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Post by Pony on Sept 2, 2011 11:36:07 GMT -5
Hey Peony, I just now run across your intro-thread, so welcome to da scary jungle. ; ) I do want to say it's cool you're in a happy relationship with a dude, even if he's AB!! lol This is the ONLY place you can say that. I don't think you have to run and tell him of this side of you. Most people will never understand, and my philosophy is don't reveal things that personal and challenging. I've told people things about me and paid a price later. Anyway, glad you're already lending your voice here...rock on!!
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Post by Peony on Sept 2, 2011 20:29:28 GMT -5
Hey Peony, I just now run across your intro-thread, so welcome to da scary jungle. ; ) I do want to say it's cool you're in a happy relationship with a dude, even if he's AB!! lol This is the ONLY place you can say that. I don't think you have to run and tell him of this side of you. Most people will never understand, and my philosophy is don't reveal things that personal and challenging. I've told people things about me and paid a price later. Anyway, glad you're already lending your voice here...rock on!! Hey Tony, thanks for your welcoming words! I agree with keeping certain aspects to yourself...I think there are always parts of yourself that can stay private in a relationship (be it friendship or sexual/loving), but still allows you incredible openness with a person. I think with personal and challenging stuff it's hard to know, as well...people who haven't 'gone through' much (which isn't meant to sound patronising or superior, but probably does) are less likely to understand all the emotional ramifications that it may have for another person, certain family or sexual dynamics for example. Some people also just don't appreciate the 'grey' areas in life, which is ok too! Anyway, thanks again, and sorry to hear you paid a price for sharing!
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Post by Pony on Sept 3, 2011 10:50:59 GMT -5
Ahhh yes, the 'grey' areas of life. I wish peeps were more open minded about things, but t's just people. I'llgo in a store, and sometimes people look like they've seen a ghost. I just ignore em, but it's only bcoz they just aren't used to seeing someone like me. I can understand...i mean, I don't look sick, so they're dying to know what they hell could be wrong. As for sexuality, I think I challenge most people's stupid stereotype of asexuality when hey see me...coz I'm a sexy lookin muthafucka!!!! lol
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Post by Peony on Sept 3, 2011 19:45:11 GMT -5
Ahhh yes, the 'grey' areas of life. I wish peeps were more open minded about things, but t's just people. I'llgo in a store, and sometimes people look like they've seen a ghost. I just ignore em, but it's only bcoz they just aren't used to seeing someone like me. I can understand...i mean, I don't look sick, so they're dying to know what they hell could be wrong. As for sexuality, I think I challenge most people's stupid stereotype of asexuality when hey see me...coz I'm a sexy lookin muthaf*cka!!!! lol Yep, the grey ones are my favourite! That must drive you nuts on the odd occasion...I hate overly nosey people with a passion sometimes. And sexiness is such an amazing thing. It has almost nothing to do with any conventions, it just kind of follows you like a delicious smell (which of course it is when you get down to the nitty gritty)...evidently some have it more than others ;D
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Post by Pony on Sept 3, 2011 21:10:40 GMT -5
Yeah, I'd be lying if I said it NEVER bothers me,especially those that lack any tact. I mean, at least, have a convrsation with me before you ask 'So, what happened to you?' I like to be seduced before I give up 'the goods.' lol
Sexiness is a powerful trait....makes me weak in the knees!! (silly pun lol) Never thought about the pheromones...i think sexiness comes in many packages!! And man, i love opening packages!!! lol
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Post by dentelle on Sept 4, 2011 7:46:42 GMT -5
lucretia and BA I suppose I'm an equal opportunity dev too Heck, I've dated everyone and not thought anything of it, until very recently; after finding PD. Sometimes I wish I had my innocence back, I was blissfully ignorant and they do say that ignorance is bliss XD @tony, I've never asked anyone 'So, what happened to you?' I'm too shy to ask and I figure it's not really my business and it's up to the person to tell me themselves. I'm an open book about myself, except for my Devness.
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Post by Pony on Sept 4, 2011 9:02:10 GMT -5
Dentelle, I don't really mind being asked, but there are those that stare for full minute, then first thing they say is 'what happened?' or even worse, 'what's your problem?' lol I never treat em bad, but I just figure they don't have much in theway of manners.
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Post by Peony on Sept 5, 2011 4:59:13 GMT -5
Dentelle, I don't really mind being asked, but there are those that stare for full minute, then first thing they say is 'what happened?' or even worse, 'what's your problem?' lol I never treat em bad, but I just figure they don't have much in theway of manners. Jesus. It's obvious *something* happened, right? And it's not like they actually need to know. Maybe I am just a cranky prude, but manners are f*cking hard to come by, sometimes (although, truth be told, American men are consistently more polite than most of the Antipodean ones).
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