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Post by matisse on Mar 1, 2009 21:51:24 GMT -5
Perhaps the world is different in Florida, but this is how the world works here in Ohio. I'm sure that's it. The human mind behaves differently this far south. It's an equator thing. Totally. You jest, but I actually think that does play a role. Attitudes are a lot different in places with smaller concentrations of populations, esp. ones that lack diversity. If I was looking for a relationship I would sure rather be in Miami than Ohio..........
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Post by E on Mar 2, 2009 7:34:48 GMT -5
Well, talk about condescension... and from another crip no less. I'm supposed to be sweet and tender to him because he's crippled? Maybe offer him some pity sex?
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Post by E on Mar 2, 2009 7:53:59 GMT -5
I'm sure that's it. The human mind behaves differently this far south. It's an equator thing. Totally. You jest, but I actually think that does play a role. Attitudes are a lot different in places with smaller concentrations of populations, esp. ones that lack diversity. If I was looking for a relationship I would sure rather be in Miami than Ohio.......... Short of playing in the snow, I think I'd rather do ANYTHING in Miami than Ohio.
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Post by genuinejoe76 on Mar 2, 2009 9:17:01 GMT -5
I think you overestimate greatly the number of times "it does happen" for disabled guys. You know I'm disabled, right? Just checking... Didn't know I could overestimate my own history. I don't know any gimps besides me. I only have myself to go by. Well, aren't you the grandmaster gimp pimp? I guess you're getting enough for all of us.
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Post by E on Mar 2, 2009 13:07:22 GMT -5
You know I'm disabled, right? Just checking... Didn't know I could overestimate my own history. I don't know any gimps besides me. I only have myself to go by. Well, aren't you the grandmaster gimp pimp? I guess you're getting enough for all of us. Oh yeah, you nailed it, man. I'm Don Juan de Cripple. But seriously, all I'm saying is that I don't exist in a barren wasteland of hopelessness and loneliness. And you don't have to either. I have contact with the opposite sex, we're friends, we hang out, we go on dates, I form relationships, and they progress as one would expect. I'm not finding some new girl every weekend, nor would I want to.
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Post by lygermark on Mar 2, 2009 17:58:22 GMT -5
that is sad then.. because you could get a girl drunk one night and get the same result... but that isn't as frowned than actually paying for it directly. The difference is that the girl you get drunk and take home actually wants you and voluntarily has sex with you because she thinks she may enjoy herself. The girl you're paying doesn't want you and though she may possibly enjoy herself, the cash is the real reason she's there. I have a bunch of employees, including one morning aide. My aide certainly enjoys my company. My shop workers, office managers, etc. like their job. If I stopped paying them, though, I'm sure they'd stop showing up. Likewise, if you weren't paying your sex worker, she wouldn't show. On the other hand, that girl you got drunk, she just might. That's the difference. The thing is I want to have sex and thats the end of it.. I don't care if she wants to come back or not.. it's not an emotional thing for me.. Should they have sponser sex programs? probably not but I'm not going to complain if they do.. I think love and sex is two different things.
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Post by genuinejoe76 on Mar 2, 2009 18:04:34 GMT -5
Well, aren't you the grandmaster gimp pimp? I guess you're getting enough for all of us. Oh yeah, you nailed it, man. I'm Don Juan de Cripple. But seriously, all I'm saying is that I don't exist in a barren wasteland of hopelessness and loneliness. Nor do I. All I'm saying is that I wish I had a program like this available to me if I choose to use it, which I would choose to use it, and I would not feel shame for doing so. Nor, would I really care if you thought this made me "desperate and pathetic". Judge not, lest ye be judged.
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Post by matisse on Mar 2, 2009 20:31:22 GMT -5
If you want to increase your chances to get laid, you should frequent the places where there is a higher percentage of women who work with wheelers as part of their jobs. Too bad the crip wards don't automatically have an attached or nearby club/bar.........
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Post by Triassic on Mar 5, 2009 23:25:47 GMT -5
i've been thinking about noi's comment's here. she's part of the first generation to really grow up w/computers, the internet and being online. to this generation, online is pretty much seamlessly melded into their lives.
so for someone who's been checking people's profiles and personal webpages a la facebook and myspace since they were a kid, and making judgements thereby-might it not seem weird to propose to have more than the most superficial of conversations w/a stranger IRL? i mean why would you if you're used to thoroughly vetting someone via the internet before meeting them?
another factor is you might be shy to 'disturb' someone IRL, to intrude into his or her personal bubble. because i think the internet tends to support the creation of these Bubbles; people are now able to tailor their lives-online at least-so that only what they want to deal with can enter. they can filter the other stuff out. so now it's possible to live autonomously in, say, an online Christian bubble, a Communist/Revolutionary bubble, a Feminist bubble, a Gay bubble, etc, etc...
maybe we're headed toward something like Victorian social ettiquette' where it would be UNTHINKABLE for a person of good breeding to speak to another without a proper introduction...or now, prior online contact.
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Post by Ouch on Mar 6, 2009 2:23:43 GMT -5
Honestly, even with a trend the way we've seen with technology impacting social interaction; I think it's a little extreme to have an eventuality based with just Internet-only casual conversation and replacing normal human-to-human personal social exchange. I think the Internet has and will continue the way people treat each other socially (this is the obvious and apparent part - people would never have thought of being so open as per Facebook/myspace these days, twenty-five years ago); I don't think it has the capability to eliminate the more traditional forms of human communication entirely, I'm not sure we're capable of it as a species, even.
Also, just a nit-picky thing...the modern world wide web wasn't established until the early to mid 1990s, so honestly, even though younger folks like Noi, I, and Chan for example fit into the 'Millenials' category...I don't think we're the generation that the Internet and World Wide Web will have truly revolutionised as a whole group. A group I call the 'Broadband/Post-Gigahertz Generation' will likely be the generation we see the most radical change with the effects of the Web, and emerging computer technology; this group has been born from 2000-onward, and benefit from being introduced to a world where the Internet is a much more on-demand service, broadband has enabled streaming services, video, audio, etc. and after 2000, computing technology leapt forward drastically, computers moving from an average processing speed of 350 MHz to eclipsing the 1 GHz mark within the course of a year or two. When I was younger, sure there was Internet, but there wasn't much you could do with a 4.8K connection. The Broadband generation has had access to all sorts of multimedia in different forms readily available on-demand from day one. What was a novelty, and restricted to computer scientists and university students has now really bloomed into what the first visionaries could've idealised the Internet's capabilities to reach.
As for that Victorian social idea...would that be necessarily a bad thing? I don't have an answer myself, but that sounds kind of interesting to think of at least...
...and more related to the topic, with Internet communications more prevalent, might the crips/devs stand a better chance find someone to appreciate them/to appreciate?
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Post by Chan on Mar 6, 2009 4:15:18 GMT -5
As for that Victorian social idea...would that be necessarily a bad thing? I've gotten to the point that I basically refuse to get to know anyone new if they don't have a Facebook/MySpace/Website/whatever. I despise putting forth so much effort into just trying to figure out the basics of a person only to find out they aren't someone I want to invest my time in. A quick scan of the general information and pictures of their Facebook is sufficient for me to know whether I'd like to pursue getting to know them. But if they don't have one, well....they probably wont be hearing from me.
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Post by irishclaire on Mar 6, 2009 4:48:34 GMT -5
I just find it a bit...strange now when people I go to Uni with don't have a facebook/myspace page!! No particular reason, I guess it's just what we've got used to. I'm sure I'd get a lot more done if facebook didn't exist.......that sounds a bit sad!
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Post by cunning69guy on Mar 6, 2009 6:05:49 GMT -5
Damn, despite the fact that my brain/personality is the same age as when I was injured, I MUST be getting old, because I refuse to join ANY social networking sites, which isn't helped by the fact that a new one comes along every 3-6 months, and I refuse to have to create another user ID/password combination and post a profile. Plus, I can't imagine keeping up with the messages! Call me anti-tech (I freely admit I am) but no matter what I post on any site, no one will ever know "ME" without spending time with me. If Facebook and myspace are vetting tools, so be it, my loss (especially since I can't view anyone else's profiles either), but I refuse to "tweet" on twitter, and no offense, but I really DON'T care what you're doing right now! My email is filled with invites to come join the latest site, to which I say "Delete".
But that's just me.
Not sent from my iPhone, Blackberry or any other device that allows texting and handheld internet access!
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Post by BA on Mar 6, 2009 17:55:48 GMT -5
If Facebook and myspace are vetting tools, so be it, my loss (especially since I can't view anyone else's profiles either), but I refuse to "tweet" on twitter, and no offense, but I really DON'T care what you're doing right now! My email is filled with invites to come join the latest site, to which I say "Delete". But that's just me. Not sent from my iPhone, Blackberry or any other device that allows texting and handheld internet access! LMAO! Remember when loud music defined the Generation Gap? I suppose Tech-love, savvy, need and even dependency defines the new Gap. It will be interesting to see where things are when my 6 year old turns 20.
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Post by Ouch on Mar 6, 2009 23:51:03 GMT -5
Yeah, see I typically had the same standpoint as you, cunning, and the 'older' folk; Hell, noi1588 and I even say to ourselves: "We're the most boring, anti-social twenty-somethings ever." We just made a Facebook recently, and that was in sorts by accident, because someone was pestering me to see their pictures and it forced me to sign up for an account.
I think there are unique advantages to getting to know someone through online means, and advantages to getting to know someone through the typical method (person-to-person); I think being able to allow yourself to try both gives you the most options, and limiting yourself one way or the other more or less is only cutting out a particular avenue to meet people. I mean, the basics of human interaction and getting to know a person, are they really too much different wether you type it online, or hear it face-to-face (well for the 'body language' purists, there probably is a big difference, but I'm talking the cold, hard logistics, so to speak)?
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