and can be as simple as an amazing smile or glint in the eye -- a sense of fun, knowing what really matters, and when I'm in a relationship I think of it as a team: we win and lose together. Being self-aware is very attractive too and I love banter.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2016 12:51:22 GMT -5
When I first posted on this thread, I misinterpreted the original question and thought it was about purely physical attributes. I don't want people to think I'm THAT shallow but I will admit that physical appearance is important to me. More than it should be, I guess. But with that thought, finding an ideal physical match can be a bad thing sometimes. I found it once. It's amazing what I'll look past when there's a magnificent ass involved.
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Post by cooks on May 9, 2016 22:42:58 GMT -5
Even though describing my ideal mate on a board read by potential mates* seems a bit tricky, I'll bite. I'd hate to say too much and scare a potentially wonderful connection away but who am I kidding? I say too much all the time.
Physically, she's be fit enough to pick me up without strain. Emotionally, she's secure enough, in herself and her attraction towards me, that she isn't bothered by it. I'd never want to nor expert her to provide me with all the help I require because we both need our independence. It's that we have a level of comfort together, a familiarity in which I don't feel like a burden just as she doesn't feel burdened by me.
I do have a type (smallish, arty, bohemian) though that matters far less than sexual chemistry. My ideal mate thoroughly enjoys sex. This can take many forms, as long as there isn't any shame involved. We'd experiment with each other uninhibitedly (obviously required with disability involved). We would look forward to giving one another pleasure.
She still enjoys doing the things I can't without me. Hiking, exercising, hanging out at her friend's inaccessible house, dancing... Ok dancing's a tough one to swallow but I would, I think, as long as we communicated well enough to deal with whatever insecurities arise. I need a fair bit of free time for solo activities so it works out for both of us.
She's smart and challenges me conversationally. We share a base of understanding and venture out from it, going far as we can. She and I trust each other enough to talk about anything; we'd never make the other feel foolish. She's convicted without being too dogmatic- she knows what she thinks.
She's got a job that's fulfilling enough though it's not her entire life. She wants to make a positive change in the world. She has ambition and supports me in mine.
We share an interest in spirituality and explore it together. I'm no flower child but... we do psychedelics a couple times a year.
So... any takers?
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Post by wheelzoffortune on May 10, 2016 8:46:45 GMT -5
I definitely prefer short, but I've gone out with tall-ish women before.
Other than that for appearance, I'm a pretty typical guy. Boobs, ass, legs. Blonde, brunette, raven-haired - it doesn't really matter. Redheads are not really my thing, but there are a few that I've found extremely attractive. I typically go for longer hair, but I recently found myself attracted to someone with very short hair, so...yeah.
I'm not really about appearance that much, though. If you are funny, intelligent, or musically talented (especially), then I am hooked. An affinity for video games, sports, LEGOs, and trivia/Sporcle would be a plus. :-p
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Post by matisse on May 10, 2016 11:07:38 GMT -5
Yeah, yeah, I messed up the profile pic. It was supposed to be a square, but they don't fit in a square, and it was a nice day. Remember, I'm changing it back to an androgynous, anonymous cartoon pic soon so as we always say here at PD: "Enjoy it while you can!!" Well that's boring.....
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on May 10, 2016 19:42:24 GMT -5
Likes anal. (That was a joke, what else would you expect from me?) if only my boobs were smaller... *sigh* *clears throat slowly....*
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Post by harmonniousvision on May 10, 2016 19:54:06 GMT -5
if only my boobs were smaller... *sigh* *clears throat slowly....* Evil Assy...
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on May 10, 2016 20:10:27 GMT -5
*clears throat slowly....* Evil Assy...
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