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Post by SouthernCalGal on Apr 27, 2020 22:48:08 GMT -5
Yeah, no way to spot anything interesting. Since the gyms are closed, no chance in even seeing "my" gym crush 😒 I know! I haven't seen "my" grocery store para .
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2020 9:39:20 GMT -5
Yeah, no way to spot anything interesting. Since the gyms are closed, no chance in even seeing "my" gym crush 😒 Was he still going to your gym ? Had you managed to speak to him ? I think if i saw an attractive pwd regularily i would be obsessing about trying to start a conversation and dreaming up a million scenarios in my head 🙄 Delight, yeah, he was still going to my gym and I saw him often. I go to the gym at irregular times so it was never anything where I could say on which day exactly I would see him. I know vaguely when he goes. Striking up a conversation has crossed my mind a hundred times, but I think we are past that. I try to make eye contact with him when I feel courageous, but he has pretty much shut me down by trying very hard not to meet my eyes. He talks to no one, he looks at no one, but he is the epiphany of a wheeler I would very much like to meet. He is my age, attractive, fit, can still get himself into a standing position to transfer onto the machines, it drives me nuts. I watch with total fascination, it gets me so much at my dev core and it also eats on me a little because we are in this weird situation. For some reason I think he can sense my interest in him, we have literally worked out on machines right next to each other and his wheelchair is like right there in front of me, I go crazy inside, it even affects me physically. Like he would come up to a machine right next to me or across from me and I watch every move he makes. He is a regular guy really but exactly what I like. He seems so unreachable though. Idk if he is shy, stuck up, intimidated, maybe married or gay, knows about devs, who knows. I know my shyness is a barrier, I don't talk up people in real life. Like a teenager I carry a note for him around in my purse, I have thought about giving it to him or sticking it to his windshield or something. I know it's dumb but Idk what to do really. I am worried that one day he will disappear and I missed my chance. 😒 I had this situation with this guy years ago, not sure if you know the Walmart parking lot story with him, I wrote about it here...lost sight of him for two years and then the day my husband and son wanted to check out the gym and I only tagged along with no intention to join, the wheeler gets out of his truck while we park, this was also two years ago. Well, I totally joined the gym that day and here I am, still haven't talked to him 😥
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Post by feelsunshine on Apr 29, 2020 12:35:36 GMT -5
Wow, Dani thanks for the insight of your gym life. That was quite nice to read. Put all your mental strength together and come up to him when the two of you work out next to each other again and just say something like “hey, we’ve been working out together here forever but I never introduced myself - so hey, I’m Dani what’s your name?” I really think you should give it a try...
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Post by lisa on Apr 29, 2020 13:05:15 GMT -5
Oh, Dani, that sounds kind of hard. It would be hard for me as well to do "regular" stuff next to an attractive PWD... And I would be shy too. Too bad he doesn't make the first move and doesn't look at you anymore. :(
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2020 13:48:14 GMT -5
Dani i think you should try and have a casual conversation, Maybe when all this craziness is over you could just say "hi, ive seen you often in here but didnt speak and now i realise its important to take opportunities to maybe make new friends". I definitely feel like im not going to put things off or miss opportunities in life after this, whats the worst that will happen if we get ignored ? It would be the same as if we dont attempt to connect with people. I hope you will take the chance, youre an intelligent, caring and interesting woman...id be glad to be friends if i met you irl
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Post by feelsunshine on Apr 29, 2020 13:59:30 GMT -5
@delight said a good thing: “once this is over”. So yeah - you could approach him the first day you see him at the gym an go “good thing to be back here, right?” This could already be enough of an opener to figure out if he’s in for a chat.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2020 16:32:53 GMT -5
@delight said a good thing: “once this is over”. So yeah - you could approach him the first day you see him at the gym an go “good thing to be back here, right?” This could already be enough of an opener to figure out if he’s in for a chat. Exactly, I think it would be the perfect conversation starter and I think most of us will be glad to have contact with someone other that our immediate family. My daughter came home today and was happy to have chatted to a cashier, normally it would have meant nothing.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2020 18:22:10 GMT -5
Thanks for the encouragement ladies, you are sweet...it's a tough thing for me really because he affected me so much when I saw him for the first time years ago and then he pops back in my life like this and he affects me still. My husband knows too btw, he even asks if my eye candy was there when I was at the gym.
I told him the day we went there to check out the gym and wheeler gets out of his truck literally in front of our eyes. My son saw it too and asked me how the guy is standing but why is he getting into a wheelchair. Like he has this bar on the side of his truck and holds on to it walking along the truck and getting his chair out in the back. And when I realized that this was the same guy I saw two years earlier, I almost had a heart attack.
I have literally been at the gym and texted back and forth with my bestie trying to get her encouragement to talk to him while I am hyperventilating because of the guy but then still didn't have the guts. I have never talked to guys really, I wouldn't have been with any if they would have not made the first move, I don't even know how I am married 😃
I guess with him I kinda tried the smile and all and there was only once when he had no choice but to look at me in passing and I smiled at him and a tiny smile brushed over his face, but after that nothing really happened anymore. And it's maybe just my crazy self but his close presence really gets to me. He avoids looking at me...so yeah, we will see, I will keep you updated once this Covid crap is over. Writing about him makes me realize I miss seeing him.
Maybe he is too shy as well, Idk...anyways, thanks for listening dev sisters 💕
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Post by feelsunshine on Jun 2, 2020 16:11:15 GMT -5
I had a wheeler spotting today 😍 I went out with my female friend (who knows I’m a dev) to dinner for Burgers and fries and afterwards we stopped by at a lake to take a walk around it (as, of course we were so stuffed after dinner and dessert). So when we came back towards our car there was this couple who walked their two Labrador dogs just in front of us. He was a gorgeous wheeler, strong upper arm muscles, shaved hair, almost bold, black T-shirt and you were able to see a glimpse of his tattoos on his arms. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to get a glimpse of his face. Obviously he was a DAK. It was like 10 minutes we just walked behind this couple. Great experience. After all this sitting at home time, it was actually my second time out for a dinner in a restaurant and getting this view was the „dot on the i“ as we say here in Germany.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2020 19:23:18 GMT -5
I still get emails from an online dating site despite not being active there for ages. Earlier this week I had a profile sent and it was of a really handsome paraplegic ! I was stunned, it was the first pwd I’d come across on that site and he was reasonably local to me.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2020 19:28:01 GMT -5
feelsunshineThis sounds awesome. I miss having these opportunities for sightings with literally nothing going on. I miss seeing my gym crush too...
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Post by feelsunshine on Jun 3, 2020 1:30:28 GMT -5
feelsunshineThis sounds awesome. I miss having these opportunities for sightings with literally nothing going on. I miss seeing my gym crush too... Any chances that your gym is going to open soon? In Germany, people are already back on the treadmill.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2020 13:30:49 GMT -5
feelsunshineThis sounds awesome. I miss having these opportunities for sightings with literally nothing going on. I miss seeing my gym crush too... Any chances that your gym is going to open soon? In Germany, people are already back on the treadmill. Not all the way sure, I think some are opening up already with half capacity...my gym hasn't sent any notifications yet...hopefully soon because it not only makes it impossible to see my gym crush 😉it also affects me physically and psychologically, working out at home is not the same
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Jun 10, 2020 15:20:34 GMT -5
I'm on a wheeler spotting dry spell - HELP!!!!!
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Post by blueskye101 on Jun 10, 2020 17:43:27 GMT -5
I'm on a wheeler spotting dry spell - HELP!!!!! Utube and Instagram to the rescue 😉
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