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Post by linda on Sept 20, 2019 7:51:00 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
my boyfriend‘s birthday is coming up, and since it is his first season „out in real life“ as a para, I am thinking of something useful for him that he might himself not know about yet. Any ideas are welcome. Thank you!
Linda
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Post by furby89 on Sept 20, 2019 9:01:59 GMT -5
@ Raaspberi. This could be a possible idea ;-) But thats something to set aside for later in the evening :-)
Maybe a nice trip outdoors could also be nice. I would check his holiday calender and surprise him with a short weekend where you can relax together. Maybe he has talked about a nice region he wants to visit in future? A nice weekend in a hotel with Spa & wellness could also be an option. Does he love swimming?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2019 9:05:47 GMT -5
Hello everyone, my boyfriend‘s birthday is coming up, and since it is his first season „out in real life“ as a para, I am thinking of something useful for him that he might himself not know about yet. Any ideas are welcome. Thank you! Linda Ummmm, what does he like? I find this to be a really odd question. I know as a dev that you’re excited to have found a para that fits what you’re into and I’m sincerely happy for you both. But I guarantee that he’s less excited about his injury than you are.  He’s got the rest of his life to figure out equipment and adaptations and daily living shit, a day without dealing with all of that might be more of a gift. |
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Post by linda on Sept 20, 2019 9:27:16 GMT -5
Hello everyone, my boyfriend‘s birthday is coming up, and since it is his first season „out in real life“ as a para, I am thinking of something useful for him that he might himself not know about yet. Any ideas are welcome. Thank you! Linda Ummmm, what does he like? I find this to be a really odd question. I know as a dev that you’re excited to have found a para that fits what you’re into and I’m sincerely happy for you both. But I guarantee that he’s less excited about his injury than you are. He’s got the rest of his life to figure out equipment and adaptations and daily living shit, a day without dealing with all of that might be more of a gift. That’s a good point too, @mrniceguy. Thank you! I‘m going to think about it. |
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Post by linda on Sept 20, 2019 9:31:43 GMT -5
That is a very valid point indeed, @mrniceguy, the more I think about it. So not for his birthday.
But apart from that I‘d still be interested in learning what could be useful.
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Post by linda on Sept 20, 2019 9:34:40 GMT -5
@ Raaspberi. This could be a possible idea ;-) But thats something to set aside for later in the evening :-) Maybe a nice trip outdoors could also be nice. I would check his holiday calender and surprise him with a short weekend where you can relax together. Maybe he has talked about a nice region he wants to visit in future? A nice weekend in a hotel with Spa & wellness could also be an option. Does he love swimming? A nice idea, I would love that. He hasn’t tried swimming yet. We were planning to try that out someday. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2019 9:43:15 GMT -5
That is a very valid point indeed, @mrniceguy, the more I think about it. So not for his birthday. But apart from that I‘d still be interested in learning what could be useful. Don’t go looking for solutions to problems without having a specific goal in mind. There’s so much stuff out there and it’s easy to just buy crap because it looks like it would be useful. Instead, take a specific task that you have difficulty doing and figure out what would make it easier. Then go look for something that addresses that need. |
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Post by furby89 on Sept 20, 2019 10:03:16 GMT -5
@ Raaspberi. This could be a possible idea ;-) But thats something to set aside for later in the evening :-) Maybe a nice trip outdoors could also be nice. I would check his holiday calender and surprise him with a short weekend where you can relax together. Maybe he has talked about a nice region he wants to visit in future? A nice weekend in a hotel with Spa & wellness could also be an option. Does he love swimming? A nice idea, I would love that. He hasn’t tried swimming yet. We were planning to try that out someday. He would love it for sure. To me it's a pleasure. I love swimming indeed :-) Maybe i swim in the lake Gerardmer in France this year. It's in the Vosges. Wonderul scenery there... Also good for hiking. Above in the mountains vou've got a stunning view to the lake ;-) |
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Post by feelsunshine on Sept 20, 2019 13:05:25 GMT -5
Maybe i swim in the lake Gerardmer in France this year. you know, that the cold season is about to start, right? |
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Post by furby89 on Sept 20, 2019 14:17:57 GMT -5
Yes, but you know im a special person. So the water isn't for everyone. Only for the tough ones ;-)
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Post by feelsunshine on Sept 20, 2019 15:31:46 GMT -5
Yes, but you know im a special person. So the water isn't for everyone. Only for the tough ones ;-) Challenge accepted ... hmmmm... naaah... just kidding... I won't go in there this time a year... you won ;-) |
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Sept 20, 2019 15:35:16 GMT -5
Yes, but you know im a special person. So the water isn't for everyone. Only for the tough ones ;-) Now THAT's the spirit! |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2019 16:20:06 GMT -5
Much like mrniceguy said, i think you could chill out a little. I get the initial excitement of a new relationship, especially if its also pushing your dev buttons but....maybe he would like to just be a regular guy with you. Not focussing on his injury ?
I can pretty much guarantee its something he has to consider a LOT, he probably doesnt need it to be your main focus as well.
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Post by wonk on Sept 20, 2019 16:21:20 GMT -5
It really is a tough one, with no simple answer. Hopefully whatever you decide on he will appreciate the thought and consideration you have shown.
I like the idea of an experience rather than equipment, however even this is tricky. As an example I was an A grade tennis player before my injury, and even though I still had the hand-eye coordination I found my inability to move around the court to be very frustrating.
On the other hand I was interested in cars and racing, and I came to love it more. If you were near Vegas I would suggest a place that allows you to drive supercars and they put hand controls in ferarris etc.
Maybe the nurburgring has something similar??
I realise what I am suggesting is what I am interested in.
Don't overthink it, dinner and some 'fun' might just make him the happiest guy in the world.
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Post by dave78 on Sept 20, 2019 18:00:22 GMT -5
Creating a memory is definitely the right direction to take. Think of what he likes and make sure it is something that he can easily do. This creates a lasting memory without triggering frustration regarding his disability.
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He’s got the rest of his life to figure out equipment and adaptations and daily living shit, a day without dealing with all of that might be more of a gift. 
