Michael
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Post by Michael on Dec 1, 2019 15:10:04 GMT -5
I hate my chair so much that I try to 'hide' it. I am C6 complete and could do with more support for my needs i.e. balance etc but I have this 'thing' stripped down...no arm rests, low back, too narrow so that my body stands out more than it, brakes hidden under the seat etc. When I am put to bed, I have this thing removed from my bedroom. I'm 34 yrs post injury and still can't stand the sight of it, I avoid mirrors as I hate my reflection. It is a government issue as I refuse to buy one, I'd rather donate money to charity than pay a private company and buy a more suitable light weight one. It's not the most hygienic either as I refuse to clean or have it cleaned. Hey folks, sorry if I'm coming across as a miserable so and so, I actually am a joyful happy bunny most the time, I just hate this thing. Michael x I wouldnt even begin to understand your feelings about this, other than to say...perhaps a small part of your dislike may be because your chair is uncomfortable, unsuitable, ugly and dirty ? Is there a chance that if you invested in a chair that suited, you would feel more comfortable? Both literally and figuratively? Solid advice delight, I may take your advice. Thank you xx
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
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Post by Michael on Dec 1, 2019 15:07:51 GMT -5
I hate my chair so much that I try to 'hide' it. I am C6 complete and could do with more support for my needs i.e. balance etc but I have this 'thing' stripped down...no arm rests, low back, too narrow so that my body stands out more than it, brakes hidden under the seat etc. When I am put to bed, I have this thing removed from my bedroom. I'm 34 yrs post injury and still can't stand the sight of it, I avoid mirrors as I hate my reflection. It is a government issue as I refuse to buy one, I'd rather donate money to charity than pay a private company and buy a more suitable light weight one. It's not the most hygienic either as I refuse to clean or have it cleaned. Hey folks, sorry if I'm coming across as a miserable so and so, I actually am a joyful happy bunny most the time, I just hate this thing. Michael x Hello Michael . I’ve ‘liked’ your post though it’s not easy reading. There’s no need to apologise; as raindrop has said you’re simply being honest & straightforward & I appreciate that. It sounds as if you’ve never really accepted your chair or maybe even your disability. At 34 years post injury you’re similar to @tykes & yet your attitude is a world apart, his zen like acceptance is in total contrast to your own. I cannot begin to imagine what lithe transition from AB to PWD is like. I’ve said elsewhere that I believe we all crave acceptance in one form or another, but I’m beginning to realise that if others are to accept us we first have to accept ourselves & maybe that the hardest thing to do. I also agree with @delight in that perhaps by replacing your chair with a newer more comfortable one my help you to look better & therefore feel better. How nice loulou, very thoughtful words and useful. Guess I'll always feel like this to be honest. I do tend to 'forget' I am confined to this now. Like I say though, on the whole, I am a very happy person in life and just do my best to conveniently forget my situ. Michael xx
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
Posts: 99
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Relationship Status: Single
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Post by Michael on Dec 1, 2019 15:00:53 GMT -5
I hate my chair so much that I try to 'hide' it. I am C6 complete and could do with more support for my needs i.e. balance etc but I have this 'thing' stripped down...no arm rests, low back, too narrow so that my body stands out more than it, brakes hidden under the seat etc. When I am put to bed, I have this thing removed from my bedroom. I'm 34 yrs post injury and still can't stand the sight of it, I avoid mirrors as I hate my reflection. It is a government issue as I refuse to buy one, I'd rather donate money to charity than pay a private company and buy a more suitable light weight one. It's not the most hygienic either as I refuse to clean or have it cleaned. Hey folks, sorry if I'm coming across as a miserable so and so, I actually am a joyful happy bunny most the time, I just hate this thing. Michael x At least you are honest and straightforward! Thank you raindrop xx
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
Posts: 99
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Relationship Status: Single
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Post by Michael on Jun 11, 2019 14:13:16 GMT -5
I hate my chair so much that I try to 'hide' it. I am C6 complete and could do with more support for my needs i.e. balance etc but I have this 'thing' stripped down...no arm rests, low back, too narrow so that my body stands out more than it, brakes hidden under the seat etc. When I am put to bed, I have this thing removed from my bedroom. I'm 34 yrs post injury and still can't stand the sight of it, I avoid mirrors as I hate my reflection. It is a government issue as I refuse to buy one, I'd rather donate money to charity than pay a private company and buy a more suitable light weight one. It's not the most hygienic either as I refuse to clean or have it cleaned.
Hey folks, sorry if I'm coming across as a miserable so and so, I actually am a joyful happy bunny most the time, I just hate this thing.
Michael x
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Apr 12, 2018 14:17:08 GMT -5
Maybe that's why I am struggling then? For me, if I hate my disability so much (maybe I'm lacking intellect) how on earth can a DEV find my DIS 'interesting'? I'm usually an open guy and I am feeling a little comfortable knowing that there are people who may not judge me. I will try Shape. It's not about intellect, but positivity and time, I guess. Just take it easy. Yeah, sure will and with time and patience I'm positive I will get there.
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
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Post by Michael on Apr 11, 2018 11:37:48 GMT -5
For me, self esteem is a massive factor in my life. Sometimes I feel really good about myself and come on PD wishing to participate with both DEV's and PD's. I am still learning what a DEV is, and I find it difficult to ever think my disability may benefit me in any way. I kind of understand Annabelle where that guy was coming from as I too get rather confused - I just hate my disabiliity so much GRRRRR! Man, you have to accept it to fully understand devness. And that's only you who can reach that acceptance. But I'm sure you can!! Maybe that's why I am struggling then? For me, if I hate my disability so much (maybe I'm lacking intellect) how on earth can a DEV find my DIS 'interesting'? I'm usually an open guy and I am feeling a little comfortable knowing that there are people who may not judge me. I will try Shape.
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Apr 4, 2018 13:59:40 GMT -5
You are a lot more positive than me someonerandom - credit it to you. It's 33 yrs since I was involved in an RTA and I detest 2nd September - doubt I'll every get over it. It is maybe easier for me to be positive than some people. I have a luxury disability (paraplegia), and pretty much won the demographic lottery with my birth, so I mostly live a privileged existence other than paraplegia and (currently arrested) drug addiction. I feel very happy that my injury was low-level and did not hurt my brain or my face at all, and I had insurance to pay the hospital bills. By all accounts I should be dead or bankrupt. I wish you peace. 33 years is a long time to not get over something, but I guess there are things in life that are like that, like the loss of a child or parent. Maybe there's just different degrees of getting over something, and it never quite reaches 0 but approaches it for infinity like an asymptote. Thank you for your comments. It's a cool way of looking at your situ that you see your paraplegia as being a luxury! Good man, sound thinking! I guess I could say being C6 is a damn bit better off than a higher legion but 'maybe' we'd all like a little extra in life. I can, at least, say I've had a good life so far and gave it a good shot. I will attempt to take inspiration from your outlook and see where it takes me...
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Apr 1, 2018 13:19:55 GMT -5
You are a lot more positive than me someonerandom - credit it to you. It's 33 yrs since I was involved in an RTA and I detest 2nd September - doubt I'll every get over it.
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
Posts: 99
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Post by Michael on Apr 1, 2018 12:30:40 GMT -5
For me, self esteem is a massive factor in my life. Sometimes I feel really good about myself and come on PD wishing to participate with both DEV's and PD's. I am still learning what a DEV is, and I find it difficult to ever think my disability may benefit me in any way. I kind of understand Annabelle where that guy was coming from as I too get rather confused - I just hate my disabiliity so much GRRRRR!
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
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Post by Michael on Apr 1, 2018 12:06:05 GMT -5
I love having my hair washed and being pampered, to which, if it was my partner, I would find it quite sensual and erotic. However, as my current carer is my mother, this is not the case, obviously. I go out with my sister to restaurants / bars etc and I would say she definitely acts as an unwilling blocker. I'm thinking of getting 'brother' and 'sister' name badges to show people I'm single and open to engage in conversation...
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Michael
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Hi, my name is Michael, looking to chat...
Posts: 99
Gender: Male
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Post by Michael on Mar 13, 2018 9:06:31 GMT -5
I am starting to 'get there', thank you. Some nice kind and polite people on here
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Mar 11, 2018 10:08:17 GMT -5
"Are you saying....?" Without an answer, he assumed "yes" and said he liked her honesty... Maybe it's my poor level of English? I see, sorry shape, your English and perception of interpretation are extremely good, if not excellent. If only my understanding was of such a high level. Hopefully, my intelligence will pick up and improve as I find my 'feet' on PD.
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Mar 9, 2018 10:48:17 GMT -5
? Shape
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Mar 9, 2018 9:40:02 GMT -5
Fantastic, wishing you many happy times together
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Michael
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Post by Michael on Mar 8, 2018 8:55:49 GMT -5
I'm actually sitting here with a massive smile on my face. Good luck you two, I wish you all the best in getting to know each other further.
(Good work Devogirl)
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