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Post by ruthmadison on Mar 4, 2011 9:03:14 GMT -5
@ruth: I am sure we have al had our (un)fair share of from-hell relationships.I know what you mean though, that kind of cowardly 'sneaking' out of a could-have-been relationship is stupid and cowardly. It doesnt quite 'damage' me in the way a difficult relationship does, but it damages 'faith'. so to speak, because for love-junkies like me, believing doesnt stop. for better or worse. but the next time someone comes along and seems to show that they care, some part of your head goes 'yeah, right. let's see how long you last.' I WILL 'believe' ,eventually, because that is me and I dont want to live without faith, but the journey to letting yourself believe is just that much harder. On the same note: you wish they told you why they are leaving because you feel it would show you something about yourself. But you know Ruth, it may be too much to expect from them, or like giving them too much credit. think of this: someone who doesnt have the basic decency, guts, to tell you that they are leaving, cant have known you more than you know yourself. I dont know if such men have that amount of perception, sensitivity or articulation. Well put!
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Post by wheelieInCali on Mar 4, 2011 13:19:28 GMT -5
@ruth: I am sure we have al had our (un)fair share of from-hell relationships.I know what you mean though, that kind of cowardly 'sneaking' out of a could-have-been relationship is stupid and cowardly. It doesnt quite 'damage' me in the way a difficult relationship does, but it damages 'faith'. so to speak, because for love-junkies like me, believing doesnt stop. for better or worse. but the next time someone comes along and seems to show that they care, some part of your head goes 'yeah, right. let's see how long you last.' I WILL 'believe' ,eventually, because that is me and I dont want to live without faith, but the journey to letting yourself believe is just that much harder. On the same note: you wish they told you why they are leaving because you feel it would show you something about yourself. But you know Ruth, it may be too much to expect from them, or like giving them too much credit. think of this: someone who doesnt have the basic decency, guts, to tell you that they are leaving, cant have known you more than you know yourself. I dont know if such men have that amount of perception, sensitivity or articulation. That's better than my explanation, which is that they are just chicken. It's happened to me before too. I blame the internet and the sense of anonymity that goes along with people creating an internet persona. The internet allows you to live vicariously through a medium where you can be anything that you want to be. People just don't realize that you can do that in real life too and when things get too real for them they shrink back into the vastness of cyberspace. Come to think of it, I hate the term "in real life". In person would do much better. Isn't this still real life?
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Post by tuna on Mar 4, 2011 16:32:42 GMT -5
In the 90s, when I was a teenager, the internet was my playing ground. you know that shit we all did on random yahoo chat rooms. God! that cost me innocence, and any happiness I might have had as a young carefree teenager. long story short, I learnt to be afraid of virtual people. It was so strange to get to know people here on this forum after a long hiatus. I am a different person now, more cynical/jaded and with better filter systems, and I sincerely thought I had put internet 'friendships' behind me. To come here now, seems like revisiting a friend's grave, you have moved on from the pain but the memory of it lingers somewhere. I loved your sentence wheelie-- "Isnt this still real life?" I think I am going too use it often, with your permission
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Post by wheelieInCali on Mar 4, 2011 18:56:08 GMT -5
Use it wisely
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Post by matisse on Mar 4, 2011 21:15:51 GMT -5
On Ruth's point, I guess I kind of agree that at some level it would be nice to have more information. Maybe this is a bad analogy, but my law school roommate was getting a 100% rejection rate after interviews, despite having good grades. He asked me to videotape a mock interview, and it became very clear what was going on.
Of course relationships are much more complicated, but sometimes there is stuff we can work on, and actually want to work on, that we just don't know about. As an example, I have a tendency to engage in what I consider to be playful ribbing of my friends. But there came a time when I was taking it a bit too far, too often. I was glad when one of my friends basically told me that I was hurting her. I cut it out with her, and I also realized that it may have been affecting others who were not brave enough to say anything.
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Post by confusion on Mar 9, 2011 14:13:41 GMT -5
Nice pics!
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Post by alluringpariah on Mar 11, 2011 2:41:00 GMT -5
Yeah, I love Facebook and the fact I get to maintain contact with people I would've otherwise lost contact with. I do agree however, that these social networking advances we have due to technology do have their faults. I was discussing this topic with someone the other day who was all for it, however, I think there are some things that should be done in person and not email, text or even phone.
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Post by wheelieInCali on Mar 11, 2011 4:01:20 GMT -5
Some things definitely have to be done in person.
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Post by E on Mar 11, 2011 10:12:27 GMT -5
Some things definitely have to be done in person. Like making babies. Or cooking.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Mar 11, 2011 11:12:02 GMT -5
Some things definitely have to be done in person. Like making babies. Actually, um, no.
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Post by ~Z28gal~ on Mar 11, 2011 12:18:31 GMT -5
Actually, um, no. Turkey baster.
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Mar 11, 2011 17:16:06 GMT -5
yay! you're very nice indeed! I especially liked the one with the flower! lol you're gonna be a wheel-breaker for sure!!
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Post by allison101 on Mar 14, 2011 0:08:01 GMT -5
haha, a wheel breaker?
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Mar 14, 2011 14:11:09 GMT -5
yeah instead of a heartbreaker ur a wheelbreaker Lame humour I know.. tho if u've been lurking here long then you shouldn't be to surprised
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Post by theflash on Mar 16, 2011 13:00:22 GMT -5
ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS, WHERE U FROM?
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