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Post by devogirl on Nov 17, 2005 14:02:46 GMT -5
Morbid? When the Mantis was making me come like a freight train, morbid was the last thing on our minds, believe me. His exact words to me: "Being with you was very freeing, as I am no longer ashamed of how skinny and crippled I look, I now know, at least to some people, it's hot. Thank you for making me feel sexy all over, not just above the waist."
I took those bondage pics, and I stand by them. I refuse to believe that the only ethically acceptable way to desire a disabled guy is if you knew him before the accident, and that kinky sex sends a bad message. Instead of trying to evade the term "fetish" I would encourage all of you to embrace it in a sex-positive way. Having a fetish for someone doesn't preclude having a loving, emotional relationship as well, as many of the posts here attest.
The purpose of this board and site is not to change minds or convince people to come around to our way of thinking. The purpose is to provide a place for devos to talk to each other and to create and share the kind of fantasies we want to see. If we also happen to change some minds, or if someone finds a date, so much the better, but that's just an extra.
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Post by that hillary girl on Nov 17, 2005 14:37:59 GMT -5
I totally agree with what you are saying.
What I do not agree with is someone telling me to feel a certain way and then getting mad when I don't. I don't understand and that is okay.....at least I tried by asking questions.
I did not go out searching for this site as a "mad desperate housewife" to tell someone their feelings are wrong! The site was brought to me. If it is going to be pushed in my face then I have a right to react.
Anyway, that is pretty much all I have to say. I can respect the way someone else lives as long as they can respect the way I live (and not call me a "desperate housewife"...far from it).
I don't understand when it became a bad thing to be married and be committed to that person. It seems like everyone feels like I can't understand because I am married to someone who became paraplegic after I married...frankly, that is bullshit.
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Post by Leilia on Nov 17, 2005 15:04:24 GMT -5
Actually Hillary nobody is forcing you to feel a certain way at all...You come off as if we are a bunch of people that are out to hurt the disabled and you are the hero trying to protect them all from 'us'.
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Post by Joisliniad on Nov 17, 2005 16:09:57 GMT -5
"It's difficult to urgue with those devos...coz they're are under the spell of fetishsm".
That was by the joisinland person or whatever. Geez, what an archaic way of thinking. You should fix that.
Please make sure to read well, under not circumtansce Imade that comment. I don't have anything again being kinky, but I think it is morbid the whole idea of dating someone jsut because of their disabilities, adn I found more morbid the fact that yous tarted the tread not using your name, and them came here to make fun of our comments, and then went back and post a picture of you and earl under the Fatty name. So if you wants us to get to know your page you didn't have to started the way you did, and be so aggressive toward others people opinions. You are rude.. that is all what I said in my comments. Good luck with your preferences, and I respect them, but I am far from being archaic, adn I am not marry to any disable person either. I work very hard with them to become independent and be able to have all the fun that you are having with a relationship with them. Again Idon;t need to go to law school to find a lwyer to date me, I don't need to go a bar to find a man, and disable people don't need to get the diea that they need to come to this page to find someone who would love them, have fun with them and care for them,a nd respect them for who they are.
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Post by matisse on Nov 17, 2005 16:23:49 GMT -5
disable people don't need to get the diea that they need to come to this page to find someone who would love them, have fun with them and care for them,a nd respect them for who they are. Well, we "disabled people" are not exactly idiots who simply get fed ideas and accept them without question. I doubt any of us think we "need" to come here, and in fact, a number of us are already in relationships with non-devotees, but still make the choice to participate. |
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Post by Triassic on Nov 17, 2005 16:26:08 GMT -5
OK everybody...group hug. {{{{{}}}} Theeere we go..,.
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Post by rollnthundr on Nov 17, 2005 17:00:27 GMT -5
disable people don't need to get the diea that they need to come to this page to find someone who would love them, have fun with them and care for them,a nd respect them for who they are. It's sounds like I'm a puppy... there are some similarities. I like being stroked and I will lick you... lol BTW speaking only for myself and just for your information. I improved in my independance faster after I left the hospital and stopped doing things the way the OT's and PT's taught me. You find easier ways of doing thing just with trial and error and not having someone watching you do it. |
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Post by BA on Nov 17, 2005 17:33:26 GMT -5
WHOA! Well, aren't we into a fine discussion here! Meow is right. You know what I think?
What goes on behind your closed door is nobodys business but your own. If you choose to hang out your laundry in public, then be willing to have it get splattered with mud.
Therefore, lets get past this and agree to disagree about certain issues.
Edited to say: Nevermind, I'm having a crappy day and this thread has really pissed me off.
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Post by BA on Nov 17, 2005 18:11:44 GMT -5
"I am not marry to any disable person either. I work very hard with them to become independent and be able to have all the fun that you are having with a relationship with them. I didn't even really want to reply to this post based upon the general lack of use of the spell check feature. However, I am curious as to what you do for a living. What type of work do you do that puts you on an SCI board, on a relationship/devotee thread? Does it require a special diploma or certification? Just curious. |
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Post by mrjefffurz on Nov 17, 2005 19:08:47 GMT -5
ya know,,,i really would love to get my degree is dis/devette relationships but im not very bright and would need a tutor....  |
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Post by John on Nov 17, 2005 19:34:01 GMT -5
You're all a bunch of freaks. I'm the only sane son of a bitch here. You weirdos can go and slice up your spinal cords now.. I lost the use of my legs 8 years ago, but you all lost your minds when you go on this web site. You friggen idiots
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Post by devboy on Nov 17, 2005 19:47:10 GMT -5
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Post by captozone on Nov 17, 2005 19:48:37 GMT -5
You're all a bunch of freaks. I'm the only sane son of a bitch here. You weirdos can go and slice up your spinal cords now.. I lost the use of my legs 8 years ago, but you all lost your minds when you go on this web site. You friggen idiots I have 12 years on ya, and it seems you're a fairly closed minded person. Ever notice when someone doesn't have a very high IQ they resort to name calling and finger pointing. |
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Post by V on Nov 18, 2005 7:22:36 GMT -5
I think it's interesting how Chan posted something on a board, and it got a heated reaction, and people are not responding to Chan directly, in private messages (which is possible if you get a login here) or email or whatnot, they're making this about the whole community.
But it's not about the whole community. Everyone feels differently about this. Why pollute our heretofore civil boards with all of this animosity?
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Post by cripinuk on Nov 19, 2005 4:38:56 GMT -5
I saw nothing wrong with wot you said,some people on that sight are very defensive...  |
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