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Nov 9, 2005 19:36:53 GMT -5
Post by BA on Nov 9, 2005 19:36:53 GMT -5
Creative E. Sounds like a devo. I enjoyed reading that your response was to feel very wanted and vigorous. I hope that I make the men in my life feel that way. It is important to me that they know they are a turn-on and very much wanted/needed. Glad your experience was a positive one.
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Nov 9, 2005 19:42:42 GMT -5
Post by matisse on Nov 9, 2005 19:42:42 GMT -5
Creative--are you already taken? If not, why didn't you call her and go out with her? It takes a lot of guts for a girl to give a guy her number.
As far as the stifling caused by lack of alcohol, there seems to be an easy fix for that: alchohol!!!!!!!!
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Nov 9, 2005 21:47:46 GMT -5
Post by E on Nov 9, 2005 21:47:46 GMT -5
Creative E, All this assumes you're not already taken: There's still time. Don't let a good devo go bad, get in touch with her, go out with her, and maybe you can talk her out of marrying the AB guy. I agree totally with Matisse. She didn't give you her phone number because she thought you were from the phone company and updating your records. As far as her being willing to talk to you when drunk and not when sober, it's probably not that she's not willing. She just sounds shy. All the alcohol did was open her up some. Now it's up to you to bring this stuff out of her while she's sober. Call her, continue to see her at work, flirt with her, and keep talking to her until she gets more comfortable with you. If she is a devo - and I agree with you that she sure sounds like one - you've got what I've come to understand is quite an advantage. Just whatever it takes, get to the point where you ask her out. And if all this is wrong - if, despite all indications to the contrary, she is not interested in you - the worst that can happen is that she can say no. I'm certainly not any kind of expert on talking to women, but I have found that being confident and forward - within reasonable limits - will either net you excellent results or a very clear rejection; either of which will keep you from wasting your time on a dead end. If you don't pursue her a bit more aggressively and you have to wonder "what if", you'll regret it for quite some time. The only regret you'll have if you do pursue her is that you didn't do it sooner. Oh, don't worry. I wasn't posting this as a sad tale, but rather a testimony of how clear devotees can/may be upon contact. I'll continue stopping by to say hello. I'm patient, persistent, and not worried about it either way. There's plenty of friends to be had in this world.
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Nov 9, 2005 23:17:12 GMT -5
Post by devogirl on Nov 9, 2005 23:17:12 GMT -5
I enjoyed reading that your response was to feel very wanted and vigorous. I hope that I make the men in my life feel that way. It is important to me that they know they are a turn-on and very much wanted/needed. I second that AB. I know my response is, uh, intense, and there have been a few times in the past where I've scared guys off by coming on too strong. In one case I think he just wasn't interested in me, but in another it seemed more that he just couldn't believe a girl would want him that much. Sad. I'm really glad to hear you enjoyed that kind of intense attention, and that it didn't make you uncomfortable.
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Nov 10, 2005 5:25:14 GMT -5
Post by BA on Nov 10, 2005 5:25:14 GMT -5
I'm patient, persistent, and not worried about it either way. There's plenty of friends to be had in this world. And that attitude of calm, laid back confidence will get you plenty of friends, Mr. E.
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Nov 10, 2005 11:39:22 GMT -5
Post by mrjefffurz on Nov 10, 2005 11:39:22 GMT -5
i can understand that "why is she interested in me" feeling as i believe i expressed in previous posts...i dont have the impression that the lady from my friday nite post is a devo...it felt totally different than the encounter that led me to find this site,,,plus, i had known her off & on for a couple of years ...the 1st nite we met we sat in the bar talking & kissing for the longest time but i didnt take it serious then...i was chasing the gal she was there with & couldnt fathom that such a pretty, classy, refined woman would find me interesting)...right now my confidence level is,,perhaps,,,a bit over-confident?...but what i really want for this weekend is too go to a particular apt. and brush long brown hair,,,
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Nov 10, 2005 12:58:16 GMT -5
Post by matisse on Nov 10, 2005 12:58:16 GMT -5
talking and kissing....and you didn't take it seriously?!?!?! Jeff!!! How am I supposed to live vicariously, bud?!!??!?!
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Nov 15, 2005 10:46:59 GMT -5
Post by Pisti on Nov 15, 2005 10:46:59 GMT -5
A variation on The Look-one that is a very clear signal is this: She sees you and looks stunned. Looks away. Looks again, looks away. Another peek. Eye contact, looks away. Back again, this time with a little smile. Guys, that is DEFINITELY a devo. Yeh... You just exactly described my reaction... And don't forget the blushing...
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Nov 16, 2005 3:23:42 GMT -5
Post by wheelie37 on Nov 16, 2005 3:23:42 GMT -5
does just eye contact and a smile count?
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Nov 16, 2005 7:05:04 GMT -5
Post by Pisti on Nov 16, 2005 7:05:04 GMT -5
It depends on what those eyes and that smile tell you...
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Nov 18, 2005 8:31:10 GMT -5
Post by wheelie37 on Nov 18, 2005 8:31:10 GMT -5
it is very hard to tell between someone who is just being friendly, to someone who actually fancies you
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Nov 18, 2005 11:15:12 GMT -5
Post by matisse on Nov 18, 2005 11:15:12 GMT -5
Interesting because guys usually misinterpret women's reactions in the other direction--we typically have a tendency to view even the smallest gesture as a sign of interest. But it seems to be different for those of us in chairs. I think part of the reason is that we do get a fair bit of attention in this politically correct world. Strangers are talking to me all the time.
The woman who jumped on my lap and had a prior quad BF, she was probably a devo. The super-nice, always-friendly super hot host at the restaurant where I frequently get take-out--I doubt it (doh!!).
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Nov 20, 2005 23:50:29 GMT -5
Post by fast on Nov 20, 2005 23:50:29 GMT -5
that long stocking gal lured me here as well. I'm sexy n single but NOT looking for anything but fun. Hiya matisse!
--fast
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Nov 21, 2005 0:50:49 GMT -5
Post by matisse on Nov 21, 2005 0:50:49 GMT -5
Hey Fast! Glad to see you're posting again on NM and glad to have you here.
But I am confused about your post on NM about Ms. Long Locks--I thought you said upon your re-emergence that you were gay?
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Nov 22, 2005 11:22:23 GMT -5
Post by BA on Nov 22, 2005 11:22:23 GMT -5
The woman who jumped on my lap and had a prior quad BF, she was probably a devo. The super-nice, always-friendly super hot host at the restaurant where I frequently get take-out--I doubt it (doh!!). Well Matisse, you just about summed up the difference here. The non-devs are the girls that smile at you, talk to you and want to be your "friend". The devs want to jump on your lap, suck some face and take you to bed. Welcome Fast. Did you respond to me? Did you ever say you were gay? Either way, you'll find action on this board.
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