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Post by vonvon13 on May 19, 2009 23:28:06 GMT -5
My sis is a lot like me in ways. We did not grow up together. She was adopted by her step-dad. I did not met her until 3 months after our bio father death. She is Pagan/Wiccan. I accept that. I love her! She is the only blood sister I have left. My baby sis died in a car crash 9 years ago.  |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on May 19, 2009 23:40:58 GMT -5
If she's Pagan/Wiccan then I'd expect her to be open enough to know about this. I mean, shouldn't she understand how it is to be different?
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Post by vonvon13 on May 20, 2009 9:58:47 GMT -5
If she's Pagan/Wiccan then I'd expect her to be open enough to know about this. I mean, shouldn't she understand how it is to be different? I am just going to give a few days. See what happens. I did tell my best~friend last night. But, really already knew she would be ok with it. She use to work as CNA. She worked with only the disabled. Now she is the one who is disabled. She told me she thinks its awesome there are ppl like us. She told me if this made me happy. Then she would stand beside me the whole way.  |
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Post by CJ on Jul 8, 2009 15:40:27 GMT -5
My family doesn't know, but that's because I don't give them a lot of details about my relationships. They have only met guys I've dated for an extended period of time.
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Post by wendyloohoo on Jul 29, 2009 15:07:47 GMT -5
When I was 9, I had my first experience with a disabled guy at a family reunion. He had come with my cousin Becky as her date and I was fascinated by his chair and being 9 asked him all sorts of questions and he put me in his lap and wheeled me around and told me I was pretty. Later, I overheard my dad tell my mom that he didn't know where Becky dug these guys up from because she always seemed to bring a "handicapped" guy to our family reunions (one was an amputee, one in a wheelchair, one with braces and crutches that I remember). It's funny to now look at her and think she's probably a Dev, and that the exposure to her boyfriends probably set off my own Dev-ness. Anyway. After hearing my dad's comments the thought of liking a boy in a wheelchair seemed like something I should be ashamed of. When I was fascinated by a deaf boy in my junior high school, my dad had a fit that I even expressed interest. My mother told him I was a "good, kind girl" and it's just a phase. Sooooo.... no I have never come out to my family about my proclivity but if I ever did find that guy and wanted to bring him home, I wouldn't let my dad's opinion stop me. I wonder though if my dad would be more accepting now, because he has diabetic neuropathy in his legs and feet and has to use a scooter to get around places like the grocery store or mall and a cane for walking. Maybe I'll ask him next time I go home, just to test the waters.
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Post by Ciao Bella on Aug 1, 2009 0:42:45 GMT -5
I was skyping with my auntie from the US one day, and of course the webcam was on. Anyway, my partner happened to roll to the door which was very visible to my auntie's view. When he'd left, the look of confusion/shock/even horror (?) on her face was priceless!!! then came the questions about can he drive on his own, why is he in a wc...etc...I've learned to keep the answer simple...he's very independent, does things on his own all the time, no issue here...
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Post by vonvon13 on Sept 21, 2009 1:57:10 GMT -5
I was skyping with my auntie from the US one day, and of course the webcam was on. Anyway, my partner happened to roll to the door which was very visible to my auntie's view. When he'd left, the look of confusion/shock/even horror (?) on her face was priceless!!! then came the questions about can he drive on his own, why is he in a wc...etc...I've learned to keep the answer simple...he's very independent, does things on his own all the time, no issue here... I would have love to seen her face. ;D |
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Post by Ciao Bella on Sept 22, 2009 18:48:55 GMT -5
It was hilarious, Von I should've screen-dumped her and posted it here LOL |
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Post by vonvon13 on Sept 23, 2009 20:06:56 GMT -5
It was hilarious, Von I should've screen-dumped her and posted it here LOL ;D I bet it was LMAO! |
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Post by dolly on Sept 24, 2009 22:49:52 GMT -5
i think some people in my life probably suspect something is up... but some of it i am sure is written off to being "kind-hearted" and being able to see past 'that sort of thing'. i have also orchestrated involvement in certain things to explain the presence of a number of wheelers in my life over the years. the example of wendyloo's cousin is something i've always been a bit paranoid about, i admit. not so much because of caring about what people think, but more just not wanting that to be *the* thing that people focus on about me. but good for her. lol i'm curious if she ended up with a disabled guy long term? isabelle, that is a really funny story. |
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Post by vonvon13 on Sept 28, 2009 8:40:08 GMT -5
i think some people in my life probably suspect something is up... but some of it i am sure is written off to being "kind-hearted" and being able to see past 'that sort of thing'. i have also orchestrated involvement in certain things to explain the presence of a number of wheelers in my life over the years. the example of wendyloo's cousin is something i've always been a bit paranoid about, i admit. not so much because of caring about what people think, but more just not wanting that to be *the* thing that people focus on about me. but good for her. lol i'm curious if she ended up with a disabled guy long term? isabelle, that is a really funny story. I hope you find your Mr Wheeler. ;D |
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Post by celesty on Oct 10, 2009 21:11:41 GMT -5
I told my mother about it a few months ago, and she seemed shocked. She then got over it and told me the name of a movie I should watch (I don't remember what it was called...). I rented "Saved!" from Blockbuster the night before, and she watched it with me later that day. She did insist it was a phase, though, but I'm not worried about her not accepting me. She said that I just wanted to be a nice person, and so I'm letting her chalk it up to that.
I'm the kind of person who likes to talk nonstop to my friends, so at least five of them know about it. I have to remind them to shut up about it sometimes in school or around my family, but I'm perfectly okay about them knowing.
I'd be mortified if my father found out. I don't like to tell him anything dealing with guys, for fear of it being awkward. I draw a lot, and he was looking at my deviantART and saying, "What's up with this guy in the wheelchair?" I got really nervous and said that it was character I made up for a webcomic, and I had to practice drawing him (which is partially true, but I left out the part about me being a dev).
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