harder dose

[medora]

So here comes my first question, and it’s not a very flattering one:

Since I first saw that there are others „like me“ and in the whole process of accepting and stuff, my attraction to disabled guys has changed a lot.

At first I was only (or maybe I only admitted it to myself) into pretty „harmless“ things, like just paras, never ever quads. The same for example with amputees, only leg amputees, never ever quad amputees..

But as I began to deal with it more often and deeply, that preference began to change and it became more „extreme“ as I got used to some thoughts.. At times it felt kind of like an addiction, where you always need a harder dose.
Well for now I’ve gotten kind of used to the whole thing and the attraction doesn’t change much anymore.
Has anyone experienced something like this? Is it possible that, if you deal a lot with it you kind of become addicted to your daily devo thrill, and it always has to be a „harder“ one?

probably not, because a lot of you are especially into sci guys anyway. And maybe it was just a process of accepptance or age, but still would be interesting to know if anybody has experienced something similiar, or if the attraction does change at all or if it's just sci wheeler guys all the time for most of you..

[faith]

It has always been quads for me, even as a teen. Don't misunderstand, a cute para will always cathc my eye, but there is just something about the quad hands that do it for me.
So, no, it hasn't really changed... but maybe I just started with that "harder dose!"

[Claire]

Yes, medora, yes!!

Paras still just get me in the gut...there is something ABOUT them that's just...so...I dunno.

But I must admit, I can often get more of an erotic thrill from someone really, profoundly, visibly disabled. It started with paras, and then as I explored it more (and repressed it more) it has grown until the more severe and visible the disability, the more erotic the thoughts.

[Cake]

Interesting topic!
And I can absolutely relate to that. I, too, started with the "harmless" things, and then with time, as I began to consciously deal with my devness, started to like things and aspects that would have freaked my out before. As you said, I guess you just get used to it, and then actually begin to like it, and in the end you suddenly don't like the harmless stuff anymore.
Without telling much more about what the "harmless stuff" and the more "extreme" one is in detail: In general it's pretty much what you and Claire already said. It started with paras, whilst nowadays I often need the "harder dose" to get really turned on. And yes, it sometimes does feel like an addiction, especially during the "heat-cycles". You need more and more, the more severe the disability, the better.

[BA]

Very interesting topic Medora. My experience is a bit different though. I have pretty much stayed "on course" with the same sorts of things that have always turned me on and have not required anything more extreme over time. I think I must be a very boring dev. :-(

edited to say 'thanks Medora'

[Claire]

I am just reassured that I'm not the only one...as usual.

It's amazing...you think that over time we must have covered everything there is to discuss about devism and yet we still manage to make new discoveries. So I'm glad you showed up, medora...you've already contributed something very valuable...a new insight!

Unless this was discussed back in 2005 or something and we both missed it.

[jess]

Hi!
Well i'm new here and honestly it's always been paras
However recently I began reading novels, watching youtube and reading the fiction stories here, and somehow guys on crutches with braces (who still use a wheel chair) really are starting to turn me on...
Yet, I'm not there yet as far as quads are concerned...even though at school I happen to see this very cute quad once in a while with his dog...

[Ciao Bella]

Goodness, had to think about that for a bit lol

From the beginning, it's always been paras for me. However, it wasn't a matter of changing preferences ... I just seemed to be attracted to quads as well, at some point. Even dangling polio legs did a hell of a lot for me. Oh and did I mention from double leg amp to quad amps? But I'd always always have a special place in my heart for paras. I'm thinking, maybe it all depends on how erotic you're feeling at a certain point in time.

But, enjoy your exploration of different disabilities, Medora. You will find a favourite sooner or later.

[dolly]

hmmm.... this question really got me thinking!

i guess i'd say my interests span a range of degrees of disability. and i'd say that the "range" has expanded over time. but it doesn't feel like that is a result of my needing a harder dose, rather it seems like i've just learned, discovered, and opened up my sphere of devness as i've become more accepting and aware of it.

interesting topic.

[devogirl]

My fantasies have ranged all over the place, and I have experienced just what you describe. When I was a kid, the sight of someone in a plaster cast was very exciting, but eventually temporary impairments faded from my devo imagination. I have sometimes felt like I had to up the ante (at least in my fantasies) in order to feel a thrill, but luckily fantasy and real life are quite different, the way I react when I meet a real person usually is quite different. When I first met my ex-wheeler bf, he kept asking if he was disabled "enough" for me, but really that never even crossed my mind. I wouldn't worry about having crazy fantasies, it doesn't necessarily prevent you from having meaningful relationships with real people.

[medora]

yeah well, I'm not worried about the meaningfull relationship in real life thing. I know I can have those.
But it's still these fantasies that give me the biggest feeling of guilt, because they are usually about guys I wouldn't want to be with in real life, because for that purpose they'd be again to disabled. Like "Oh yes, I'd like to have you as my fantasy toy, but please leave me alone when I'm fantasizing about you. In reality I'd like to have a partner with a lower injury, thanks.."

And also in these fantasies it gets the most clear for me, that beeing a devo has a lot to do with seeing someone struggle and suffer. Again this doesn't apply to real life as much as to fantasies.. So no harm done, you only fantasize about something. But it's still no charming feeling to be turned on by someones suffering. And I think that's the point why lots of us feel kind of guilty about the devo thing, not just the fact that it's not very popular in the disability communities.

[Claire]

I wouldn't generalize that being a dev has a lot to do with seeing someone suffer. I think that it can be part of it for some people, but not for everyone. I haven't seen much suffering due to disability. The people with disabilities I've known have been mostly very positive people, not people who suffer...or at least, not people who were suffering greatly at the time I knew them...or perhaps, simply not choosing to show that side of them to me. And for me, disability itself is a positive. So, suffering is not something I immediately associate with disability. My sexual fantasies don't involve people suffering. It's more like a joyous discovery of what is possible.

I'm not saying you're wrong to feel that way, and I don't think you're a bad person for it either. I admire your honesty. I just want to point out that it's different for everyone. For me, it's not suffering. For me, it's physically beautiful, and poignant.

Part of the guilt for me is sexually being turned on by what someone might term a misfortune. I don't view it as a misfortune, but I'm afraid that they might, and I also feel guilty that I don't.

[Claire]

claire said:

I haven't seen much suffering due to disability.

I got a PM from somebody that made me realize I have to qualify that statement...I'm well aware that disability causes suffering. It's just that it's not an association that I tend to make, because my experiences growing up with people who had various physical and intellectual disabilities showed me that we're all much more than whatever we're suffering from.

[xana]

well i have always been into paras but since i joined the board and read the various stories and then check out youtube, i have become how can i put this fascinated with quads. like most i have started fantasising about them but my preference is still for paras.

[charlene]

I'm into paras and quads.

But I don't think I could date somebody who needs an aide all the time.
I'm not so much into electric wheelchairs either...

This might sound mean, but I just couldn't deal with it...

I am well aware of all the sufferings and pain that goes along with a disability, but I don't think I could deal with somebody whining all the time...