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Post by irishclaire on Jun 9, 2009 7:09:30 GMT -5
A few random thoughts I've been having.... Have any of you met your 'perfect' other half? Does perfection really exist? And if it does, can we become bored with it? Or is it our imperfections that make us perfect? A few thoughts from a confused lady  |
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Post by Ouch on Jun 9, 2009 7:21:03 GMT -5
What do you define as perfect?
Even if someone isn't perfect in a general sense of a word, doesn't necessarily mean they aren't perfect for a specific someone - and some can subscribe to an ideal, that there is a pursuit of perfection, in order to make one more perfect. Whether they attain that ideal may be another story, but that's the story of hope, isn't it?
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Post by E on Jun 9, 2009 8:04:46 GMT -5
There is no perfect partner. It's the commitment to stay with someone regardless of their flaws that creates these "til death do we part" marriages.
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Post by Phil on Jun 9, 2009 11:41:06 GMT -5
A few random thoughts I've been having.... Have any of you met your 'perfect' other half? Does perfection really exist? And if it does, can we become bored with it? Or is it our imperfections that make us perfect? A few thoughts from a confused lady 1. No, but close to it.  2. No. People are imperfect, thus perfect isn't possible. 2A. No, not if it really is perfect. 3. Ah, a fan of philosophy? |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Jun 9, 2009 13:39:11 GMT -5
I concur with E. A friend has told me also that it's our vulnerabilities that make us lovable and love each other....
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Post by irishclaire on Jun 9, 2009 16:20:59 GMT -5
Just trying to get some kinda discussion going.
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Post by annie on Jun 9, 2009 17:15:17 GMT -5
I think we all have someone who is "perfect" for us at different junctures in our lives. It may not even be that the particular person is "right for you", or compatable as a lifetime mate. It may be more that they can offer you something that you are lacking or in need of at that specific crossroads in your life. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, so even if a relationship seems sour, it may be what you need in order to gain perpective on what is healthy for you. On the other hand, I do believe in soul mates, I just think that several of them exist for each of us. Therefore, if you pass up the opprotunity to be with who may well have been your "soul mate" there will be others. I don't think there are any two people who are designed only to be with one another.
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Post by faith on Jun 9, 2009 20:27:46 GMT -5
The first question... no, I have not met my perfect other half.
And although I don't think perfection exists in any one person- I do believe there is a perfect fit between two people.
Obviously what one person sees as an asset, another views as a liability. This board is an obvious example!
Bored? In time, maybe. But that may not be bad. I think boredom can easily be overcome with a little effort in the relationship.
I think a much bigger issue is contentment. Contentment and commitment are keys to successful long-term relationships.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2009 20:33:49 GMT -5
Soul mates exist but just because you could be together forever doesn't mean you will. Shit happens yo.
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Jun 10, 2009 14:27:17 GMT -5
woa woa guys... I don't think she meant perfect partner as in...ohhh he shits golden eggs and makes strawberry cheesecake too! She meant the perfect partner as in the one for u! ;D as in I don't really knw why but when he pukes on me I don't wanna run away, I'll just put sum saw dust on it and get on with are day! isn't that what we're all looking for??? lol
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Jun 10, 2009 14:41:58 GMT -5
woa woa guys... I don't think she meant perfect partner as in...ohhh he sh*ts golden eggs and makes strawberry cheesecake too! She meant the perfect partner as in the one for u! ;D as in I don't really knw why but when he pukes on me I don't wanna run away, I'll just put sum saw dust on it and get on with are day! isn't that what we're all looking for??? lol Although she did ask if perfection really exists  doh! lol anyway no i don't think true perfection exists but if u think what u have in your life resembles perfection, then it really doesn't matter one way or another. If u believe to be true then it might as well be true. Like Santa Clause! ;D |
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Post by irishclaire on Jun 10, 2009 16:35:20 GMT -5
I meant perfection in terms of what you personally see as being perfect. But really, I was just trying to get a discussion going.
Never mind.
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Post by Ouch on Jun 10, 2009 21:21:34 GMT -5
I meant perfection in terms of what you personally see as being perfect. But really, I was just trying to get a discussion going. Never mind. You did get discussion going...but I sense a disturbance in the Force... |
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Post by irishclaire on Jun 11, 2009 17:51:44 GMT -5
I meant perfection in terms of what you personally see as being perfect. But really, I was just trying to get a discussion going. Never mind. You did get discussion going...but I sense a disturbance in the Force... You sense correctly oh wise one |
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Post by drdr on Jun 12, 2009 5:54:16 GMT -5
A few random thoughts I've been having.... Have any of you met your 'perfect' other half? Does perfection really exist? And if it does, can we become bored with it? Or is it our imperfections that make us perfect? A few thoughts from a confused lady I have meet my perfect enemy and am living the perfect joke i.e. the type no one ever gets. But as far as partner I'd probably assume you mean LUv interest and say no for what its worth. The idea of soul mate or something similiar is just pretencious to me in many respects as much as most religious beliefs are about god i.e. I think humans invent things because the alternative it makes life it little more bearable for some - bot for me it means nothing. I have known perfection subjectively and perhaps objectively but by definition perfection can only happen once so I guess if you dont make the moment ( whatever it is ) count then you truly are f*cked. I think its imperfection or quirks that cant be accounted for by cheap makeup or any means of self adorsement that truly make someone captivating - regardless of how its presents itself. I found myself once housed with a terrible man - not that im much better - but he was no my idea of perfection at all , in fact logically i should of hated the bastard for various reasons - but we had quite connection or deep understanding that I rarely encounter in the rest of the herd out there in lala land. In that regards i suppoe ive been lucky perhaps , then again some might call that something else. My problem with perfection is that for it to happen it usually takes something extra-ordinary from myself rather than anyone else , I've never had any one , or any epxerinces of any meaning unless thats been the case so i dont even try. You have to put yourself in that position i suppose to start with is what im saying , i dont believe something just randomly happens or some girl / guy walks into your life like someone from a cadburys flake advert. Love interest wise then I dont think that perfection is posssible for me simply because i could not do any of the things most others can do with thier victims . I think I would have to opt for death then , as its the only force I know on the planet that makes your acts count regardless of where you stand. Nature , people , health - its just balancing act - but death taks you as you are young or old and unlike heaven or God its always open for business. |
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doh! lol anyway no i don't think true perfection exists but if u think what u have in your life resembles perfection, then it really doesn't matter one way or another. If u believe to be true then it might as well be true. Like Santa Clause! ;D