TassieDEVil
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Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
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Post by TassieDEVil on May 19, 2016 21:37:47 GMT -5
If you could permanently get rid of your dev-ness, would you? Before I knew there was a word for how I felt, the answer to that question would have been a resounding, "YES!" However, after finding this community and learning more about it and myself, I truly have not only accepted, but embraced it. That said, I'm not sure how I would've felt if I hadn't found love here as well. I may have just been a bit slower to accept it. Totally agree with you, Matisse. I'm almost 45 and I have always been interested in disability to some degree since early childhood. Of course, back then it was only curiosity. In my late teens and early 20's the curiosity grew to a moderately keen interest. I think I was totally open to the idea of friendships and relationships with PWDs, but I didn't feel any sexual preference at that stage (that might have been different had I had a relationship with one). It is only in the last 25 years that I have noticed this sexual attraction, more intensely in the last 5 or so years. All that time I struggled to suppress and hide it, I still didn't know anything about devoteeism (an am still VERY new naive to it all). It is only in the last 2 years that I started to wonder if that was what I was. I looked back over all my past relationships and don't remember ever feeling complete in any of them. There was always something missing, but I couldn't pin point what it was. It is only now that I realise what it was. And here I am today, telling like-minded strangers something I could never tell my closest friend or family member. And yes, it took 25 years for me to finally begin to accept it.
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tmalasia
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Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by tmalasia on Apr 22, 2019 17:09:46 GMT -5
A bit late to the party, but I figured I’d ask anyways. It was sort of covered in the “dark side” question, but what specifically makes disability attractive to you? Visual, emotional, idea of caring or even dominating someone? The notion that someone would be interested in someone because of a disability has confused me ever since I started thinking about it (when my disorder started presenting itself).
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Post by feelsunshine on Apr 23, 2019 9:40:35 GMT -5
A bit late to the party, but I figured I’d ask anyways. It was sort of covered in the “dark side” question, but what specifically makes disability attractive to you? Visual, emotional, idea of caring or even dominating someone? The notion that someone would be interested in someone because of a disability has confused me ever since I started thinking about it (when my disorder started presenting itself).We are all "devy" in different ways. But for me, personally, the attraction has neither to do with caring or domination. Also no darkside emotions to it. I am into para/sci wheelers and I enjoy to see them. To me, wheelers are more attractive the more they are able to do stuff without help from outside. Best thing is if they were able to handle everyday-life situations on their own. Of course I wouldn't mind to "help out" like reaching stuff on the top shelter or whatever stuff like that. And, going into possible relationship-thoughts: of course it's not only the disability that makes a guy attractive. I mean he still has to bring along other, and way more important stuff such as being on the same wave character-wise, I guess this should go without saying.
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Post by pam on Apr 23, 2019 11:14:25 GMT -5
My answer is pretty much the same as feelsunshine. Always been attracted to wheelers (if the are attractive in other ways to me). I can't really explain why.
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