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Post by ruthmadison on May 22, 2011 20:06:44 GMT -5
You took the test on your gimp datability, right? What did you get?  |
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Post by ruthmadison on May 22, 2011 20:31:33 GMT -5
You took the test on your gimp datability, right? What did you get? Yes, I got a 94%... 95% if I lie and say I'm eternally patient... 70% if I make comments like... "wanna race?" What a weird test... But it was fun. They need more like that. We should write them... A whole slew of disability/dating related tests... hmmm... Yeah, it's a test written by one person so it's skewed with some of his own biases. It can't seem to decide whether I was 94 or 95%. When I did searches for "wheelchair" and "disability" I found a few different tests and questions on this theme. Of course all the questions are along the lines of could you ever bring yourself to overlook someone's disability! I'll just say yes to that, it's the closest to the truth the answers will let me get. |
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Post by ruthmadison on May 22, 2011 20:33:37 GMT -5
I had to set it up to get my answer for the " The Could You Date A Gimp Test" I scored a 94%. I guess that's good to know... considering.... LOL I did find that most of the responses did NOT include an answer I might give...  I also played around with it, and got anywhere from a 70 to 95... so... still not bad. The 95% was when I changed my "Patience" answer from, "I'm patient but not gonna wait FOREVER." to "I consider myself to be a very patient person". I could not, no matter how much I manipulated the responses, get above 95%... Oh, I'm a dummy, I missed that you had already said your score. Sorry! Yeah, we need to write some of our own questions. Like the one of what would you do if you found out the person you're talking to is disabled. Would you stop talking to them, talk but think of them as only friend material, or would it make no difference. That doesn't cover all the possible answers, question creator! Where's the answer, he wasn't going to get a date with me until I found that out! |
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Post by ~Z28gal~ on May 23, 2011 13:57:31 GMT -5
So where are you ladies posting all these profiles??
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Post by ruthmadison on May 23, 2011 16:32:05 GMT -5
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Post by dentelle on May 23, 2011 16:48:46 GMT -5
Hey Ruth!
I was looking at some of those sites, but I am totally shy to go on them. I mean I would like to meet a wheeler. If I can find someone in my area that is. Would they mind an AB person to go on them?
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Post by Inigo Montoya on May 23, 2011 16:53:13 GMT -5
Well, I'm doing Match.com and OkCupid for searchable sites, I am on whispers4you, and I've made a list of more I'm going to try: I had a date on Friday. Again, I had a lot of fun. Good dinner, went to see Bridesmaid's, laughed a lot, but no kiss at the end. Today I had an email from him that he just didn't feel chemistry with me. Now that is what I've been begging guys for! So I still don't know exactly what I did that turned him off, but he had the decency to send a message and say that he wasn't feeling it. That allows me to have a lot more peace about it then when the guys just stop speaking to me for no apparent reason. I don't think you should assume that you did anything to turn him off.  |
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Post by Emma on May 23, 2011 17:26:43 GMT -5
Dentelle, there are TONS of devs on disabled dating sites. I actually think that is why there are so many of them. Most disabled people are not looking to date other people with disabilities so devs fit in perfectly. I met my husband on a disabled dating site and he was totally cool with me being on there.
Thats an impressive list Ruth! Brings me back to my days of online dating and reminds me how invested in it I was. I'm so happy to hear you had another date but is this a new guy or the same one?
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Post by dentelle on May 23, 2011 17:38:09 GMT -5
Hello Emma
I will try one of the sites. Maybe there are some other men in my area. Not just the one.......
I told my girls about my attraction to men in wheelchairs. But I said it wasn't every single one of them. They seemed ok with it.
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Post by ruthmadison on May 23, 2011 17:42:03 GMT -5
Hey Ruth! I was looking at some of those sites, but I am totally shy to go on them. I mean I would like to meet a wheeler. If I can find someone in my area that is. Would they mind an AB person to go on them? There's tons of able-bodied people on these sites! Of course, it will be pretty obvious to most people that you're a dev (some even allow you to put that in). The only way to avoid the assumption that you're a dev is if you give another reason why you're on the site. Like, for example, that you had a pleasant experience in the past dating a man who was disabled and it opened your mind to try it again. However, I would stay honest. You don't have to put that you are a dev, but just know that many people will assume that you are. Be prepared with how to answer those who write to you just to say, "Why are you here?" (I've found they rarely mean that in a negative, get out, kind of way, usually they are just extremely curious what would bring an AB girl to a disabled dating site) |
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Post by ruthmadison on May 23, 2011 17:43:01 GMT -5
Dentelle, there are TONS of devs on disabled dating sites. I actually think that is why there are so many of them. Most disabled people are not looking to date other people with disabilities so devs fit in perfectly. I met my husband on a disabled dating site and he was totally cool with me being on there. Thats an impressive list Ruth! Brings me back to my days of online dating and reminds me how invested in it I was. I'm so happy to hear you had another date but is this a new guy or the same one? New guy! The only man on whispers who lives in my state! |
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Post by ruthmadison on May 23, 2011 17:44:04 GMT -5
Well, I'm doing Match.com and OkCupid for searchable sites, I am on whispers4you, and I've made a list of more I'm going to try: I had a date on Friday. Again, I had a lot of fun. Good dinner, went to see Bridesmaid's, laughed a lot, but no kiss at the end. Today I had an email from him that he just didn't feel chemistry with me. Now that is what I've been begging guys for! So I still don't know exactly what I did that turned him off, but he had the decency to send a message and say that he wasn't feeling it. That allows me to have a lot more peace about it then when the guys just stop speaking to me for no apparent reason. I don't think you should assume that you did anything to turn him off. You're right, that's an awfully negative way to look at it. The point is, I think he absolutely did the right thing in writing to me and I wish more guys would do that! |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on May 23, 2011 18:43:50 GMT -5
I don't think you should assume that you did anything to turn him off. You're right, that's an awfully negative way to look at it. The point is, I think he absolutely did the right thing in writing to me and I wish more guys would do that! I agree! |
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Post by Emma on May 23, 2011 19:37:06 GMT -5
The only man on whispers who lives in my state! I don't think you should limit yourself just to guys in your state  |
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Post by dentelle on May 23, 2011 20:18:24 GMT -5
Hey Ruth Thanks for reassuring me there are other AB people on the sites. I do have something that I don't actually think of as a disability. I have some hearing loss. I think of it more as an annoyance. I've got hearing aids, but I can hear better without them. sigh. I signed up for a couple. We'll see what happens. |
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