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Post by wonk on Oct 20, 2018 15:57:08 GMT -5
Go for a walk...best advice to someone in a wheelchair ever. It all makes so much sense now. What a princess! Have a cry over semantics! Go for a walk, a roll, a wheel, a push, take your power chair for a spin outside. You both knew what he meant!
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Post by farfaraway on Oct 20, 2018 16:19:57 GMT -5
#intense
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2018 16:50:02 GMT -5
Go for a walk...best advice to someone in a wheelchair ever. It all makes so much sense now. What a princess! Have a cry over semantics! Go for a walk, a roll, a wheel, a push, take your power chair for a spin outside. You both knew what he meant! Captain obvious wearing your outfit today? Of course I knew what he meant. I’m also entitled to give my response which I chose to do. Neither one of you are getting that “taking a ____” (whatever you decide to call it) isn’t a luxury everyone can access currently.
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Post by wonk on Oct 20, 2018 17:30:46 GMT -5
What a princess! Have a cry over semantics! Go for a walk, a roll, a wheel, a push, take your power chair for a spin outside. You both knew what he meant! Captain obvious wearing your outfit today? Of course I knew what he meant. I’m also entitled to give my response which I chose to do. Neither one of you are getting that “taking a ____” (whatever you decide to call it) isn’t a luxury everyone can access currently. What a load of bullshit. Welcome to the pity party. You have lots of excuses, and some of them may be valid, but it is not like when Pete was stuck in bed for 2 years. Only 1 person is responsible for you. Jakethesnake was suggesting getting outside, sunshine (vitamin D) is good for depression. Sit out the front of your house, say hi to a stranger, or several. Have no friends to take you out? Most places have community transport, maybe you don't. My suggestion is call a local church, speak to a priest or minister. Even if you don't believe in a God. Tell the minister your situation. Church's can have bad people, and hypocrites, but they also have lots of genuinely good people, and people who spend their lives wanting to help others. You may even make a few new friends. SO swallow your pride, stop with your bullshit excuses and get out of your house.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2018 17:35:45 GMT -5
Captain obvious wearing your outfit today? Of course I knew what he meant. I’m also entitled to give my response which I chose to do. Neither one of you are getting that “taking a ____” (whatever you decide to call it) isn’t a luxury everyone can access currently. What a load of bullshit. Welcome to the pity party. You have lots of excuses, and some of them may be valid, but it is not like when Pete was stuck in bed for 2 years. Only 1 person is responsible for you. Jakethesnake was suggesting getting outside, sunshine (vitamin D) is good for depression. Sit out the front of your house, say hi to a stranger, or several. Have no friends to take you out? Most places have community transport, maybe you don't. My suggestion is call a local church, speak to a priest or minister. Even if you don't believe in a God. Tell the minister your situation. Church's can have bad people, and hypocrites, but they also have lots of genuinely good people, and people who spend their lives wanting to help others. You may even make a few new friends. SO swallow your pride, stop with your bullshit excuses and get out of your house. Church - My parents are pastors. That’s where I get out at when I get out. They also have major responsibilities and while it would make my mother ecstatic to chauffeur me around im not feeling like a burden when her time is already stretched in several other places. That’s not swallowing pride. That’s just the reality of the situation. Like I don’t go outside in my yard? Play with my dogs? These things are just things man. Don’t come at me with this narrative bullshit when you don’t know the first thing about me other than the words I’ve posted on this site in my time here. I don’t have to justify why I live life the way I do nor do I need your input on how I could better it. Or anyone else for that matter. I would’ve asked for it if I did.
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Post by wonk on Oct 20, 2018 17:43:23 GMT -5
What a load of bullshit. Welcome to the pity party. You have lots of excuses, and some of them may be valid, but it is not like when Pete was stuck in bed for 2 years. Only 1 person is responsible for you. Jakethesnake was suggesting getting outside, sunshine (vitamin D) is good for depression. Sit out the front of your house, say hi to a stranger, or several. Have no friends to take you out? Most places have community transport, maybe you don't. My suggestion is call a local church, speak to a priest or minister. Even if you don't believe in a God. Tell the minister your situation. Church's can have bad people, and hypocrites, but they also have lots of genuinely good people, and people who spend their lives wanting to help others. You may even make a few new friends. SO swallow your pride, stop with your bullshit excuses and get out of your house. I don’t have to justify why I live life the way I do nor do I need your input on how I could better it. No you don't, but you also don't need to complain then, if it is your choice.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2018 17:49:22 GMT -5
I don’t have to justify why I live life the way I do nor do I need your input on how I could better it. No you don't, but you also don't need to complain then, if it is your choice. I was replying to someone else initially. You were not even involved or addressed. I was not complaining. I was sharing my similar experiences with the OP then got told how much I need help for it by someone who admittedly just lurks. That’s cool he’s entitled to do that and hell maybe he’s right. But I’m at least gonna try to explain myself rather than just be accused of being a headcase. My limitations are a combination of physical and mental. And it’s a recent development over the last few years that I’m trying to learn to cope with and move forward. At no point was I complaining in this thread at least. I stated my situation when it was addressed. Again, which you had no part in until your two cents got added with the insult along the way And while there are times I could go out and do, those could be the days I’m mentally attacked and can’t bring myself to function. I could persevere and I’m working my way to that, but it’s not as simple as “If you want to go do, go do”. The logistics have to also match up with me being able to go out and be one with society.
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Post by wonk on Oct 20, 2018 18:10:46 GMT -5
No you don't, but you also don't need to complain then, if it is your choice. I was replying to someone else initially. You were not even involved or addressed. I was not complaining. I was sharing my similar experiences with the OP then got told how much I need help for it by someone who admittedly just lurks. That’s cool he’s entitled to do that and hell maybe he’s right. But I’m at least gonna try to explain myself rather than just be accused of being a headcase. My limitations are a combination of physical and mental. And it’s a recent development over the last few years that I’m trying to learn to cope with and move forward. At no point was I complaining in this thread at least. I stated my situation when it was addressed. Again, which you had no part in until your two cents got added with the insult along the way And while there are times I could go out and do, those could be the days I’m mentally attacked and can’t bring myself to function. I could persevere and I’m working my way to that, but it’s not as simple as “If you want to go do, go do”. The logistics have to also match up with me being able to go out and be one with society. This is a forum, not PM, people are going to reply, whether you give them permission or not. Sure sounded like complaining to me, but if it wasn't then I apologise.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2018 18:14:49 GMT -5
I was replying to someone else initially. You were not even involved or addressed. I was not complaining. I was sharing my similar experiences with the OP then got told how much I need help for it by someone who admittedly just lurks. That’s cool he’s entitled to do that and hell maybe he’s right. But I’m at least gonna try to explain myself rather than just be accused of being a headcase. My limitations are a combination of physical and mental. And it’s a recent development over the last few years that I’m trying to learn to cope with and move forward. At no point was I complaining in this thread at least. I stated my situation when it was addressed. Again, which you had no part in until your two cents got added with the insult along the way And while there are times I could go out and do, those could be the days I’m mentally attacked and can’t bring myself to function. I could persevere and I’m working my way to that, but it’s not as simple as “If you want to go do, go do”. The logistics have to also match up with me being able to go out and be one with society. This is a forum, not PM, people are going to reply, whether you give them permission or not. Sure sounded like complaining to me, but if it wasn't then I apologise. I’ll accept your apology and give you a virtual fist bump of respect
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Post by sungod on Oct 20, 2018 18:54:27 GMT -5
My two cents: I think I've mentioned that I live in a small town in Oklahoma. Most of my friends are married and antisocial. I spend a lot of time at home. It can feel isolating, but sitting on the porch, taking a walk around the neighborhood, and reaching out to others through texting, phone calls, and online communities does a lot for me for feeling more in touch and less stir crazy. And TotalBias, thanks for reaching out to let us all know more about what's going on. You saw that we all have a lot of curiosity since you were both so outspoken about your relationship before the trip. I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with so much, and I hope that the professional help you've sought out is able to bring things to a more stable place for you. PD can be a tough place when you're dealing with all those things, so there's no need to humor us with any further elaborations. Since this puts such a strain on karotix, hopefully you have both taken a step back before trying to further pursue your intercontinental liaison. Do what's good for you, and come back to us when you're in a good headspace.
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Post by lucretia on Oct 20, 2018 19:13:16 GMT -5
I wasn't going to reply and I'll probably delete this post anyway.
1. Depression is a real disease. So if someone is actually reaching out beyond the veil of darkness and describing how bad it is for him, then FUCK YOU to everyone who replied with snark or the always, ALWAYS ridiculous, "just go for a walk". As someone who has a major depressive disorder I will say that's actually a harmful statement. Don't be an idiot, Google it before you post.
2. Borderline personality disorder. Man. My mom has BPD and my siblings and I barely survived our childhood. Literally. I won't go into the details but it was a gruesome experience and if I had to go back I'd kill myself.
I can say it's extremely rare for someone with BPD to actively seek help. It's also difficult to treat. So, kudos for reaching out and admitting your tendency toward abuse and looking for a way to mitigate this disorder.
Again I'd suggest people Google this before piling on. Yes I do wholeheartedly agree with what you guys are thinking. But. But. Wouldn't you rather she reach out of her admittedly shrinking circle rather than continue to withdraw and perhaps discontinue searching for answers?
I'll admit I have had a laugh or two over this whole procession. I have. But the second I read BPD that stopped. Everything makes sense now.
BPD is a disorder that takes everyone involved in a wild ride of emotional and physical intensity. Karotix is old enough to make his own choices, yet young enough to have his parent's and childhood friend's support. He's a smart kid. We have to trust he'll be OK. And if he's made any other friends here, please reach out to him. This is not a joke.
I'm the first one to have a sarcastic or snarky response or thought when it comes to stupidity or rampant foolishness. But when it comes to mental illness all jokes and snark goes out the window.
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Post by AlrightyAphrodite on Oct 20, 2018 19:16:11 GMT -5
You don't owe anyone on the board anything for any reason. Take care of yourself.
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Post by karotix5 on Oct 20, 2018 21:52:02 GMT -5
Thank you for the few nice words guys. I’ve been around a lot of bad mental health in my life. I will make a lot of mistakes and be an asshole but ultimately I will guide Noelle through this world.
Noelle is the best influence to ever happen upon me and that’s saying a lot because I’ve had completely incredible life changing friendships. She hurts me. However her self awareness and willingness to improve are unmatched and I believe she will be stable one day. Please try not to be cunts. I know it’s hard. Especially for wonk. Rudeness will always stem from insecurity, if I had the time to counsel everyone on the planet I would and then everybody wouldn’t have insecurities and everybody would be kind. But we live in a constraint oriented world so for now I’ll help out my friends.
This will be the last you hear from Noelle or I for a while. I have a very easy time completely ignoring comments on this website but my fiancé doesn’t. So I’m not allowing her on here anymore. Cool community, mad respect for everyone that allows it to happen. If it were in my control it would be more regulated, maybe such a group couldn’t exist because there literally wouldn’t be enough members then though, I’m not certain. Anyway. Feel free to message my fb if you’d like. But this place isn’t quite our speed. Peace.
P.S. For those in need of a slice of what it was actually like. Holding her in my arms was the best I’ve ever felt. We kissed in bars, danced in public, fed each other, had sex. The cliche “you’re my other half” surprised me with how much it describes her. I am so happy with her. Intimate touch and respect is the best thing this world has to offer.
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Post by wonk on Oct 20, 2018 22:04:43 GMT -5
Thank you for the few nice words guys. I’ve been around a lot of bad mental health in my life. I will make a lot of mistakes and be an asshole but ultimately I will guide Noelle through this world. Noelle is the best influence to ever happen upon me and that’s saying a lot because I’ve had completely incredible life changing friendships. She hurts me. However her self awareness and willingness to improve are unmatched and I believe she will be stable one day. Please try not to be cunts. I know it’s hard. Especially for wonk. Rudeness will always stem from insecurity, if I had the time to counsel everyone on the planet I would and then everybody wouldn’t have insecurities and everybody would be kind. But we live in a constraint oriented world so for now I’ll help out my friends. This will be the last you hear from Noelle or I for a while. I have a very easy time completely ignoring comments on this website but my fiancé doesn’t. So I’m not allowing her on here anymore. Cool community, mad respect for everyone that allows it to happen. If it were in my control it would be more regulated, maybe such a group couldn’t exist because there literally wouldn’t be enough members then though, I’m not certain. Anyway. Feel free to message my fb if you’d like. But this place isn’t quite our speed. Peace. P.S. For those in need of a slice of what it was actually like. Holding her in my arms was the best I’ve ever felt. We kissed in bars, danced in public, fed each other, had sex. The cliche “you’re my other half” surprised me with how much it describes her. I am so happy with her. Intimate touch and respect is the best thing this world has to offer. Thank you for the acknowledgement!
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Post by junebug on Oct 21, 2018 1:45:43 GMT -5
Shaming people into treating their depression isn't effective or kind.
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