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Post by lucretia on Feb 26, 2018 4:48:02 GMT -5
...suuuuuuch a passion killer.
Definitely.
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Post by soccerwheels on Mar 1, 2018 17:26:57 GMT -5
I have a question. I have CP and use a power chair. I can hold it pretty well. I know that most people, friends or strangers, shy away from helping PWD in the bathroom. I need help transferring to the toilet. Am I correct in saying this?
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Post by matisse on Mar 1, 2018 17:40:17 GMT -5
I have a question. I have CP and use a power chair. I can hold it pretty well. I know that most people, friends or strangers, shy away from helping PWD in the bathroom. I need help transferring to the toilet. Am I correct in saying this? If you mean that, as an example, you're at a restaurant and want to use the bathroom, then for me, I would never ask for transfer assistance. I would just hold it and plan ahead as necessary.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2018 17:51:29 GMT -5
I have a question. I have CP and use a power chair. I can hold it pretty well. I know that most people, friends or strangers, shy away from helping PWD in the bathroom. I need help transferring to the toilet. Am I correct in saying this? If you mean that, as an example, you're at a restaurant and want to use the bathroom, then for me, I would never ask for transfer assistance. I would just hold it and plan ahead as necessary. There's a bar near my place that has such a tiny bathroom, that when I empty my leg bag, I have to leave the stall door open. A good 80% of the guys that walk in ask if I need any help. I usually answer with the standard "I got it, thanks" but after the millionth time I start replying with, "Yeah, can you hold my dick and help me aim?" I should probably stop saying that because it's only a matter of time before someone wants to take me up on it.
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Post by soccerwheels on Mar 2, 2018 2:38:53 GMT -5
I have a question. I have CP and use a power chair. I can hold it pretty well. I know that most people, friends or strangers, shy away from helping PWD in the bathroom. I need help transferring to the toilet. Am I correct in saying this? If you mean that, as an example, you're at a restaurant and want to use the bathroom, then for me, I would never ask for transfer assistance. I would just hold it and plan ahead as necessary. I agree with you! I usually just hold it. My point is, most people would not help PWD use the restroom period. Of course, at home I can go myself. Thank you for your input.
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Post by PacMan on Mar 2, 2018 12:49:35 GMT -5
For what its worth I just wanted to say I’ve never been in a relationship long enough nor has it got serious enough for the situation to arrive but I’ve always thought if it had/does how I would deal with needing help when it comes to the bathroom. Really I know if will/would kill me having to ask my partner to help me with something has private and intimate as that as well there is the fact I feel its not right asking your partner to help you with something like that. I would be mortified.
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Post by mona on Mar 2, 2018 12:53:12 GMT -5
I agree with you! I usually just hold it. My point is, most people would not help PWD use the restroom period. Of course, at home I can go myself. Thank you for your input. I have a female coworker who met a quad in a bar not that long ago and he asked her “if she could help him with his catheter” how he worded it. I’m assuming he wanted her to help him empty his leg bag or something, because any other scenario would be absolutely ridiculous to ask of a stranger in a bar. She was still shocked and told him no. I don’t think most friends/acquaintances have an issue with helping when needed. Although I don’t think you should expect it of your friends unless you’ve already made arrangements that they’re willing to help you when those instances come up. But strangers? No. Not unless it’s a complete emergency. Don’t you think that it’s a quite intimate thing for most people? Most people don’t want to see other people naked. Most women don’t want to see a stranger’s dick either. We have boundaries, we are a fairly modest society when it comes to that stuff. I guess I’m not understanding why this is seems unusual for you? I think most AB people believe that people need to be able to take care of their own personal toilet needs if they’re going to be out in public alone. I don't understand exactly what @soccerwheel is aiming at with his question. But he's also assuming that friends (male or female?) wouldn't help. I definitely would if I went to a bar with a female friend and she just needs help to be tranferred from her chair to the toilet. I know from my sister (non-dev) that her husband usually helps her male friend who has MD to use the bathroom when he's at their place. I never found that so remarkable, actually. I would not recommend to ask a stranger, though.
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