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Post by rebecca on Dec 8, 2005 16:46:54 GMT -5
Sigh
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Post by vivi on Dec 8, 2005 17:24:07 GMT -5
That is really touching, Jeff.
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Post by BA on Dec 8, 2005 19:43:55 GMT -5
Whoa Jeff....that makes me really want to piss and moan and cry. It's so very beautiful and so terribly sad. Bittersweet is the right word, I think.
I still want to be the gal who gets to go inside the store and dawdle, while my sig. other entertains the kid in the car.
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Post by vivi on Dec 8, 2005 20:45:34 GMT -5
I still want to be the gal who gets to go inside the store and dawdle, while my sig. other entertains the kid in the car. Yeah, me too. That sounds nice.
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Post by mrjefffurz on Dec 9, 2005 12:52:02 GMT -5
i did the "wait w/ the kid in the car" gig many times...once, waiting outside the supermarket the little "angel" was scrabbling around on the floor,,,suddenly she let out a scream and came up holding her finger, dripping large amounts of red liquid,,,,daddy went str8 into panic mode until he realized the little chit had found a mcdonalds ketchup packet, dumped the contents on her fingers/hand, and damned near caused daddy to have a heart attack,,,,she still laffs @ me today over THAT prank...
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Post by wheelie37 on Dec 16, 2005 13:51:40 GMT -5
my girlfriend sometimes did the gas for me, but i never expected or ordered her too. I also helped her with things like hanging the shopping on the back of my chair, doing the cooking or washing up etc. this isnt a disabled thing as non disabled people can be lazy too. it is the individuals that count at the end of the day
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Post by BA on Dec 17, 2005 17:48:14 GMT -5
this isnt a disabled thing as non disabled people can be lazy too. it is the individuals that count at the end of the day You're telling me Paul! Laziness is one trait that I abhor!
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Post by wheelie37 on Dec 20, 2005 5:17:31 GMT -5
I actually like to do it. even though it is a pain getting the wheelchair out, putting it together etc. maybe its a man thing It gives me a feeling of satisfaction of doing something the same way as non disabled people
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Post by BA on Dec 20, 2005 23:48:38 GMT -5
I don't order, I do ask nicely, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't expect it. I feel no guilt about it, either. Wow Matisse and what can I expect in return?
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Post by wheelie37 on Dec 24, 2005 3:55:40 GMT -5
I am very independent and try to do most things for myself. I do ask for help sometimes, for instance i cant change light bulbs!
I was chatting to a guy at the pub last night. He said he has sometimes held a door open or asked someone in a wheelchair if they needed any help, and they have sworn at him or been generally nasty!
This has happened to him a few times, and I have heard this has happened to other able bodied friends too.
One very close friend of mine admitted he felt bad when i was being very independent and struggling, when he had offered to help and i had said i could manage.
Sometimes it is nice to let people help, you never know when you may need it and they will be too nervous to help in case they get abuse.
I always say "thank you for your offer but i am ok, thank you for offering though"
There is no excuse for bad manners, whether you are disabled or not.
Being disabled and having a disabled partner can have restrictions put on them by society. For instance some places insist if you are disabled you should have an escort or carer with you!
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Post by LadyLuvsParas on Dec 24, 2005 10:32:52 GMT -5
Being disabled and having a disabled partner can have restrictions put on them by society. For instance some places insist if you are disabled you should have an escort or carer with you! Where do they insist that you have a carer?
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Post by wheelie37 on Dec 24, 2005 14:11:31 GMT -5
euro tunnel for one. though two of my friends who are married and both in wheelchairs went anyway, and were ok also some cinemas here in the uk PREFER it due to possible fire risk!
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Post by LadyLuvsParas on Dec 24, 2005 14:45:59 GMT -5
euro tunnel for one. though two of my friends who are married and both in wheelchairs went anyway, and were ok also some cinemas here in the uk PREFER it due to possible fire risk! I don't think we have that here in the states! I doubt very seriously that they'd get away with it! I mean honestly! I'm sure most people on wheels know if they need an assistant to ride a train or not!
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Post by wheelie37 on Dec 31, 2005 2:54:27 GMT -5
Very true. When I travel by myself on airlines, i get the usual "can you transfer by yourself as our staff arent insured?" And always have to get a medical note from my doctor to say i am ok too fly. But at least i am allowed too travel by myself. There was an instance on a cheap airline recntly, where a group of blind people were not allowed too fly. the airline has changed their policy since then and say they can fly if they have an escort!
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Post by mrjefffurz on Dec 31, 2005 13:41:42 GMT -5
an airline wouldnt dare deny passage to a dis passenger here in the colonies...and when ive flown, if forced to sit in a seat that doesnt have a removable arm, they have helped with the transfer,,,,and they helped too damned much with getting my chair opened up and ready for me to get back into,,,,but how can u bitch about something like that, yanno..
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