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Nov 23, 2005 2:32:03 GMT -5
Post by wheelie37 on Nov 23, 2005 2:32:03 GMT -5
does it count if they just sit on your lap for a hug
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Nov 23, 2005 4:53:28 GMT -5
Post by Pisti on Nov 23, 2005 4:53:28 GMT -5
Well, well... Talk about cultural differences... Those sitting on one's lap, kissing and huging depend on one's personality, too... I wouldn't sit on someone's lap until I'm not sure that I won't break his bones... And I'm a bit too reserved to give anyone anything more than a handshake for the first time... If one gets a kiss on his cheek from me, he can be sure that I'm crazy for him... : ;D
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Nov 23, 2005 12:31:11 GMT -5
Post by mrjefffurz on Nov 23, 2005 12:31:11 GMT -5
hmmm,,if lap-sitting w/ huggin & kissin is the main criteria for sifting thru to fins the devette then i must be surrounded by them...some of them really like it when a leg starts doin the shimmy shimmy shake,,,they say its better than a washer on spin cycle,,,i doubt if they would feel that way if a big spazz hit and they wound up on their ass... ;D
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Nov 23, 2005 16:12:37 GMT -5
Post by vivi on Nov 23, 2005 16:12:37 GMT -5
I'm pretty shy too, so if I see a guy I might be ineterested in, I would do the eye contact... Direct eye contact, and smile at him. If he comes over to say hi and introduce himself, great! ... In fact, this is how I once picked up a guy at the grocery store, but he wasn't in a chair or disabled... He just had the most amazing aqua blue eyes I have ever seen.
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Nov 23, 2005 22:15:06 GMT -5
Post by LadyLuvsParas on Nov 23, 2005 22:15:06 GMT -5
Yeah, I'm the shy type too. I am the eye contact and smile type. You'll definitely never catch me jumping into a stranger's lap! I like an invitation first
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Nov 24, 2005 0:15:06 GMT -5
Post by matisse on Nov 24, 2005 0:15:06 GMT -5
Eye contact and a smile....well you need to do a little more than that, at least a second look/smile. I know that probably takes a lot of guts for you shy types, but it may be the only way to distinguish regular niceness from interest.
Why? Well, there are very few of us wheelers out there on a daily basis. I only rarely see another wheeler and I am all over the place--restaurants, mall, movies, zoo, airports, grocery stores, etc. In this politically correct world, I have people smiling at me all the time, I think it makes people feel good about themselves. So a single look and smile just doesn't stand out.
Hopping on for a ride, does stand out, although I would have to agree that's a bit forward......
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Nov 24, 2005 13:45:54 GMT -5
Post by vivi on Nov 24, 2005 13:45:54 GMT -5
Eye contact and a smile....well you need to do a little more than that, at least a second look/smile. I know that probably takes a lot of guts for you shy types, but it may be the only way to distinguish regular niceness from interest. Call me old fashioned, but I still like guys to make the first move. And my gaze can be pretty direct... Trust me, when I look at a guy and smile, he usually knows what I mean.
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Nov 24, 2005 13:47:49 GMT -5
Post by BA on Nov 24, 2005 13:47:49 GMT -5
Thank you Vivi. I feel the same way, but I will give a clear message that I am interested if I get that smile from him.
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Nov 24, 2005 14:04:03 GMT -5
Post by mrjefffurz on Nov 24, 2005 14:04:03 GMT -5
im pretty much "out there' but, as matisse, said,,,we do get smiled @ alot and experience has taught us to smile back and turn away..,being stared @ is also a typical thing,,,i just pass my gaze in a "shove it up your ol wazoo" way when that happens...the smile & look would really have to be *bang!* to get my full attention...and,,,just for the record,,,ive been told i have "the most awesome eyes" by more than a few nice ladies
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Nov 24, 2005 15:05:01 GMT -5
Post by matisse on Nov 24, 2005 15:05:01 GMT -5
Trust me, when I look at a guy and smile, he usually knows what I mean. For an AB, I have no doubt. But for us wheelers, I am not so sure. As Jeff points out, people are always looking at us, so it's instinct for us to smile back and then look away. I second look and smile would be different; a first look and smile is commonplace. So I guess if you still only do one look and smile, don't assume there is no interest if you don't get his attention enough to come over.
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Nov 24, 2005 15:37:41 GMT -5
Post by vivi on Nov 24, 2005 15:37:41 GMT -5
Okay, now I know to keep the looks and smiles for a while longer... But I still like my guys to make the first move.
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Nov 24, 2005 21:02:59 GMT -5
Post by BA on Nov 24, 2005 21:02:59 GMT -5
Thank you for the pointer there Matisse. I keep forgetting how "nice" people want to be to wheelers for their own pc reasons. Therefore, I will have to make sure that my message gets across in a more distinctly unmistakable way.
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Nov 24, 2005 22:19:25 GMT -5
Post by mrjefffurz on Nov 24, 2005 22:19:25 GMT -5
vivi...are u a grrl?....if so,,,,,then consider the first move done been made,,,orale! (thats "get 'er done" in new mexicanspeak
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Nov 24, 2005 22:49:15 GMT -5
Post by vivi on Nov 24, 2005 22:49:15 GMT -5
Mrjefffurz, I am Mexican... hehehehe... And yes, I'm a girl.
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Nov 25, 2005 4:02:27 GMT -5
Post by Pisti on Nov 25, 2005 4:02:27 GMT -5
and,,,just for the record,,,ive been told i have "the most awesome eyes" by more than a few nice ladies Prove it, otherwise we won't believe you!
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