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Post by devine on Sept 27, 2012 12:37:14 GMT -5
Hangin out it chat, yo!
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Post by devine on Sept 27, 2012 12:32:26 GMT -5
I can count on one hand the number of blogs, dis sites, etc. where I have commented. The reason is this: I do not tilt at windmills. I used to think I could change the world. Give me a cause, and I was right there. When I was young, I thought I could be clever enough, articulate enough, pretty enough, loud enough, strong enough... etc. Fill in the blank and I thought I could be that characteristic ENOUGH to change someone's mind, about anything. Then I found this: A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. Well, it's old, and obviously applies to all humans, male or female, but the sentiment is valid. Try changing someone's mind. Go ahead. Go change your partner's mind about something. Your child. Your best friend on a point you have both agreed to disagree over. The fact is, YOU can't change someone's mind. I can't change anyone's mind. I have enough trouble changing my own mind... What we CAN do... is BE. We can only BE the example. I try to live my life in such a way that any message I may have is experienced without me trying to evangelize it. It sounds trite, and it a way it is. I am only one person... how many people do I interact with in a given day? Not all that many... however, anyone who knows me knows where I stand on certain topics. Most (by no means all) people do NOT think I am a creepy freak. *shrug* Therefore, when I do make a statement about my feelings, usually I am heard. I agree with everyone who has said that trying to change this woman's mind by commenting on her blog, in a mix of the real creeps out there, is futile, and likely even more damaging. We hurt our own cause by taking our message to where we KNOW it will not be heard. I did advocate telling her she is absolutely right in her fear and loathing of male devs. I did say that. I still agree with that. Anyone who thinks male devs and female devs should be advocated for equally is delusional. I am perhaps not a great dev advocate, even for female devs. I don't discuss it much, aside from this forum and with my dev/dis friends, I don't write too much about it, I certainly don't campaign. However, I can say this: Most, if not all, of the people I have met outside PD have come away from our interactions knowing not all devs are creepy. That is all I can do, and for me, it is enough. I can totally second that. Impossible to change peoples minds about devs once their opinion is formed. I found that you get nothing but negative energy from trying to advocate for devs.
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Post by devine on Sept 24, 2012 13:04:51 GMT -5
Ruth, thank you so much for spreading the word and standing up for us.
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Post by devine on Sept 22, 2012 5:29:09 GMT -5
Lovely intro. You like Edith Piaf? Check out Zaz. Word on the streets, she's the new Edith Piaf.
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Post by devine on Sept 4, 2012 10:55:46 GMT -5
Fellow German expat as well. Welcome
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Post by devine on May 11, 2012 11:55:38 GMT -5
5 ways people react to change
2.5 percent of people dream up new ways of doing things. They are the innovators.
13.5 percent of people quickly respond to what they see as a good idea and adopt it. They are the early adopters.
34 percent of people are more deliberate in thinking through the innovation but, after consideration, will adapt it. They are the early majority.
34 percent of people are skeptical of innovation but eventually respond after seeing the benefits. they are the late majority.
16 percent of people will probably never respond to change. They are the laggards.
lol ;D
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Post by devine on May 2, 2012 14:27:07 GMT -5
Just found this on youtube, don't know if the link has already been posted.
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Post by devine on May 1, 2012 2:16:47 GMT -5
Has anyone else had a java error when going in to chat? I have a Mac that happily played along, but has decided not too anymore. And this ain't no 'please help me technohero' post, just askin'. Had that before, it was gone after the update though.
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Post by devine on Apr 30, 2012 13:54:15 GMT -5
I love your post, Dani.
Sometimes life just gets in the way.
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Post by devine on Apr 27, 2012 0:35:35 GMT -5
Pick the moccasins of one of the beautiful ladies on this board and walk a mile or two in them! I'd really love to, but, uh... ... I don't look good in moccasins. Oh, and I can't walk. Just put the moccasins somebody wore for 2 miles on your head then, E. Edited to say that I think you got computer aids in ya head.
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Post by devine on Apr 26, 2012 0:23:21 GMT -5
Posts like this and the explanation thread kinda make me mad!
Some of you guys tend to forget that
A: this is not a dating site
B: although we're devotees we're individuals. We all have a different story to tell.
Pick the moccasins of one of the beautiful ladies on this board and walk a mile or two in them!
Now sorry for the rant, glad you found your match.
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Post by devine on Apr 16, 2012 10:15:10 GMT -5
Well said, Emma. I think dating sites for disabled work well as well. Just put "dev friendly" in your profile.
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Post by devine on Apr 16, 2012 10:01:46 GMT -5
There are very few devs out there. My advice would be: Find a regular local girl or be willing to travel.
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Post by devine on Apr 14, 2012 1:54:08 GMT -5
Watched this yesterday: www.imdb.com/title/tt0443432/I can only find this on youtube: It gave some pretty good insight on what it was like to live life in a wheelchair around 1880. I think it's available with English subs, no translation though.
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Post by devine on Apr 2, 2012 0:21:39 GMT -5
Thank you for trying to answer my questions. I can see similarities in the process of coming to terms with being a dev or a person with BIID. While I'm not a pro in internet dating, I'd say that lying is never a good option to start with, especially not on the internet. I came a long way with this, and I received a lot of support, but I am still lonely, very few people found me attractive and dateable before and now that I am a wheeler it seems to be that much harder. I really just want to have a loving relationship where the guy loves and respects me for who I am and how I see myself. I was really banking on a gay dev to sweep me off my feet, but apparently there are no gay devs or wheelers near NYC who are interested or possibly even existent. Sorry, but being needy is not a good idea either. I think many gay devs and wheelers have made a connection through the board. Some just put their emails out there and 'zooooom', seem to be gone to gay/dev wonderland. Correct me if I'm wrong. I think it's gonna be hard if you limit yourself to a city. I don't know how many gay devs are out there, but I think there are very few of them.
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