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Post by irishclaire on Apr 27, 2009 3:51:18 GMT -5
That's what my friends thought....that neither of us could find anything better and that I have low self esteem. Which is rediculous. Surely they all know me well enough by now that they know I'd never 'settle' for anyone! But then that added to the shock when he broke up with me. They all said they 'knew' he'd never find anything better coz no other woman would be as 'understanding' as me. pfffft people are stupid sometimes.
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Post by aliceofwonder on Apr 27, 2009 7:49:22 GMT -5
as probablly the youngest member of the board, i can tell you that there are heaps of thing that i would never share with my parent, and my whole family is very close. perhaps it is something to do with the fact that i am still a little embarassed of it, but i think that more than that it is just one of those things in your life that is yours and private, and that if some one knew there perception of you may change. I cant really express this as well as i would like but in short i would never tell my parents, my closest friend perhaps as he is very accepting but no on else.
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Post by Ciao Bella on Apr 28, 2009 22:55:40 GMT -5
No, they don't and they never will. I've introduced my partner to my mom and her partner via videocalling, and although she didn't say anything, I could read what was on her mind. Eventually she asked me if he was "independent" and of course, the perfunctory "why is he in a wheelchair?" ...and the surprised, nay, bewildered look on her face when I told her what sport he played competitively in! Classic.
I did tell my best friend about my "preferences" a few years back, but not sure if she'd still remember as she's got her own issues to deal with LOL
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Post by problemlover223 on May 3, 2009 21:10:18 GMT -5
My family does'nt know. Nor would I want them to. I mean, I don't know explicit details about the sexual preferences on ANY of my family members. We share a lot of things and we're a really close family otherwise. That said.... I've had 2 past relationships with 1 para & 1 quad. Both were prett big disasters. I do have to say I was really young and did'nt have a lot of knowledge about relationships.While still married I also dated a guy in a chair but I can't really count an affair as a relatioship ( allthough it is). They really felt very srongly about the third guy. So even if they don't KNOW, they sort of do and they don't seem supportive. They have commented that I might have a self esteem issue. That's their take on it. So I'll leave it at that. I have a self esteem issue.  |
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Post by Valkyrja on May 4, 2009 18:13:42 GMT -5
Hello again, girls.
I don't understand what it happens to our families!!
If they see something different in us, any small detail, for them that's an "self-steem" issue!!
I don't remember to have thought that somebody had self-esteem problems because they think different... and I have known a lot of people slantingly opposed to me!!
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Post by problemlover223 on May 4, 2009 19:29:10 GMT -5
That's ok Val..... they just don't know what they're missing!!! ;D  ;D |
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Post by irishclaire on May 6, 2009 5:03:49 GMT -5
Does anybody really need to know though? We don't go round shouting about other sexual preferences (well, most of us don't). Yeah my friends and I joke about sex stuff, but none of us knows each others deepest darkest fantasties. The girls know I'm open-minded about dating a guy in a chair but that's the height of it. I think we all enjoy having our own little secrets. And like a lot of others on here I could never imagine talking to my parents about sexual stuff! My dad prefers if he doesn't know what I get up to haha
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Post by Valkyrja on May 6, 2009 10:43:15 GMT -5
LOL!!! Twi!!... you're right. I'm not interested in tell anybody my sexual life, but I would like to tell a friend my preference.
About the family, when I began dating my actual partner (14 years ago, I was 26) I told my mother that I was going to spend the weekend at his home. My mother looked really amazed and asked me if I was having sex with that boy (LOL!!). That was really unbelievable!!!... I told her: "Mom, do you really think I was a virgin!?... he's not even the first one!!"... LOL (My first time was when I was 19).
I suppose our parents like to think we are babies!...
Can you imagine what she could say if she'd know about my devness!! LOL
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Post by vonvon13 on May 7, 2009 0:35:11 GMT -5
No! My family doesn't know. My mother has an idea. My parents freak out when I have a new B/F who is disabled. Which actually cracks me up. My father is disabled. ::rollseyes:: It's my life. The will either love me the way I am or they won't.
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Post by irishclaire on May 7, 2009 12:45:53 GMT -5
No! My family doesn't know. My mother has an idea. My parents freak out when I have a new B/F who is disabled. Which actually cracks me up. My father is disabled. ::rollseyes:: It's my life. The will either love me the way I am or they won't. Too true. |
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Post by Dee Dee on May 7, 2009 18:43:02 GMT -5
I look at it this way: I have no need of telling my parents or any other family member - and they need not know. It´s a win-win situation really.
However, if I dated a wheeler and introduced him to my parents; I´m quite convinced that they would welcome him with open arms just as they have done with any other boy-/girlfriend, whom I have introduced them to.
I think their attitude is that I should date whomever I would like to. Well, if he was some kind of murderous criminal, they might be a bit worried - lol.
And Valkyr; yes our parents do think that we´re still babies sometimes; and quite frankly I´m beginning to think the same thing about them now and then - ROFL ;.)
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Post by vonvon13 on May 8, 2009 0:46:56 GMT -5
I suppose our parents like to think we are babies!...
Can you imagine what she could say if she'd know about my devness!! LOL[/quote]
I had open heart surgery at the age of 2. My mother treated me like a baby until the age of 22. Until the day I went off on her. LOL! I understand I died twice. Gezzz, get over it! I did! LOL!
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Post by amy on May 10, 2009 10:45:11 GMT -5
If anything, I wouldn't be surprised if my mom had been a dev of some sort. She once dated a man who's right arm (fully functional) was born half the length it should have been, another guy who was completely burned all over and a few other people who don't fit the societal norms. And, she liked windrider a lot, I got a few comments like 'oh, he's so broad!' I guess she'd be ok with it. It's funny you should say that, because I always sort of thought my mom was a secret dev too. So secret, I think she probably didn't know about it. I'm not basing this on much besides the fact that she was completely obsessed with Chris Reeve when he was alive. She used to talk about him all the time and read every article about him. |
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Post by irishclaire on May 10, 2009 11:31:53 GMT -5
If anything, I wouldn't be surprised if my mom had been a dev of some sort. She once dated a man who's right arm (fully functional) was born half the length it should have been, another guy who was completely burned all over and a few other people who don't fit the societal norms. And, she liked windrider a lot, I got a few comments like 'oh, he's so broad!' I guess she'd be ok with it. It's funny you should say that, because I always sort of thought my mom was a secret dev too. So secret, I think she probably didn't know about it. I'm not basing this on much besides the fact that she was completely obsessed with Chris Reeve when he was alive. She used to talk about him all the time and read every article about him. I've often wondered that too about my mum. Just little things she's said and the jobs she's had...but who knows. Could just be a coincidence. But wouldn't it be weird if the whole 'dev' thing was hereditary?? |
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Post by faith on May 10, 2009 12:57:48 GMT -5
And to answer the actual question... no, no one in my family knows.
I did tell another friend yesterday. She is the second person I have told (besides all of you of course!). She didn't seem surprised or shocked in any way. Her actual response was something like "oh, lots of people have that kind of stuff- drawn toward people for lots of different reasons." We went on and talked about it for a while, but she still thinks I am rather normal (sometimes!).
Friends are one thing, but family is different.
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