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Post by allison101 on Feb 21, 2011 21:23:47 GMT -5
I haven't had a bad run in with a disabled guy yet- maybe because no one knows i'm a dev? (;
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Post by Ray T on Feb 22, 2011 0:28:52 GMT -5
I haven't had a bad run in with a disabled guy yet- maybe because no one knows i'm a dev? (; Ha I know you are a dev ... but i am a good guy so ... well drats lol....
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 22, 2011 4:23:53 GMT -5
I haven't had a bad run in with a disabled guy yet- maybe because no one knows i'm a dev? (; I doubt that's it. I've told every guy I've ever dated, disabled or not, that I'm a dev. No one has ever had a problem with it. The disabled guys usually say, "That's so cool, I'm glad I don't have to worry about you getting turned off by my body." Yet still, I have many experiences of talking to someone I like, having a good time over IM and phone and really clicking, going on a date, and having him never talk to me again. So, I have no idea why that happens and I wish one of these guys would be honest with me and tell me the truth so that I could be more at peace with it.
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Post by ~Z28gal~ on Feb 22, 2011 13:08:01 GMT -5
Hugs Ruth!!
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Post by allison101 on Feb 22, 2011 23:23:46 GMT -5
:/ Ruth, I feel you on that one. I havent had the best luck with relationships either.
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 23, 2011 7:38:29 GMT -5
The fact is, as long as you're in the dating world, you're going to have bad experiences!
I don't know why it is so hard for people to come together, but for some reason that's how it seems to work.
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Post by Ray T on Feb 23, 2011 10:46:33 GMT -5
Ruth I thnk sometimes we try to hard on making relationships happen... I say we as in us humans. seems all good relationships I have ever had started when i was not expecting them to and not really working on anything they just happened. She dug me I dug her and we went from there and every one of those relationships that started like that was good. havent had many of those but a few and some relationships are not ment to last for ever some are. I have decided to not look for Miss right anymore, I am just going to be me flirt and stay "Ray" that way if she likes me it is that she likes me for me. if and when We bump into one another it will happen and if we don't then I will be happy to stay single. What do you all think about this???
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 23, 2011 11:59:25 GMT -5
Ruth I thnk sometimes we try to hard on making relationships happen... I say we as in us humans. seems all good relationships I have ever had started when i was not expecting them to and not really working on anything they just happened. She dug me I dug her and we went from there and every one of those relationships that started like that was good. havent had many of those but a few and some relationships are not ment to last for ever some are. I have decided to not look for Miss right anymore, I am just going to be me flirt and stay "Ray" that way if she likes me it is that she likes me for me. if and when We bump into one another it will happen and if we don't then I will be happy to stay single. What do you all think about this??? Well, it sounds good. Except in the nine years I've been dating, I've only once ever met an eligible man. I don't want to "hunt," I want to just let it happen and be natural, but then I'm stuck in the conundrum that if I don't go looking for the men I like, I won't ever see them.
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Post by Ray T on Feb 23, 2011 13:15:03 GMT -5
all i can say is ever is a very long time... lol so don't say ever or never... lol
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 23, 2011 14:29:27 GMT -5
all i can say is ever is a very long time... lol so don't say ever or never... lol It's true. I just feel very discouraged at the moment. Seriously the last person I met in real life I could flirt with was six years ago.
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Post by allison101 on Feb 27, 2011 22:31:23 GMT -5
This kind of relates to the "Do you find AB guys sexy?" post, but i've only ever dated AB guys. And i was very attracted to them. but i do think that if i dated a wheeler or an amputee, there would just be more passion in the relationship. But i've yet to meet a wheeler or amputee my age.
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Post by benquad on Feb 28, 2011 0:12:09 GMT -5
Hello pretty lady! Welcome
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Post by tuna on Mar 3, 2011 18:20:20 GMT -5
@ Allison: You're so cute! welcome girl.
@ Ruth: however bad the 'dating' part of things are, you know when they do stupid stuff like not calling or just aquiring an attitude all of a sudden, its still better than being in a real thing and then having your heart broken, or worse still, be in a relationship that causes nothing but incessant pain. I understand where you are coming from, but believe me, if I had I choice between going out with a guy and having him not call, and being in a painful relationship which i am unable to end, I really would choose the former. Maybe somethings end sooner for the best.
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Post by ruthmadison on Mar 3, 2011 19:47:01 GMT -5
@ Allison: You're so cute! welcome girl. @ Ruth: however bad the 'dating' part of things are, you know when they do stupid stuff like not calling or just aquiring an attitude all of a sudden, its still better than being in a real thing and then having your heart broken, or worse still, be in a relationship that causes nothing but incessant pain. I understand where you are coming from, but believe me, if I had I choice between going out with a guy and having him not call, and being in a painful relationship which i am unable to end, I really would choose the former. Maybe somethings end sooner for the best. That is a very good point. I'm not looking at the choice between them disappearing or them dragging me through a long and painful relationship. I find it really cowardly not to say goodbye in a full manner, just so that I can understand and grow from the experience, you know? It's like, you talked to me for weeks to months ahead of time, told me all these wonderful things, and then disappear without explanation. I'd just like to have a parting discussion. But I have also been in the terrible, emotionally-abusive and scary relationship too! lol.
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Post by tuna on Mar 4, 2011 9:00:01 GMT -5
@ruth: I am sure we have al had our (un)fair share of from-hell relationships.I know what you mean though, that kind of cowardly 'sneaking' out of a could-have-been relationship is stupid and cowardly. It doesnt quite 'damage' me in the way a difficult relationship does, but it damages 'faith'. so to speak, because for love-junkies like me, believing doesnt stop. for better or worse. but the next time someone comes along and seems to show that they care, some part of your head goes 'yeah, right. let's see how long you last.' I WILL 'believe' ,eventually, because that is me and I dont want to live without faith, but the journey to letting yourself believe is just that much harder. On the same note: you wish they told you why they are leaving because you feel it would show you something about yourself. But you know Ruth, it may be too much to expect from them, or like giving them too much credit. think of this: someone who doesnt have the basic decency, guts, to tell you that they are leaving, cant have known you more than you know yourself. I dont know if such men have that amount of perception, sensitivity or articulation.
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