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Post by lucretia on Nov 12, 2017 9:17:45 GMT -5
people who have pity parties rub me the wrong way, because no matter how bad your day is there's always someone having a worse day than what you having. Err. No one said anything about this but it can lead to quite a toxic mentality. I think we can probably fill a small town by now with people that commited suicide after they bottled up their feelings for years and years and years because "hurr durr kids in Africa are starving so you don't have the right to complain about anything you entitled scum". Just sayin'. While I have never loved the "someone has it worse" bit, I do have to agree with the first. I have a friend and former coworker who I simply can't stand to be around because she has "become" her depression and anxiety. It's all she talks about. Her life revolves around her mental and physical health. Every time she was invited out her response was, "If I'm not too tired because of my depression" or "I don't know how long I will stay because of my anxiety". I get it. But no one wants to hear about it Every. Single. Second. Also, as someone who deals daily with both depression and anxiety, she made ME that much less able to express MY struggles because I didn't want to be associated in our mutual friends's minds as "like her". There are times and places for sharing our illnesses, disabilities and other health issues. All day, every day are not those times or places.
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Post by straycatsnperiodpads on Nov 12, 2017 9:32:13 GMT -5
Err. No one said anything about this but it can lead to quite a toxic mentality. I think we can probably fill a small town by now with people that commited suicide after they bottled up their feelings for years and years and years because "hurr durr kids in Africa are starving so you don't have the right to complain about anything you entitled scum". Just sayin'. While I have never loved the "someone has it worse" bit, I do have to agree with the first. I have a friend and former coworker who I simply can't stand to be around because she has "become" her depression and anxiety. It's all she talks about. Her life revolves around her mental and physical health. Every time she was invited out her response was, "If I'm not too tired because of my depression" or "I don't know how long I will stay because of my anxiety". I get it. But no one wants to hear about it Every. Single. Second. Also, as someone who deals daily with both depression and anxiety, she made ME that much less able to express MY struggles because I didn't want to be associated in our mutual friends's minds as "like her". There are times and places for sharing our illnesses, disabilities and other health issues. All day, every day are not those times or places. Ok, that's at a whole other level, but doesn't she get bored or talking about it? I don't even know how to react to this because I don't want to invalidade whatever she's going through, but it looks like she developed some sort of tunnel vision and she might benefit from having someone actually point out this issue to her.
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Post by lucretia on Nov 12, 2017 9:58:23 GMT -5
Nope. She seems to enjoy the "oh, poor you" responses.
My mom is actually like this,too. Her friends think my siblings and I are terrible people for ending our relationship with her.
Some people are so narcissistic they have to be at the center of attention all the time.
People who throw pity parties are definitely narcissistic, and I just can't stand it.
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Post by straycatsnperiodpads on Nov 12, 2017 11:04:59 GMT -5
Nope. She seems to enjoy the "oh, poor you" responses. My mom is actually like this,too. Her friends think my siblings and I are terrible people for ending our relationship with her. Some people are so narcissistic they have to be at the center of attention all the time. People who throw pity parties are definitely narcissistic, and I just can't stand it. Is it still not worth talking about it, though? I mean, there's that 1% chance that she might actually listen and it could be a turning point for her if followed with suggestions.
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Post by lucretia on Nov 12, 2017 13:15:10 GMT -5
Nope. She seems to enjoy the "oh, poor you" responses. My mom is actually like this,too. Her friends think my siblings and I are terrible people for ending our relationship with her. Some people are so narcissistic they have to be at the center of attention all the time. People who throw pity parties are definitely narcissistic, and I just can't stand it. Is it still not worth talking about it, though? I mean, there's that 1% chance that she might actually listen and it could be a turning point for her if followed with suggestions. I used to do that... But, *shocking*, people don't a) want advice, and b) won't take your suggestions anyway. I understand that people need to be heard, but if the need to share compulsively negatively impacts relationships with friends, family and co-workers then it's time for therapy. However, I've discovered *shocking* that people also don't want to hear they need therapy.
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Post by dannyboy95 on Nov 12, 2017 14:11:59 GMT -5
It really puts me off when I can't have a normal and open conversation with somebody, when people hide behind empty sentences and try to lie to me and think I wouldn't notice that. Also I kind of dislike when people are overly sensitive and can't be simply relaxed about certain things that are not really important.
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Post by Hopper on Dec 1, 2017 16:10:49 GMT -5
What has just put me off and creeped me out big time?
I have a new subscriber on Youtube that seems to have a fetish (going by other channels he's subscribed to and his favourites) for urination and diapers/infantilism as well as PWDS.
Of course, both of which I have absolutely fuck all to do with, which is why it's creeped me out because it seemed so random.
It's situations like this that, I'll be honest, make me feel quite vulnerable.
Perhaps I'm overreacting, but I dunno, I'm just a little wary right now.
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Post by shape on Dec 1, 2017 16:34:56 GMT -5
Holy shit! Can't you block that subscriber? I have no idea how a YouTube channel works, but it's really creepy!
People is insane...
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Post by Hopper on Dec 1, 2017 16:46:13 GMT -5
Holy shit! Can't you block that subscriber? I have no idea how a YouTube channel works, but it's really creepy! People is insane... I'll have a look and see if I can. If he makes contact, I certainly will. I'm not one to judge fetishes but this one frightens me.
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Post by dannyboy95 on Dec 1, 2017 17:11:08 GMT -5
Holy shit! Can't you block that subscriber? I have no idea how a YouTube channel works, but it's really creepy! People is insane... I'll have a look and see if I can. If he makes contact, I certainly will. I'm not one to judge fetishes but this one frightens me. Yes you can block people on YouTube as well!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2017 17:38:46 GMT -5
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Dec 1, 2017 18:50:00 GMT -5
What has just put me off and creeped me out big time? I have a new subscriber on Youtube that seems to have a fetish (going by other channels he's subscribed to and his favourites) for urination and diapers/infantilism as well as PWDS. Of course, both of which I have absolutely fuck all to do with, which is why it's creeped me out because it seemed so random. It's situations like this that, I'll be honest, make me feel quite vulnerable. Perhaps I'm overreacting, but I dunno, I'm just a little wary right now. Wait, what? You're creeped out by a dev following you on YouTube? Am I getting this right?
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Post by shape on Dec 1, 2017 19:46:17 GMT -5
What has just put me off and creeped me out big time? I have a new subscriber on Youtube that seems to have a fetish (going by other channels he's subscribed to and his favourites) for urination and diapers/infantilism as well as PWDS. Of course, both of which I have absolutely fuck all to do with, which is why it's creeped me out because it seemed so random. It's situations like this that, I'll be honest, make me feel quite vulnerable. Perhaps I'm overreacting, but I dunno, I'm just a little wary right now. Wait, what? You're creeped out by a dev following you on YouTube? Am I getting this right? Well, regarding that dev is into urination and diapers/infantilism... Aren't you getting it wrong?
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Post by lizzy on Dec 1, 2017 20:04:46 GMT -5
Can you PM the link to your Youtube channel please Hopper - I'll be the judge.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Dec 1, 2017 20:05:45 GMT -5
Wait, what? You're creeped out by a dev following you on YouTube? Am I getting this right? Well, regarding that dev is into urination and diapers/infantilism... Aren't you getting it wrong? But didn’t he say he’s also into PWDs? That’s why I called him a dev in the first place.
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