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Post by laur on Feb 23, 2018 16:48:42 GMT -5
I’m a serial lurker here (even though I joined like 10 years ago and have been a dev my entire life), but am going through a hardcore dev spell lately. These videos are so rad. Thanks for being so awesome by making them, mrniceguy. Thank you for the positive feedback. If there’s anything else you want to see or are curious about (within reason, it is YouTube), I’ll try to accommodate. My rehab doctor actually asked me to make some with a little more production value to share with her other SCI patients. We’re doing that sometime in April so I’ll share the links on here if I can. And best of luck with your dev spell.  Look at you, starring it up as a handsome actor! Ha, thanks, I’m just embracing the current dev intensity like I do whenever it gets heightened for me. I feel lucky to have found this site as a late teen originally (now in my upper 20s - where does time go?!) which really helped me better understand this aspect of me and I always come back again and again! I’m really glad PD exists.  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2018 18:12:30 GMT -5
Thank you for the positive feedback. If there’s anything else you want to see or are curious about (within reason, it is YouTube), I’ll try to accommodate. My rehab doctor actually asked me to make some with a little more production value to share with her other SCI patients. We’re doing that sometime in April so I’ll share the links on here if I can. And best of luck with your dev spell. Look at you, starring it up as a handsome actor! Ha, thanks, I’m just embracing the current dev intensity like I do whenever it gets heightened for me. I feel lucky to have found this site as a late teen originally (now in my upper 20s - where does time go?!) which really helped me better understand this aspect of me and I always come back again and again! I’m really glad PD exists. "Actor" is a pretty big stretch. (I'll totally take the "handsome" part, though) And I'm desperately clinging to my last few months of my 30s, I feel your pain. But it is awesome that you found this place, and maybe yourself, so early and stuck around. Do you think it helps or hurts in your AB relationship? |
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Post by laur on Feb 23, 2018 19:30:09 GMT -5
Look at you, starring it up as a handsome actor! Ha, thanks, I’m just embracing the current dev intensity like I do whenever it gets heightened for me. I feel lucky to have found this site as a late teen originally (now in my upper 20s - where does time go?!) which really helped me better understand this aspect of me and I always come back again and again! I’m really glad PD exists. "Actor" is a pretty big stretch. (I'll totally take the "handsome" part, though) And I'm desperately clinging to my last few months of my 30s, I feel your pain. But it is awesome that you found this place, and maybe yourself, so early and stuck around. Do you think it helps or hurts in your AB relationship? Hmm, good question! Definitely hurts more than helps, mostly at times like the last few months when I'm in the type of dev "heat" I've been in recently. In my sexual me time, I don't fantasize about AB dudes ever to be honest. It just doesn't turn me on with the same intensity. My preference toward guys who are paralyzed has always been very solid in my brain. That being said, in reality, it's not very easy to meet a guy who is paralyzed, let alone one who also is attractive to me outside of that too. I have other things that make me attracted to a partner, both physical (snuggly, bearded, lumberjack-ish, tall) and personality-wise (intelligent, kind, funny, considerate, animal lover, easy to talk to), and he does have all of those traits. So, it's tricky, even if he doesn't have what I'd consider to be a major aspect that turns me on sexually. Basically, in moments where I'm on a dev high, no matter what, he can't satisfy me sexually as well as would optimally be the case at times like these, you know? I'm open with him though and have told him that I'm really attracted to dudes that are paralyzed, which is a big deal to me since I don't really talk about this aspect of me. He's cool with it. I appreciate that he accepts that major part of me. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2018 19:51:50 GMT -5
"Actor" is a pretty big stretch. (I'll totally take the "handsome" part, though) And I'm desperately clinging to my last few months of my 30s, I feel your pain. But it is awesome that you found this place, and maybe yourself, so early and stuck around. Do you think it helps or hurts in your AB relationship? Hmm, good question! Definitely hurts more than helps, mostly at times like the last few months when I'm in the type of dev "heat" I've been in recently. In my sexual me time, I don't fantasize about AB dudes ever to be honest. It just doesn't turn me on with the same intensity. My preference toward guys who are paralyzed has always been very solid in my brain. That being said, in reality, it's not very easy to meet a guy who is paralyzed, let alone one who also is attractive to me outside of that too. I have other things that make me attracted to a partner, both physical (snuggly, bearded, lumberjack-ish, tall) and personality-wise (intelligent, kind, funny, considerate, animal lover, easy to talk to), and he does have all of those traits. So, it's tricky, even if he doesn't have what I'd consider to be a major aspect that turns me on sexually. Basically, in moments where I'm on a dev high, no matter what, he can't satisfy me sexually as well as would optimally be the case at times like these, you know? I'm open with him though and have told him that I'm really attracted to dudes that are paralyzed, which is a big deal to me since I don't really talk about this aspect of me. He's cool with it. I appreciate that he accepts that major part of me. That’s pretty awesome that he’s so cool with it. I honestly don’t know how I’d react if my SO had a strong preference for something that I couldn’t give her. |
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Post by laur on Feb 23, 2018 20:08:53 GMT -5
Hmm, good question! Definitely hurts more than helps, mostly at times like the last few months when I'm in the type of dev "heat" I've been in recently. In my sexual me time, I don't fantasize about AB dudes ever to be honest. It just doesn't turn me on with the same intensity. My preference toward guys who are paralyzed has always been very solid in my brain. That being said, in reality, it's not very easy to meet a guy who is paralyzed, let alone one who also is attractive to me outside of that too. I have other things that make me attracted to a partner, both physical (snuggly, bearded, lumberjack-ish, tall) and personality-wise (intelligent, kind, funny, considerate, animal lover, easy to talk to), and he does have all of those traits. So, it's tricky, even if he doesn't have what I'd consider to be a major aspect that turns me on sexually. Basically, in moments where I'm on a dev high, no matter what, he can't satisfy me sexually as well as would optimally be the case at times like these, you know? I'm open with him though and have told him that I'm really attracted to dudes that are paralyzed, which is a big deal to me since I don't really talk about this aspect of me. He's cool with it. I appreciate that he accepts that major part of me. That’s pretty awesome that he’s so cool with it. I honestly don’t know how I’d react if my SO had a strong preference for something that I couldn’t give her. I agree. To top it off, I told him for the first time sort-of by accident when I was really drunk (whoops), so it most definitely could've went much more poorly! I don't think he really gets the full extent/depth of how much I prefer the dev stuff though, to be fair, but I feel like going any further than telling him the basics of that sexual preference for me really would just make him feel not-so-great, which isn't what I want to do.  I struggle with that aspect of myself a lot when I date AB dudes. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2018 20:17:41 GMT -5
That’s pretty awesome that he’s so cool with it. I honestly don’t know how I’d react if my SO had a strong preference for something that I couldn’t give her. I agree. To top it off, I told him for the first time sort-of by accident when I was really drunk (whoops), so it most definitely could've went much more poorly! I don't think he really gets the full extent/depth of how much I prefer the dev stuff though, to be fair, but I feel like going any further than telling him the basics of that sexual preference for me really would just make him feel not-so-great, which isn't what I want to do. I struggle with that aspect of myself a lot when I date AB dudes. I can imagine it would feel the same to me if my girlfriend told me about her preference for really rough sex (obviously I’m not throwing anyone around lol).. I definitely don’t think id want to hear details. Have you ever dated or been with a disabled guy? |
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Post by laur on Feb 23, 2018 20:26:44 GMT -5
I agree. To top it off, I told him for the first time sort-of by accident when I was really drunk (whoops), so it most definitely could've went much more poorly! I don't think he really gets the full extent/depth of how much I prefer the dev stuff though, to be fair, but I feel like going any further than telling him the basics of that sexual preference for me really would just make him feel not-so-great, which isn't what I want to do. I struggle with that aspect of myself a lot when I date AB dudes. I can imagine it would feel the same to me if my girlfriend told me about her preference for really rough sex (obviously I’m not throwing anyone around lol).. I definitely don’t think id want to hear details. Have you ever dated or been with a disabled guy? No, unfortunately not, despite the fact that this has always been so intense for me. All of my relationships have happened through meeting guys in person (I guess I'm just too charming for my own good, hahaha), and Massachusetts isn't really bursting at the seams with individuals who are my ideal type. I guess living where it snows like a million feet all the time isn't ideal for my taste for dudes in wheelchairs. But then again, I lived in Florida for two years and didn't have any luck there either when I was single (in fact, I liked Floridians even less, lol), so I might simply always have had bad luck in that arena! |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2018 20:30:40 GMT -5
I can imagine it would feel the same to me if my girlfriend told me about her preference for really rough sex (obviously I’m not throwing anyone around lol).. I definitely don’t think id want to hear details. Have you ever dated or been with a disabled guy? No, unfortunately not, despite the fact that this has always been so intense for me. All of my relationships have happened through meeting guys in person (I guess I'm just too charming for my own good, hahaha), and Massachusetts isn't really bursting at the seams with individuals who are my ideal type. I guess living where it snows like a million feet all the time isn't ideal for my taste for dudes in wheelchairs. But then again, I lived in Florida for two years and didn't have any luck there either when I was single, so I might simply always have had bad luck in that arena! I live in Wisconsin and work outside quite a bit and I do okay, so don’t give up hope! But welcome to the shallow end of the dating pool. Haha! Wait, maybe I shouldn’t laugh at that, it actually sucks. |
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Post by laur on Feb 23, 2018 20:46:36 GMT -5
No, unfortunately not, despite the fact that this has always been so intense for me. All of my relationships have happened through meeting guys in person (I guess I'm just too charming for my own good, hahaha), and Massachusetts isn't really bursting at the seams with individuals who are my ideal type. I guess living where it snows like a million feet all the time isn't ideal for my taste for dudes in wheelchairs. But then again, I lived in Florida for two years and didn't have any luck there either when I was single, so I might simply always have had bad luck in that arena! I live in Wisconsin and work outside quite a bit and I do okay, so don’t give up hope! But welcome to the shallow end of the dating pool. Haha! Wait, maybe I shouldn’t laugh at that, it actually sucks. Funnily enough, this month, I visited the midwest for the first time ever during a trip to Chicago and was greeted by a whole bunch of snow there too. It follows me! But yeah, I'd agree that it is bittersweet for sure. That being said, I'm such a forever optimist and glass-half-full lady, so I am still really grateful for all that life has brought my way, even if I don't get to fulfill those dev desires with some wonderful guy as fully as I would like in an ideal world. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2018 21:16:46 GMT -5
I live in Wisconsin and work outside quite a bit and I do okay, so don’t give up hope! But welcome to the shallow end of the dating pool. Haha! Wait, maybe I shouldn’t laugh at that, it actually sucks. Funnily enough, this month, I visited the midwest for the first time ever during a trip to Chicago and was greeted by a whole bunch of snow there too. It follows me! But yeah, I'd agree that it is bittersweet for sure. That being said, I'm such a forever optimist and glass-half-full lady, so I am still really grateful for all that life has brought my way, even if I don't get to fulfill those dev desires with some wonderful guy as fully as I would like in an ideal world. I’m a couple hours north of Chicago and I’m pretty sure they got more snow than we did this year, so far. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2018 17:38:10 GMT -5
I will never get over how different it is to watch myself do something that I do as routine. In my mind, it's not drastically different than how everyone else does things.
*SPOILER ALERT*
The batteries were in the wrong way but I figured it out after only five minutes of fumbling like an idiot.
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Post by marmar on Mar 15, 2018 18:50:56 GMT -5
These videos are amazing and actually pretty educational!! I’ve been enjoying them 😭 I was wondering if you could do one on spasms? I saw that in one vid your hand spasmed and you don’t reallh see quad vids of spasms other than legs? I’m sorry if this is too intrusive ahhh
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2018 19:25:36 GMT -5
These videos are amazing and actually pretty educational!! I’ve been enjoying them 😭 I was wondering if you could do one on spasms? I saw that in one vid your hand spasmed and you don’t reallh see quad vids of spasms other than legs? I’m sorry if this is too intrusive ahhh Thanks. First of all, ask anyone here and they’ll tell you that nothing is too intrusive. lol Yeah, I post them more for other wheelers a lot of times in hopes that they can help someone adapt stuff to make their own lives a little easier. Obviously I figured devs would like them, too. I think you probably see more leg spasms because, at least in my case, they’re more predictable and easier to cause. But if there’s interest, I can try to get some in a video. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2018 16:28:52 GMT -5
Here's another one...
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I struggle with that aspect of myself a lot when I date AB dudes. 