DEVS ONLY - SCI level

[ella97]

Anywhere from a C4-C6 is my absolute favorite. The guy I've dated is a C5.

[lizzy]

Good to see this thread revived.

There is a huge difference between C6 and C4. Literally the difference between independence and requiring daily assistance.

Also (reading back) there seems to be the (wrong) assumption that incomplete injury means full feeling but no movement.

Just Lizzy's take. Happy days, ladies and gents

[ayla]

As @lilyinblossom said, it varies so much because no two injuries are identical. I find that my attraction mostly has to do with the balance between strength and weakness. I love the contrast, some parts of the body being weak and atrophied while other parts have become overdeveloped through compensation. If the injury is too low, the strong part is too dominant. If the injury is too high, the weak part is too dominant. Too much of either and my devness doesn't respond. This is not strictly related to level of injury either -- I have seen some very independent and capable quads and some very impaired paras. For me, it's that magic alchemy of paralyzed and non paralyzed parts of the body working together that ticks my boxes.

[ayla]

I agree with you that spasticity can also be attractive. Again, for me personally, it’s about that balance. In whatever way the pwd’s body is “different,” what I personally enjoy is the contrast between parts that are affected and parts that aren’t.

[sheene]

For me it used to always be any level complete para. Now I’m more into tetraplegics. C6 would be fantasy

[dutchdev]

Can someone explain me why some prefer acquired over congenital? Within SCI? I assume we are talking SB here? And does that also apply to really young acquired SCI? Just curious, since my fantasy’s are more in congenital than SCI I don’t really have as detailed an opinion on the level of SCI.

[tanya]

Jan 21, 2024 1:28:15 GMT -5 dutchdev said:

Can someone explain me why some prefer acquired over congenital? Within SCI? I assume we are talking SB here? And does that also apply to really young acquired SCI? Just curious, since my fantasy’s are more in congenital than SCI I don’t really have as detailed an opinion on the level of SCI.

For me I prefer congenital too (SB in particular) so I'm also interested to hear people's thoughts on this. I think from reading the forum for a while now most of the opinions from people whose preference is acquired over congenital is around the way the body was once fully able bodied and one day something has happened to disrupt the signals from the brain through spinal cord and it's resulted, in an instant, in parts of the body being permanently paralysed and then becoming weaker. In particular how the legs are still fully attached but have become totally non-functioning.

For me my preference in congenital SCI is around how the body was born with disability in mind and so the legs are shorter and non-functioning, the feet are smaller and often deformed but the upper body is often looking normal. I like how a guy's body was born disabled and he's found a way to adapt and accept his body for what it is, in a way that a guy with acquired SCI may really struggle with.

Congenital SCI guys have all the same daily struggles as an acquired SCI guy without the denial of what their life has become and a desire to revert back to their once normal, able bodied and fully independent life.

They know their limitations and aren't afraid to ask for help when required and I just find that extremely devvy.

[ayla]

Every person adjusts in their own way and sometimes those with congenital disabilities have the same difficulties with self-acceptance, especially since they may have trauma/missed opportunities around sexual awakening and exploration in puberty. I think it's safe to say that the vast majority of dev women are attracted to a pwd partner who has adapted and accepted himself (to a reasonable degree of course). I'm equally attracted to congenital vs. acquired childhood/adult paralysis; it's more about the person himself.

[ichbin]

Jan 21, 2024 1:28:15 GMT -5 dutchdev said:

Can someone explain me why some prefer acquired over congenital? Within SCI? I assume we are talking SB here? And does that also apply to really young acquired SCI? Just curious, since my fantasy’s are more in congenital than SCI I don’t really have as detailed an opinion on the level of SCI.

For me I like men who have acquired SCIs because of the personality they have become through this. They have to adapt to their new situation, rethink everything, accept their new selves, in one word become a person who has had to go some really difficult times and therefore has some sort of "depth" to them that a person without a disability (or some other sort of difficult stroke of fate) often does not have. 

I have met a couple of guys with SB. They have beautiful bodies, too. In another way beautiful. The even skinnier legs and smaller / deformed feet... very attractive as well! 

But for me there's more to a guy with an acquired SCI. It's not just the look, but their history and out of it resulting character that's appealing to me. Also, the showing of weak feelings like grief or sadness about the loss, I find that sexy! 

[dannyboy95]

For me it isn't really so much about the level of the injury than rather the way it effects the body. I don't have one specific preference but complete or partial flaccidness is definitely a big part of it. Also lack of sensation.

[tanya]

Feb 6, 2024 9:07:12 GMT -5 dannyboy95 said:

For me it isn't really so much about the level of the injury than rather the way it effects the body. I don't have one specific preference but complete or partial flaccidness is definitely a big part of it. Also lack of sensation.

Yeah a lack of sensation below the level of the lesion/injury is a pretty big trigger for me too. I am fascinated how signals from the brain can be disrupted to areas of the body which are below the level of lesion/injury and I am really intrigued how it must feel to have zero feeling in your lower body but still to have these parts attached to your body and moving around parts you know are there but you can't feel.

I also have a thing for impotence. Seeing a guy who wants to get hard but can't because of his disability is a big turn on.

[Dani]

For me, it's always been acquired because of the "before and after" in the psychological/emotional sense.
I'm also fascinated by the physical changes after a traumatizing SCI. It's equally fascinating and sad to me how an injury to the spinal cord causes this loss of sensation and function. It's also mostly a leg thing for me; disability affecting hands or arms doesn't trigger my dev buttons.
In general, I'm interested in all disabilities, but my dev trigger is definitely acquired SCI affecting the legs. I don't have any issues with other disabilities or congenital, but they are not my focus when it comes to my devness.

[tanya]

Feb 7, 2024 14:50:03 GMT -5 Dani said:

For me, it's always been acquired because of the "before and after" in the psychological/emotional sense.
I'm also fascinated by the physical changes after a traumatizing SCI. It's equally fascinating and sad to me how an injury to the spinal cord causes this loss of sensation and function. It's also mostly a leg thing for me; disability affecting hands or arms doesn't trigger my dev buttons.
In general, I'm interested in all disabilities, but my dev trigger is definitely acquired SCI affecting the legs. I don't have any issues with other disabilities or congenital, but they are not my focus when it comes to my devness.

Thanks for sharing that Dani.

I'm very much a congenital paralysis dev as, for me, I like the look of a man's body which has been created disabled and seeing how that body does things and has always done things which are natural to him as he's always done it that way is very fascinating.

Like you, I am very much a lower body paralysis dev. I need the guy to be a low level lesion disability and have the upper body completely unaffected. I love the contrast between a strong and able bodied upper half and a weak and disabled lower half. Transfers are a huge turn on for me but the guy can't have too much help with them, he needs to do most of it himself.

In terms of when you say the psychological/emotional sense, are you referring to how the injury itself impacts the guy is a dev trigger for you? I do get that if that is the case as I like to see how a guy overcomes his disability although for me I do prefer when a guy has accepted his condition and isn't too hung up about his disability or has the longing to walk again which is where my preference for congenital comes in.

Also when you say it's fascinating how an injury to the spinal cord causes a loss of sensation and function, would you say it's a focus on how everything below the injured spinal cord just suddenly stops working which triggers you? I do understand that if that is the case as I'm the same albeit in a congenital sense. It fascinates me how the spinal cord can get damaged during the course of pregnancy and that it's simply beyond repair from day one and that guy has to adapt straightaway. But I guess for you it's a big thing for your devness that the guy was fully able bodied and then all of a sudden the use of his legs has just been taken away from him?

Sorry for all the questions, I'm really interested in the thoughts of other devs and I would love to learn more from the community.

[Dani]

tanya
yes, it's fascinating to me how a life-altering injury/disability changes a person and how they overcome it. I also don't want the guy to be hung up about walking again because I also want him to be accepting of his new identity and be motivated to live a fulfilled and as independent life as possible.

As far as the fascination with how an SCI affects the body, it's probably also a medical curiosity and how everything works out. It's humbling to me how important our spinal cord is and what all it controls, so it's just a deep curiosity and fascination.

I'm often moved by people who have overcome traumatizing events in their lives. I deeply admire their strength, and I often ask myself if I could be that strong. So, maybe it's a fascination with the strength of the human spirit and what humans are capable of, even though our lives are always geared toward convenience, enjoyment, and ease. The idea of all of this changing from one moment to the next is very scary and also fascinating to me, and so I have a deep admiration for people who have to overcome and adapt when things change so drastically.

All of these emotions are not of a sexual nature for me, but something else; that's why I never considered my devness primarily sexual.
It's almost as if the idea of being with a guy of my preferred disability and mutual attraction feels like a privilege to me.

[tanya]

Feb 8, 2024 14:15:52 GMT -5 Dani said:

tanya
yes, it's fascinating to me how a life-altering injury/disability changes a person and how they overcome it. I also don't want the guy to be hung up about walking again because I also want him to be accepting of his new identity and be motivated to live a fulfilled and as independent life as possible.

As far as the fascination with how an SCI affects the body, it's probably also a medical curiosity and how everything works out. It's humbling to me how important our spinal cord is and what all it controls, so it's just a deep curiosity and fascination.

I'm often moved by people who have overcome traumatizing events in their lives. I deeply admire their strength, and I often ask myself if I could be that strong. So, maybe it's a fascination with the strength of the human spirit and what humans are capable of, even though our lives are always geared toward convenience, enjoyment, and ease. The idea of all of this changing from one moment to the next is very scary and also fascinating to me, and so I have a deep admiration for people who have to overcome and adapt when things change so drastically.

All of these emotions are not of a sexual nature for me, but something else; that's why I never considered my devness primarily sexual.
It's almost as if the idea of being with a guy of my preferred disability and mutual attraction feels like a privilege to me.

Dani Thank you so much you have explained that so eloquently and although I am more congenital than acquired I do fully understand and appreciate why you feel the way you do after you explained it like that.

What would you say makes it legs and lower body rather than hands and arms and upper body when it comes to your devness? This is not me disagreeing with you by the way as I'm very much a legs and lower body kind of dev too. I'm just interested to hear your thoughts as to why you might think like that.