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Post by LaMara on Sept 10, 2020 16:18:16 GMT -5
rebeckers84 you're so charismatic and quick witted! You are such a natural and you made so many good points, I really appreciate you putting yourself out there. I did think the guys slightly talked over you, just a bit, and perhaps they should have given you more time to answer certain questions, but in general they were both asking good questions and showing genuine interest. I really hope the podcast helps making a difference!
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Post by rebeckers84 on Sept 10, 2020 17:13:49 GMT -5
rebeckers84 you were PERFECT!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you for doing this! You were funny and lovely and just wonderful! Thank you so much for being so brave to go on the podcast showing your face! I think that's so unbelievably valuable for our representation  Ugh, I just love it! Can we give this girl a medal, or something?? ahhhh THANK YOU!! That means so much. I was so nervous and just wanted to do all you ladies so proud and really took this as a serious opportunity to try and change the narrative a little bit. I'm so glad you enjoyed it!! |
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Post by rebeckers84 on Sept 10, 2020 17:15:47 GMT -5
rebeckers84 First off, thank you so much for doing this and sharing. You are a natural considering you’re talking about such a deep topic. I’m laughing at the american bro’s comment because I’m so used to it, but I know others outside of the US would find it different haha. I’ve been in a very dark place lately with my devness and have had a very tough time accepting myself. Watching this, seeing how open and confident you were about your dev side, all while doing it openly as yourself, has made a huge impact on me today. I envy your self acceptance and confidence, and it’s truly given me such hope that I will be in that place someday. I can’t thank you enough for doing this and being such an amazing, cool, relatable person about it. You made such great points and truly conveyed us in such a positive way. I know that there will be people that are going to see us in a different light because of you and that gives me such hope. Wrapping up my sappy post, but seriously thank you, this has had such an impact on me I can’t express that enough. Tear!! I'm really happy I could impact you in just a teeny tiny way. We have to do something to change this narrative so we don't feel this way!! Thank you thank you for listening and telling me all this. You hear me say it... it took me the last like 15+ years to get here! You will too. |
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Post by rebeckers84 on Sept 10, 2020 17:17:16 GMT -5
This is just fantastic, rebeckers84!!! I can just second what has been said before. Thank you so much. You’re a role model! P.S.: On a side note: I love the sound of your voice. It’s not just lovely but also very convincing! YAY, thanks for saying that!! Funny enough, I've had so many people at my job before tell me I am really convincing. But I guess when you believe something and you're passionate about it, it's not hard. |
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Post by rebeckers84 on Sept 10, 2020 17:18:21 GMT -5
rebeckers84 you're so charismatic and quick witted! You are such a natural and you made so many good points, I really appreciate you putting yourself out there. I did think the guys slightly talked over you, just a bit, and perhaps they should have given you more time to answer certain questions, but in general they were both asking good questions and showing genuine interest. I really hope the podcast helps making a difference! Thank youuuuu!!!! ) HA, you're so right and afterward Andrew called Richard out about it! Andrew used to have his own Podcast so he's better but Richard is still learning. But I also think it's the male bro thing where they love to hear themselves talk...lol |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 10, 2020 18:40:52 GMT -5
rebeckers84 I am so incredibly proud of you for representing devs. So when I first started watching, I actually was so moved that I had a few tears in my eyes just for the fact the "one of us" is on this Podcast, visible and open and is such a smart, beautiful young woman talking about this complicated topic of being a dev. You were awesome and every time you talked, I was rooting for you and you nailed it every time. I liked everything you said, you were awesome and fun and smart, but I do have to agree with LaMara and this is what I thought while watching - I feel they didn't let you talk enough. There were a few times when they drifted off to unrelated topics and I was hoping they would come back quickly to the devotee topic and ask you more questions or bring it back in. Like in the last ten/fifteen minutes it was all about dating apps and even though, this is a tiny part of dating as a dev, I feel they talked about it too much and you didn't have an opportunity anymore to talk dev stuff. That being said, the time when you did get to talk, you made it worthwhile and you were great. I wish they would have asked you a bit more or let you talk a bit more, but maybe you were okay with the amount of talking. You didn't look nervous at all btw, you looked super confident. Either way, this was wonderful and I am sure we all agree how thankful we need to be to you for taking this opportunity to shine a brighter light on devotees. We need so much more of that but it is definitely a start and you did everything right. I wonder, do they know about Paradevo or did they express an interest in it more like Richard maybe checking it out or something?
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Post by rebeckers84 on Sept 10, 2020 19:39:11 GMT -5
Dani yea there were a few times I was like dammit I had a thought I was trying to get out!! But on the same token, at the beginning I had no idea how I was gonna talk for 90 freaking mins and was super anxious we’d run out of things to talk about so I was a little grateful. And if you listen to their usual weekly ramblings that’s kinda what they always do so I was expecting it to a degree. Hell, I was thankful for the platform to speak positively so if we needed to compromise a little bit why not!?! I am SO happy all of you are enjoying it. I really can’t tell you how many times I thought about so many of you and just wanted to do each one of you lovely ladies proud!!! I did tell them about the site and how I found it by googling. But I’ll admit, I TOTALLY forgot the actual website 🤦🏻♀️ It’s one of my favorites so I never have to type it in and I was like uh uh uh what’s the damn site!?!? Ah just google it 😂😂
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Post by mona on Sept 11, 2020 3:08:38 GMT -5
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Post by missparkle on Sept 11, 2020 4:26:48 GMT -5
rebeckers84 , I can't start to explain how proud I am of you, how grateful for doing this for whole dev community and how I admire you for being so brave to step out in public! My first thought was the same, that more could be said. BUT! The more I think about it, the more I am convinced, it is just perfect as it is! You represented us devs in so natural, so relaxed (I'm sure you were nervous, but no one could tell!), so cool, so confident manner, like just "ordinary girl from a neighborhood", you can talk everything about with. And I think it is the most powerful and most needed message, that we want to put out there! And if we want to be really honest, that "deep psychological" rambling in cycles, overthinking, how it feels for us, what it means, bla, bla... From my own experience, I think the broad masses (of pwds) are not really interested in that, even the guys who are very positive about devs. It is so important (for some reason) only for us devs. That said, I think it was perfect balance of needed information, but not being too "heavy". It was positive, it was light, it was bright, it was witty... You and the guys so naturally bounced off each other, like you perfectly fitted there, like you belong there! And that is the message we always wanted, right?! THANK YOU! P.S. Please redirect all the cool wheelers who'll be jamming your inbox on Insta to PD! LOL 
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Post by Amee on Sept 11, 2020 6:45:25 GMT -5
Completely agree with missparkle! While they did talk over you a little bit, which wasn't ideal, I actually enjoyed the fact that the three of you also talked about some super-regular stuff, because it just made the whole thing so normal. And I agree, you seemed so incredibly cool and relaxed, like you've been doing this your whole life!  |
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Post by devogirl on Sept 11, 2020 7:42:18 GMT -5
OMG amazing!! You were so great! Thank you for sharing the video, and even more THANK YOU for taking the time to connect with them and being brave enough to do the interview. This really makes a difference for devotee representation and opening people's minds to have a better idea about us. Also hilarious that you forgot the name Paradevo haha but that's ok.
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Post by cilantro on Sept 11, 2020 14:35:32 GMT -5
rebeckers84 I finally got a chance to watch it and it was so good! And I reached out to Richard to thank him (hoping to counter a little bit any negative response they might be getting behind the scenes) and he was really nice! Wow, do you feel like the face of a movement? I honestly really do feel like opinions are changing. Even just googling "devotee" there's so much more positive stuff that pops up now opposed to when I searched for it the first time. Are you getting tons of messages from guys? Should we be expecting a wave of guys sent here by you? Should we set up a welcome table? Girl, SPILL!!
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Post by rebeckers84 on Sept 11, 2020 14:41:33 GMT -5
cilantro hahahahaha too funny! Aw I’m glad you reached out to him and he was cool back. Honestly they were really great guys to work with. I think we may all be buds now 😂😂 I have gotten A LOT of messages!!!! My favorites are the ones coming from you gals though. I’ve seriously teared up with some of the words you all have sent me. The nervousness, the anxiety, the worrying, the couple sleepless nights now all feel worth it to know that it went well and you all are happy and we FINALLY have some positive representation out there. I’m honestly blown away by the views it has!! It’s like their 2nd most viewed already and it’s been a day!!! People are sharing it on IG. I mean it’s still pretty intimidating but so far all seems good. I hope the community grows some. I tried to make a point about actually giving a good intro 😂😂 Honestly i know I keep saying this over and over but you all helped push me to do this. I had you all in mind the entire time. And your words on here and the messages you have sent have made this totally worth it. I’m really happy for us all!!!
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Post by cilantro on Sept 11, 2020 14:50:01 GMT -5
I have gotten A LOT of messages!!!! Well if you hear from any cute 20-30 guys near NYC you know who to send them to |
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Post by Celeste on Sept 12, 2020 23:24:48 GMT -5
rebeckers84 This was incredible!! I am SO proud of you! You kept it positive and you represented us really well. I am also happy that you were super non-judgmental about BIID. I think there's always the temptation to frame BIID as bad to convince other people that devotees are okay (at least we're not like them!), but I appreciate that you kept it as simple as "I'm not trying to judge anyone, but that isn't me." I'm definitely the same way about dating people... someone has to be really interesting for me to actually try dating. Side notes: Can we get rid of the phrase "identify as"?? I AM a dev. Trans women ARE women. For someone who seems to have a lot of confusion surrounding trans people, Andrew certainly used them as examples a lot during this podcast lol.
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