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Post by Kid A on Jan 6, 2016 19:23:08 GMT -5
As lucretia put it, most of the time the dev hyper-sensitivity I once had in the outside world is quite dull indeed, though every once in awhile it'll kick in out of nowhere. For example, I'll be having a close-quarters conversation with a coworker and wham, something will trigger it. A way of moving or gesturing, let's say. It's always a welcome surprise, albeit a bit distracting, but I have to admit, there doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to it. At home, it ebbs and flows, but even a prolonged hug can elicit the immediate desire to jump my partner's bones. We don't always have the privacy or flexibility to act on that desire, but when the situation is just right, it's deeply gratifying, not to mention fun and exciting! One thing I can say is that some of it this does seem to be tied to hormonal fluctuations. When Aunt Flo comes to town, look out! It's business time. Generally speaking, daily interactions are less devy now that we've been living together and interacting IRL v. via Skype. In the LDR days, holy shit! It was dev high alert status. As high as those highs were, I can't help but feel they were fueled by a lack of physical exposure to and satisfaction from my partner. I feel the fantasy side of my devness was so often driven by sexual frustration. I could never get enough visual stimulus to scratch the itch to full satisfaction. I suppose it's a bit of an inevitable trade off. The leveling out I experienced was definitely worth having physical contact and the joys of IRL daily living, even with the inevitable routine-ness of it all. There is so much more potential now for growth and enrichment, not just angst and daydreaming. I do sometimes miss the indulgent richness of my fantasy life, but it is far from having disappeared. I still will find myself traipsing off to YT for kicks, but far less often.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on May 5, 2016 20:26:01 GMT -5
I seem to get the highs at the most inconvenient times... Uni stuff needs to get done, the hard phase is coming up, and BAM! here I am on PD, reading and participating on the boards, reading fiction, talking to the guys and craving. Dear body, I've got no time for this!
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Mar 15, 2018 3:51:19 GMT -5
Ever since I found PD I used to come here every. single. day. for over two years and read all the new stuff. It’s kind of weird that I haven’t been doing that for a couple weeks now. It started with me not reading most of the new threads/posts anymore, now I only come here for the Devo Diary updates... :-(
A few weeks ago I gave an interview for a podcast about my devness. It’s funny that I did that during what feels like my lowest dev low ever.
Meh.
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Post by devogirl on Mar 15, 2018 7:11:15 GMT -5
now I only come here for the Devo Diary updates... :-( Aw, thank you! That makes me so happy! More dev-related content coming next week, I promise! As for the dev low, I find it's a welcome relief from obsessive thoughts. Enjoy the downtime to focus on other things in your life. The dev high will come back sooner or later, often in unexpected ways.
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Post by lisa on Mar 15, 2018 13:44:19 GMT -5
A few weeks ago I gave an interview for a podcast about my devness. Oh! Now I'm very curious about where the podcast can be found ;-). I did something similar a few months ago...
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Post by lilyth on Apr 6, 2018 0:24:15 GMT -5
Man...I am in a huge dull dev low right now. I'm sure it'll pick up again soon...
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Oct 4, 2018 17:25:45 GMT -5
Have been on a low ever since the last time I posted in this thread and even before that. It’s been a long while. But now I’m sorta back here, which I hadn’t really been in forever. I’m wondering if my dev low will now be ending because I’m not with a PWD anymore. I hope not. Has anyone ever experienced anything similar?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m really sexually satisfied and extremely happy. But I am back on PD after all...
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Post by devogirl on Oct 4, 2018 19:40:07 GMT -5
It is probably the baby. I didn't really have a dev high for 4 years after kids, but it has definitely come back for me now. Hang in there, the first year is the hardest!
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Post by lucretia on Oct 5, 2018 3:09:30 GMT -5
Have been on a low ever since the last time I posted in this thread and even before that. It’s been a long while. But now I’m sorta back here, which I hadn’t really been in forever. I’m wondering if my dev low will now be ending because I’m not with a PWD anymore. I hope not. Has anyone ever experienced anything similar? Don’t get me wrong, I’m really sexually satisfied and extremely happy. But I am back on PD after all... I originally found PD because I was on a RIDICULOUS dev high and frantically searching for anything I could find. Now, PD has literally nothing to do with sex or longing. For me it's just about the community. This dev low, for me, has spanned years now, and has only gotten lower, but I'm still here.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2018 22:56:41 GMT -5
I am on a dev low at the moment, hoping it picks up again soon
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Feb 8, 2019 12:43:41 GMT -5
So, my dev low is still here, but I’m back on PD everyday. I kinda miss the dev discussions.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2019 16:49:28 GMT -5
So, my dev low is still here, but I’m back on PD everyday. I kinda miss the dev discussions. Youre right, its a shame that the dev section of the board seems to be very quiet at the moment. I enjoyed the dev discussions a lot
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Feb 10, 2019 23:37:49 GMT -5
I have a lot going on with a very sick mother at the moment. I am so overloaded in thought and actual physical work that I have not had any devvy dreams and it’s so frustrating.
I am actually yearning for them as a comfort mechanism or coping strategy-whatever you call them...but my brain won’t go there while I am in this crisis situation regarding my mom 😔😔😢😩.
Have any of you felt this way too?
I am so missing the comfort of my quiet DEV dreams 🙁.
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Post by Emma on Feb 11, 2019 0:17:29 GMT -5
Yes, I've had lots of different things come up in my life where I just don't feel like I have the mental space for dev stuff. The bright side is it always comes back just takes time. Sorry to hear about your Mom.
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Post by blueskye101 on Feb 11, 2019 2:41:43 GMT -5
I have a lot going on with a very sick mother at the moment. I am so overloaded in thought and actual physical work that I have not had any devvy dreams and it’s so frustrating. I am actually yearning for them as a comfort mechanism or coping strategy-whatever you call them...but my brain won’t go there while I am in this crisis situation regarding my mom 😔😔😢😩. I'm so sorry about your Mom. Remember your dev sisters are thinking of you and hoping for the best for your Mom. Our own desires get put on a back burner for a bit Sorry I screwed up the quote 😒
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