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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 16:49:52 GMT -5
Firstly matisse physical beauty does play a role indeed, but for me personally, less of one than you might think. I want to know that she's healthy and taking care of herself. Usually if you leave your physical body in a bad state, its indicative of your mental one, if you see what I mean. So I would like a girl that cares what she looks like...some are way over-the-top and, like most guys, I just find that irritating. Of course I have ideals, fantasies of certain types of girl I like, as does everyone, but in real life...the physical beauty component doesn't factor to an unjustifiable degree...except for the hair and the voice...those are big ones...perhaps unjustly since a girl can't really control those things, but every guy has their interests I guess! Gale ok let's take these in order. I use a programme called Jaws (Job Access with Speech) it takes whatever is on the screen and converts it into sound. It will also say things like "window, menue bar, tab" ETC to tell me what I'm doing. I use the keyboard to interact with the screen. I read quite quickly, over 300 wpm or so. I use a cain. I have thought of having a guide dog but maintaining and caring for one...I'm not quite sure I'm quite ready for that. Plus I am at the office all day so I'm not sure it would get the necessary physical exorcise. That said, it is true that guide dogs do allow you to move a lot more quickly and help with avoiding obstacles and things. I may get one one day. Me
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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 13:55:20 GMT -5
are you guys serious? Amongst all the VIs that I know, no one ever did this and so many people I have met have expressed a loathing for that stereotype. That is weird on so many levels...I would never do something like that haha that's crazy.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 12:43:25 GMT -5
Hi all, Wow, so many questions! Let's see what I can do here... queenjane I can't say such a mix tape has ever come my way...but the fact that you called it a mix tape is quite awesome. Also the fact that you cited a few blindness-related songs which were not obvious means you're awesome. @braced4impact the Russia situation is all about balance, although to be honest, I'm not convinced that America's hard-line refusal to accept the anexation of Crimea is necessarily going to change anything and could precipitate conflict between NATO and Russia, which we do not want on so many levels. Merkel and most Germans are leaning towards just accepting that Crimea is part of Russia now just to put this behind us, although the precedent which that sets is a scary one also...let's not forget the natural gas export problem, which affects most of Europe in one way or another and saw energy prices plummet a few months back because of it. Russia is in a strong position here and I hope they don't escalate matters and that America leaves well-enough alone. @inkdevil to be honest, to me, a face is just a face lol. It doesn't really have anything distinctive about it. I may touch her face if we're being intimate or I'm just being playful, but I would not do so knowingly. Lol RollAlongSlowly all the wood-related puns here...nope...too obvious... kivic I do not have a sense of colour, but I am blind from birth. Of course people who lose their sight later in life do understand how colour works. I think of colour in terms of its associations and idioms which reference it I.E. red hot, blue in the face (although I'm sure that one can't be literal) or "in a black mood." This relates to lemons asking about picking out clothing. That is, for me, incredibly hard to do. Some VIs find it easy but for me its a minefield. The answer? Personal shoppers at places like Debenhams and the use of sighted family members/friends I trust. But if I can buy 5 shirts and 3 trousers which all go together with each other, I'm happy. Thankfully, suits do allow for that. Me
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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 11:56:11 GMT -5
Hi,
I do get a sense of movement, yes. You can sometimes tell if a girl is carrying a bit of extra weight by her movement. As for jewelry and things, I'm kind of indifferent about it. I can hear it but it is neither a turn-on or turn-off.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 10:47:20 GMT -5
Hi all! I hope I’m not jumping the gun here, but I have met enough devs over the past few weeks and I have been asked a number of very interesting questions in relation to blindness. So, just as @inkdevil did, I’m opening an “Ask Me Anything” thread, reddit style. I’m basically an open book and I cannot be offended. Let me start off with one I was asked recently. Blind people do not, under any circumstances, touch faces in order to see what someone looks like…Hollywood should be shot for that one. Do Your worst . Me
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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 10:41:12 GMT -5
zHello all,
For those of you to whom I have yet to speak, I joined PD a few weeks ago and have really enjoyed my time here…everyone has been really welcoming and engaging. I find this to be, by quite a distance, one of the more accepting communities I have been a part of so far. So That said, I thought I’d contribute a bit. This is slightly sarcastic and tongue-in-cheek, so please don’t take anything here too seriously!
So ladies! How do you attract a blind guy? Well, the first thing is, don’t be shy. He can’t see that there is some incredibly hot girl across the bar who might have taken an interest. I know, I know, guys are supposed to make the first move, but come on now…just go over and introduce yourself, it’s not that weird. If all else fails, walking up to him and asking if he needs any help with whatever he happens to be doing can be a conversation-starter if it’s done right. This next one depends on the context, but…if you can, don’t lead with a blindness question! If we’ve just met, I really don’t mind you asking how I do a certain thing, especially if we’re in a situation which demands it I.E. someone sends me a text and you ask how I’m able to read it. But if that’s one of your opening questions and the context isn’t right, we will feel like you’re just fascinated by blindness and often we will take it as a lack of interest in the person we are…just give it at least a few minutes of normal conversation, ok?
If you are planning to attract someone blind and you know about it beforehand, good perfume is a great way of doing it…don’t think we don’t notice appearance, we just notice it differently. On a similar note, girls, if you have longer hair, you’re instantly more attractive to basically all the blind guys I’ve ever met, including me. If you’re trying to stealthily point this out, it’s easy enough to do when we take your arm or shoulder. The hair is right there! And it doesn’t take much too sort of flick it in our general direction, we will notice.
Voice is another thing. It’s one of the first things I notice when talking to a girl. If she has a nice voice, nice accent or speaks well, she’s instantly more attractive to me. I can’t tell that you’re well-dressed or that you look professional ETC. So speak with confidence! Of course this varies, but I like the higher-pitched, girlish voices, rather than the throaty “take me to bed” ones. That’s just me!
Lastly, another one which is quite context-dependent: let us have our independence. I remember, I was visiting a girl’s house for the first time and I asked where her loo was. Plenty of girls would get up and guide me directly to it…not this one. She just gave directions and I went on about my business independently. If you think the guy is confident enough, then show that you have confidence in us to get things done. We’ll tell you if we need some extra help. I never want to feel like I’m being treated as an invalid, because I’m not one. Again, this doesn’t always work, but I have heard other blind guys comment on it and that is the way we treat each other if someone comes over for the first time. Just stop him before he pisses in the sink…that’s all I’m saying!
I’m sure there are more and feel free to ask any further questions ETC.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 30, 2014 9:49:44 GMT -5
haha you read my mind. Was thinking of the old, "is that a cain in your pocket" line
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Post by napoleon on Dec 28, 2014 8:20:03 GMT -5
Also something I would note here. I would prefer not to contact someone first for the simple reason that I have heard girls in the past who have said that it was just creepy or ETC for some random guy to contact them out-of-the-blue. I think I just don't wana be that guy.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 27, 2014 13:32:35 GMT -5
can I drop in here as a guy who has been blind from birth? I was once asked, "but what do you picture having sight to be like?" i.e. what is colour to you? My response to this is usually to let them know that certain types of birds have an inate sense of the earth's magnetic field which help direct them, I then ask, "What do you think its like to have a sense of magnetism?" To me, vision and colour is just as alien.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 24, 2014 6:37:56 GMT -5
it burns, burns burns...the ring of fire.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 23, 2014 6:03:07 GMT -5
I like this topic. In tipically blunt fassion, here we go: 1. I need to stop being lazy and take some control again. 2. I want to get rid of my insularity and put myself out there a lot more...one of the reasons I joined PD actually 3. I'd like to get rid of that nagging, everpresent feeling that I am not good enough to be accepted by someone as I am and demand what I want in a partner or walk away...that's not an easy one.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 21, 2014 17:29:09 GMT -5
Yeah, I can understand that perspective. Its not 24/7 but even after work, I can't do small talk. My brain just doesn't shut down, so I have to direct it somewhere. If its not intellectual, then it goes into my music.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 21, 2014 9:50:49 GMT -5
My ideal partner? Damn...this is tough haha. She would have to be intellectual...not academic maybe, but if I engage on things like politics or current affairs or social issues, she can follow where I'm going. That's a must. A love of music...not necessarily the same as mine but an appreciation for what music is, that's really necessary. Open: I have a few more out-there kinks and whatever and I'd like to be with someone who is at least open and won't judge too quickly.
Lastly, I need someone who has their own life and hopes and dreams ETC. I won't be tied to someone, but if we walk together and we're going a similar way, maybe we can help each other get there.
Hope that wasn't too philosophical for a Sunday afternoon.
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Post by napoleon on Dec 21, 2014 7:10:23 GMT -5
Oh I really hope I was not misunderstood lol I was not having a go at everyone here. I just thought I'd ask since I am new to the place...and don't worry, those concerns have been ameliorated, thanks. And short hair? *gasp* such a travesty should never occur on a girl!
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Post by napoleon on Dec 20, 2014 14:34:22 GMT -5
agreed.
Thinking about this, I believe I would struggle to be with someone who is deaf/hard of hearing, due to my passion for music. Equating the matters in that particular way, I can understand some of the above posts more easily...just another perspective to add to the list. And..more risotto! I'm all over that. Me
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