Post by wcguy on Nov 10, 2006 23:41:28 GMT -5
I am an early 30s married male wheelchair user. I have read with interest the feelings that some devotees have that the complications of becoming involved with a pwd mean that their devotee desires will remain a fantasy. I have the inverse problem; I love my wife and do not want to break up. However after many years of fights, counseling, romantic dinners, romantic getaways, poems, dildos, vibrators, porn, kissing, hugging, chocolate, and love notes, I have concluded that my disability has made me no longer physically attractive to my wife and there is nothing I can do to bring our sex life to anywhere near what it was before.
It is with both sadness and trepidation that I decided to consider intimacy outside of my marriage. I understand that some people would conclude I am a bad person for that. My disability has made my life too complicated to remain tethered to rigid concepts of black and white; there is gray.
Paying for sex is not a solution for me. One of the things I miss is being desired physically. Sex for hire would not address this issue any better than various things I have already tried within my marriage.
What am I am looking for? I know that am NOT looking for a girlfriend, mistress, or nymphomanic. I am more of a "twice a week" than a "twice a day" kind of guy. I am looking for one (just one) woman who wants to indulge the devotee feelings without any strings or guilt. Ideally it would be someone in a situation similar to mine. Age 27-40 would be nice but I would consider outside that age range. My body is not perfect and I would not expect yours to be. However I do keep as trim as possible within my limits and would want someone with a similar attitude and who most people would not consider overweight. The ability to travel is needed. I can pay for as many expenses as are nececssary; however only through reimbursement.
I am looking for someone interested in the things friends normally do together; but also some initmate fun. We would get together only a few times a year. Our time would include relaxation, dinners, drinks, shows, and some sightseeing. I like to think of it as the kind of "weekend getaway" that a couple might have.
I ask that you not take offense to this posting. I am not suggesting that devotees are more likely to overlook cheating. Rather, maybe devotees are more willing to see things as shades of gray, because in looking through the posts on this site it is possible that devoteeism is almost like a disability. Devotees are incredibly limited in their options for relationships with pwds; and yet the devotee feelings are not easily cast aside.
It is with both sadness and trepidation that I decided to consider intimacy outside of my marriage. I understand that some people would conclude I am a bad person for that. My disability has made my life too complicated to remain tethered to rigid concepts of black and white; there is gray.
Paying for sex is not a solution for me. One of the things I miss is being desired physically. Sex for hire would not address this issue any better than various things I have already tried within my marriage.
What am I am looking for? I know that am NOT looking for a girlfriend, mistress, or nymphomanic. I am more of a "twice a week" than a "twice a day" kind of guy. I am looking for one (just one) woman who wants to indulge the devotee feelings without any strings or guilt. Ideally it would be someone in a situation similar to mine. Age 27-40 would be nice but I would consider outside that age range. My body is not perfect and I would not expect yours to be. However I do keep as trim as possible within my limits and would want someone with a similar attitude and who most people would not consider overweight. The ability to travel is needed. I can pay for as many expenses as are nececssary; however only through reimbursement.
I am looking for someone interested in the things friends normally do together; but also some initmate fun. We would get together only a few times a year. Our time would include relaxation, dinners, drinks, shows, and some sightseeing. I like to think of it as the kind of "weekend getaway" that a couple might have.
I ask that you not take offense to this posting. I am not suggesting that devotees are more likely to overlook cheating. Rather, maybe devotees are more willing to see things as shades of gray, because in looking through the posts on this site it is possible that devoteeism is almost like a disability. Devotees are incredibly limited in their options for relationships with pwds; and yet the devotee feelings are not easily cast aside.
