where is everyones devness at ?

[merry]

Whew! Downswing again... Don't know if it was the over-indulging, getting involved here or the effect of looming-exam-anxiety. But I can actually focus on the work I'm supposed to be studying now. Relief! ;D

[~Z28gal~]

Apr 28, 2011 10:15:32 GMT -5 @merry said:

Upswing (I'm assuming that's why I took the plunge and started posting ). But I'm desperately trying to "over-indulge" in the hopes that I can swing down as soon as possible. I have exams starting in 3 weeks and at the moment just can't get myself to care enough about them to do any work...Anyone tried this before? Does it work? (I usually try to keep a lid on things as much as possible in order to function - I have after all got 4 young kids and a hubby who need me. At the moment though it's school holidays and hubby's away for 2 weeks - so I can binge if I want to!)

I've noticed that I tend to use my devness as my "escape place" when I get super stressed - but those dev highs aren't as sexual as my "normal" dev highs! I'll bury myself in dev books, research, movies... but it's not driven by the sexual part of it. Anyone else?

[dentelle]

Hello All,

I'm kind of shy about writing this.

I've never really considered myself a Dev. Infact, I'm new to the whole idea. I have always had an attraction to men in wheelchairs or even braces. But I never knew it had a name. I've only met one person in a wheelchair and one with a brace on his leg. But that was when I was working in a restaurant at the cash. Other than that....

I've written stories about it. I used to call it 'getting the buggies out of my head'. I've never let anyone read my stories and I finally threw them out one day. I do have some stories that I started, but with all the stuff going on in my life, I can't concentrate long enough to really get into a story.

I feel comfortable here in this forum and several people have a few things that I've felt

[ruthmadison]

May 11, 2011 18:51:45 GMT -5 dentelle said:

Hello All,

I'm kind of shy about writing this.

I've never really considered myself a Dev. Infact, I'm new to the whole idea. I have always had an attraction to men in wheelchairs or even braces. But I never knew it had a name. I've only met one person in a wheelchair and one with a brace on his leg. But that was when I was working in a restaurant at the cash. Other than that....

I've written stories about it. I used to call it 'getting the buggies out of my head'. I've never let anyone read my stories and I finally threw them out one day. I do have some stories that I started, but with all the stuff going on in my life, I can't concentrate long enough to really get into a story.

I feel comfortable here in this forum and several people have a few things that I've felt

Labels are a funny thing. At times they are useful and at times they are annoying.

The first time I heard of devs, I was disgusted. I had the same reaction that most people have when they first hear about it. This despite the fact that I had been one all of my life.

But I thought, I'm not this weird thing, I'm just me. And part of me is liking guys in wheelchairs.

The world wants to put a label onto that, call it weird and different.

On the other hand, sometimes having a word for it is empowering. Once I accepted that I was the same as the people in the article I read, I realized the profound truth that if there was a word for it, I was not the only one.

How amazing! The world opening up to me. There were others like me.

And here you all are! Being more wonderful than I could have hoped back then.

I hope you'll go back to writing and post some of your stories here! The fantasy world of fiction in one's head can be so delightful and satisfying.

Sometimes I use my label as a dev with pride, sometimes I think, why do I need a label at all?

I am so many, many, many things and this is just one facet of a complex diamond.