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Post by feelsunshine on Aug 31, 2020 15:10:30 GMT -5
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Post by feelsunshine on Aug 31, 2020 15:18:01 GMT -5
I have no problems with dating pwd in a way I find it much easier to date a pwd than a able person may I ask why? is it that PWD women seem easier to approach for you? Or is it that it seems you’d have more in common with her than with an AB woman? Or am I totally wrong and there are other reasons I can’t think of right now?
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Post by wheels0090 on Sept 15, 2020 20:44:45 GMT -5
Undecided but I’m open to it if there’s a mutual attraction
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Sept 17, 2020 9:11:08 GMT -5
It depends on the severity of her disability and how we function together. I dated someone with EDS, used a powerchair/walker often, and had a neck fusion, on and off for 2 years but ultimately it did not work because our bodies were not compatible. To give TMI, it hurt her too much to ride me since she had to do most of physical work. I could deal with vaginal sex being rare, cause I really liked her and she gave really good head. hahaha Her needs were left unmet, since she loved intercourse, so she ended up cheating on me with someone physically stronger and the relationship ended.
I think there needs to be a yin and yang element to a fulfilling relationship, but if bodies don't work together, and such interaction is desired, I don't know how well it will work.
I'm not attracted to my level of disability [quadratic but the weak kind, not the paralyzed kind], I think for the reason above, but I have had a crush for one woman with CP [uses a walker, but no mental elements] in my network for a couple years, but have not been able to build any flow with her, yet. Ironically when we were 14 she asked me to be her first boyfriend but I didn't really see her that way then and we lived 3 hours apart, then; now we live 30 minutes apart. C'est la vie...
Now mental disabilities?! That really also comes down to how we connect and how safe I feel with her. It can really vary the way a mental disability affects one's personality. I had another friend with a crush on me with CP [slightly more disabled than my mentioned crush, but still using a walker] and talking to her felt like talking to a child. She is a gorgeous woman but I am not attracted to her at all really.
My two best friends have autism and bipolar disorder and if they were women, in aesthetics and genitalia, I'd date either in a heartbeat!
So yeah it really depends!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2021 18:20:39 GMT -5
I think it depends on the person and disability. Having one limits how I could help them if they needed it.
I've had a few approach me and want to get involved, but none have been great conversationalists and that's important to me. I'm playful, I love banter, wordplay, lots of stuff. So having to carry conversations is exhausting. To be fair that's not a criticism I can say that is true for most PWD, but that's been my experience. However if I met the right girl, I'd be all over her abled or not.
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Post by rebel6842 on Feb 22, 2021 21:16:36 GMT -5
Years ago, I attempted to mentor a blind lady (who happened to be a friend from childhood) and help her discover her sexuality. Unfortunately, her mental tics-and other maturity issues made it very hard. She drained my mental energy, and I had to back away...
In short, it's not something I would prefer or seek out (for reasons covered here)...
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Post by supermamat1986 on Feb 25, 2021 11:27:19 GMT -5
I think I would but there could be issues with sex.
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Post by Utahquad on Feb 25, 2021 19:06:26 GMT -5
I totally would! My mom is a PWD and my dad had no idea until they were actually walking to the car. It really is all about chemistry.
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Post by someonerandom on Feb 25, 2021 20:59:59 GMT -5
I hooked up with a PWD a few months ago, who uses a wheelchair. Yes, I know there’s a pandemic, we were both basically quarantined at the time. But it was really fun and we got along well, and she said something about the fact that she wouldn’t want to date a PWD in large part because of vanity in public, like people assuming a PWD can only date another PWD. I was like yo, I totally agree! Honestly, that’s my main gripe, more so than the physical challenges (shallow as that may be). I don’t think I saw anybody mention that in here, so figured I’d mention. My main issue when I posted in this thread last time was sexual incompatibility, but this woman had a fully functional vagina and everything, so that wasn’t an issue.
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Post by atlwheelin on Mar 3, 2021 13:24:23 GMT -5
This here is a question I never thought I would be presented with in my personal everyday life. I was always the only wheelchair kid in any school I was in (until college) so it wasn’t until my late 20s that I even began my journey of advocacy after being convinced to play power soccer. From there, I think I began to open up to the idea that love is love in any form.
Then I was presented with it, by a girl who honestly thought I hung the moon and the stars amidst the Milky Way. She, like myself, had similar genetic disorders, but her limitations far exceeded mine. She’s truly remarkable though and a genuinely caring person. When she put me on the spot, I gave her an honest no. I don’t expect my partner to be a caregiver at all. That’s outsourced. But the logistics of two people together with very limited mobility is literally sacrificing all the aspects of life you would only get with an able bodied person.
She’s moved on and hopefully happy because she deserves it. I still live with the guilt of being a hypocrite, but at the same time, I don’t feel it’s wrong to know what you are and aren’t willing to sacrifice and to not lead someone on.
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Post by happyface2013 on Mar 3, 2021 14:40:23 GMT -5
This here is a question I never thought I would be presented with in my personal everyday life. I was always the only wheelchair kid in any school I was in (until college) so it wasn’t until my late 20s that I even began my journey of advocacy after being convinced to play power soccer. From there, I think I began to open up to the idea that love is love in any form. Then I was presented with it, by a girl who honestly thought I hung the moon and the stars amidst the Milky Way. She, like myself, had similar genetic disorders, but her limitations far exceeded mine. She’s truly remarkable though and a genuinely caring person. When she put me on the spot, I gave her an honest no. I don’t expect my partner to be a caregiver at all. That’s outsourced. But the logistics of two people together with very limited mobility is literally sacrificing all the aspects of life you would only get with an able bodied person. She’s moved on and hopefully happy because she deserves it. I still live with the guilt of being a hypocrite, but at the same time, I don’t feel it’s wrong to know what you are and aren’t willing to sacrifice and to not lead someone on. You're not a hypocrite. You were honest.
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Post by robert_house on Mar 30, 2021 14:33:07 GMT -5
I've tried a few times. I was once interested in a girl who had friedreich's ataxia. We never actually met in person because she moved away in the midst of the covid-19 pandemic. Liked to talk to each other, but I was nervous the whole time about what would happen if things got serious. Her disability is quite a bit more severe than mine. I was worried I would have a lot of growing up to do very fast if I ever assumed the duties of her care, because I would be the more able-bodied of the two of us (which was a weird feeling for me). The other time I liked a girl who had cerebal palsy like me, but she wasn't interested.
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Post by californiapara on Apr 1, 2021 0:07:58 GMT -5
Sure why not
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Post by KingRichard on Apr 6, 2021 16:04:20 GMT -5
So long as they have a open mind I really don't have a problem with dating a PWD
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Post by rollinjock33 on Apr 12, 2021 17:30:35 GMT -5
This one is for the Gay and bi guys out here! I would definitely date another disabled gay/bi guy wheelchair user. It makes no difference to me and in fact you find more in common than not. If it’s you and interested drop me a note and let’s connect!
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