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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2006 17:14:12 GMT -5
Dear everyone,
I'm new to this site and although I made my first introduction on the general board yesterday, I though perhaps I should do so also in this section. So, hello. Also, I was just curious how many of you post here looking for something in particular and how many of you are just 'looking'?
Izzy
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Post by vivi on Jun 27, 2006 20:10:59 GMT -5
Welcome Iz... What do you mean looking in particular? To see this board as a personals section to meet a guy? ...Could work I guess. Anyway, I'm just 'looking'... I've met interesting people here and everyone has been great.  |
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Post by mrjefffurz on Jun 27, 2006 23:23:57 GMT -5
jus lookin,,,lookin for more than a grrl to do my cookin..honestly...i came o'er here after AB's invite to see if there really were female devzes...but...if there was a loverly lady who showed just a smidgen of interest,,,who knows...this place sure beats the "real world" where a woman cant see beyond the bright red quickie,,,
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Post by wheelie37 on Jun 28, 2006 0:52:22 GMT -5
I have exchanged emails and talked online via yahoo messenger and even web cammed a couple of times with a few of the lovely ladies on this site I think a lot of people would like to meet, but from the wheelchair users side it is distance and access, and finances that may be a problem , where as from the devotees side, it is getting the courage to actually meet a wheeler in real life, and also distance and finances can be a problem too. |
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Post by E on Jun 28, 2006 9:56:56 GMT -5
I'm mostly just fascinated by the whole idea -- and plus everyone is super-nice. Kinda like what Jeff was saying, though.. If the right gal forced herself into my view, I wouldn't necessarily turn her away.
Unrelated -- and off-topic -- the first woman I ever met in person that I thought was for-sure a devotee just started working at this Irish pub I frequent. She's rather engaged now, but... still interesting.
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Post by vivi on Jun 28, 2006 10:56:53 GMT -5
Wheelie, it is not courage to meet a wheeler in real life... It mas mostly to do with distance, finances, and sometimes responsabilities at home.
I have said to a number of guys that I would be willing to travel, and I will... But some places are easier to get to than others.
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Post by wheelie37 on Jun 29, 2006 0:56:19 GMT -5
Wheelie, it is not courage to meet a wheeler in real life... It mas mostly to do with distance, finances, and sometimes responsibilities at home. I have said to a number of guys that I would be willing to travel, and I will... But some places are easier to get to than others. all very true, but as to the courage to meet a wheeler, I was going by some earlier posts in threads where members of the board have mentioned things like "sightings" etc, but are too nervous to talk to a wheeler. Also about "coming out" as a devotee. |
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Post by Enid on Jun 29, 2006 4:30:41 GMT -5
all very true, but as to the courage to meet a wheeler, I was going by some earlier posts in threads where members of the board have mentioned things like "sightings" etc, but are too nervous to talk to a wheeler. Also about "coming out" as a devotee. True, but those are different things. You aren't as nervous when that gorgeous girl you have in front of you is somebody you know and have talked to. "Sightings" are perfect strangers you don't know a thing about, it's way way harder to talk to somebody like that (AB, wheeler, or whatever, same thing if you're attracted to them). Coming out shouldn't be an issue for people on this board either, right? We're gonna assume people understand why we're all here. So it all boils down to the same thing for both parties, it's mainly distance, money, having the time, the possibility (I live off my parents, and I can't go to another country to meet a man, they'd freak out). Access is also an issue for us, 'cause you know? I usually have people come to my place, but it isn't accessible, and there's no way I'm going to stay in somebody's house if they live with their parents (which happens often), unless they're a girl my age and we can pass it off as friends (I did that with my ex ;D ). Sure, I could stay in a hostel or something, but the money I have is very little, there isn't that much to spare, so the trips is usually enough of a financial problem to worry about. |
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Post by vivi on Jun 29, 2006 17:44:31 GMT -5
Sightings are tricky... You also don't want to appear as a stalker, and who knows what is going through the guy's mind wne he sees you looking at him. I am really shy in real life, and have trouble coming up with reasons to apprach people, need to keep working on that.
BUT, thanks you your advice in here, I have become a lot bolder at eye contact and smiling at guys.
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Post by E on Jun 30, 2006 15:27:55 GMT -5
Sightings are tricky... You also don't want to appear as a stalker, and who knows what is going through the guy's mind wne he sees you looking at him. I am really shy in real life, and have trouble coming up with reasons to apprach people, need to keep working on that. BUT, thanks you your advice in here, I have become a lot bolder at eye contact and smiling at guys. Just stalk me. Seriously. Walk right up, smile big, introduce yourself, and ask what I'm doing tonight. Worst case scenario? You get blown off. Happens to me all the time -- because I do this all the time (I fall in love 10 times a day). But... sometimes it pays off. Was eating at one of my favorite spots, Dada, and this sofla chickie buffer just came and sat at my table to hang out. Didn't mind one bit.  |
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Post by Pony on Jun 30, 2006 16:44:10 GMT -5
...as these meetings, or "sightings" go, i've met girls on internet, then in-person before, and it's like Enid said, they aren't a stranger by that time. In fact, it can be VERY comfortable after you've spent time on phone, chatting n email. Some years ago i posted my pic on AOL gallery, lots of people did, and i got an email from a girl in Delaware...we started talking, we were both musicians and just had cool chemistry. Well, it eventually became HOTT chemistry, and we had some intense phone-sex...all this BEFORE she knew i was in chair! I know it sounds crazy, but i was didn't want to change the color of our relationship, but after i saw she was REALLY into me i told her all about it. She cried, but fell in love anyway. Long story made short, she flew to Florida 2-3 times a year, stayed on the beach in hotel. We had GREAT relationship...she met my buddiies, we hung out at her hotel a lot, we had probably the most intense sex i ever had and she's still a friend, only friend now. She had great job and family in delaware, and there's no way i was moving there, so after 2 yrs we moved on, but it was very comfy with her from beginning. I still remember picking her up at airport, driving her to hotel room...making out the 1st time in room, etc. A lot can happen when two minds REALLY dig each other...chair can disappear!!
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Post by Triassic on Jun 30, 2006 21:07:21 GMT -5
What's a 'chickie buffer'? eh?
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Post by E on Jun 30, 2006 21:42:48 GMT -5
What's a 'chickie buffer'? eh? A cute female? I dunno. |
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Post by wheeledone on Jul 1, 2006 8:28:24 GMT -5
What's a 'chickie buffer'? eh? It's like those car washes at the gas station, only when you put the token in this one, it buffs and shines young, nubile female bodies. I have one in my backyard. --J |
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Post by Triassic on Jul 1, 2006 10:58:15 GMT -5
That idea of a dev introducing herself by saying that she used to date a guy in a chair-even if it isn't true-is not bad...not bad at all.
I'm not in favor of lying-even slightly-but in this case it would be OK, I think. 1, It breaks the ice, and 2, it indicates that you consider wheelers to be b/f material, without blurting it out some way.
Something like this would probably work:
"Hi!...I hope you don't mind; I was looking at your chair: is that a Quickie2? This guy I used to date used one of those."
Any guy on this board could take it from there.
Obviously, the Gold Standard is just straightforwardly saying hi and introducing yourself. But if that is not possible, this could work.
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