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Post by missparkle on Aug 23, 2020 13:28:12 GMT -5
Super great guy. Amputees aren’t really my dev thing but I dunno... maybe I’ll give it a whirl. Or maybe I should share with one of you! Haha Oh, well, you should compromise a little, nobody is perfect! Not even pwds! Lol 😂
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Post by myrrh on Aug 25, 2020 19:16:42 GMT -5
Super cute PWD in this Vice piece on recent clashes between alt-right and BLM demonstrators in Portland. His interview is mixed in 3 times.
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Post by lisa on Aug 27, 2020 15:39:23 GMT -5
Soooo, I need to tell you guys something. I did something crazy. Crazy crazy. For some years now I have been spotting this cute CP guy in my city. The first time I saw him a couple of years ago in the supermarket I usually go to. I noticed him walking around and smiled at him. He seemed very happy about it and smiled back, also when he saw me again a couple of minutes later. Over the years I kept seeing him from time to time. Not often, maybe once a year. At the beginning of this year I saw him again and that was the moment when I realized, that I really want to get to know him. So during the lockdown I came back to the place where I had seen him before and hoped for a chance encounter, but nothing happened. In May I saw him again, but he didn't seem to recognize me and I wasn't brave enough that day to do anything. Two weeks ago, I saw him again at the supermarket. We smiled at each other (hey, maybe he remembered me?) and I said "Hey". He replied with "Hey" and kept on walking. Anyway, a friend of mine told me to be courageous and talk to him the next time I'd see him. I didn't really believe that I would see him again so soon, but a few days later I saw him again, this time in the tram. So I had a few stations to figure out how to chat him up :P. And when we got off, I did it. I walked up to him and said something like "Hey, I've seen you around a couple of times and I thought I'd like to talk to you." And he seemed thrilled! We talked a bit and he asked for my number! OMG. The guy I've been swooning over for years had my phone number! And we decided to meet up. And we did! So, usually I meet guys online and they know that I'm a dev from the very beginning, because I put it in my profile. But he didn't know of course and I was very worried how to bring it up and how he would react. When we met up a couple of days later he fortunately made it relatively easy for me. At some point he asked why I hadn't asked him about his strange walk. I told him that I thought it was CP and didn't really had the big need to ask ;-) (okay, maybe that was an understatement, but hey, I wanted to sound cool, like devogirl always puts it so well and to show that I had absolutely no problem with him being disabled). Anyway, I think he was a bit surprised that I knew about CP. In the end I suggested that he'd ask me about why I knew about it and he asked whether I didn't mind. And well, that's when I told him about my devness and that I actually not only don't mind but find it quite hot.... well, you know :P. He had heard of devs and had some of the typical questions, but in the end he took it very well. It really all feels like a dream to me. I never thought I'd meet a guy with CP in my city who is not only hot, but also intelligent and charming and okay with my devness. Wow. Just wow. And when he told me shortly after that he got a new perspective through me and that, for the first time, he was proud of how his legs look when he was walking through town, I really melted inside... So. Devness can be something beautiful. I think I had forgotten about this. Or never knew it in the first place.
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Post by cilantro on Aug 27, 2020 17:45:22 GMT -5
And when he told me shortly after that he got a new perspective through me and that, for the first time, he was proud of how his legs look when he was walking through town, I really melted inside... So. Devness can be something beautiful. I think I had forgotten about this. Or never knew it in the first place. Wow this is amazing! I'm so happy for you!
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Post by rebeckers84 on Aug 27, 2020 18:48:15 GMT -5
OMG I’m not crying.... 😭😭 Ahhhhhhh what a GREAT story!!!! I’m SO happy for you. Happy that you got the courage to say something. Happy that he picked up your hints and got your number. Happy that you told him and he was receptive!!! Happy that you totally made such a great impact on him.
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Post by devogirl on Aug 27, 2020 19:49:52 GMT -5
Wow lisa! That's so wonderful!!! I'm so proud of you for being brave and talking to him. Good for you! It was a Devo Diary moment for sure haha. You're so right, devness IS beautiful, and you changed his life for the better.
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Post by Anna on Aug 27, 2020 23:23:10 GMT -5
lisa this is awesome! A dream come true-story 😭😍 I'm really happy for you! Courage pays off 🙂
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2020 1:41:30 GMT -5
lisa that is a great story, I wish one day I will have the courage to talk to my gym crush. Unfortunately Covid has really put a damper on that. Are you going to see him again?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2020 1:44:22 GMT -5
myrrh thanks for sharing the video,even though it makes me sad and it is so shocking. My first thought about the PWD was that he is courageous being out there in the craziness. It's horrible what is happening in this country. Also, I really think you should try to find him 😉
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Post by lisa on Aug 28, 2020 16:59:20 GMT -5
Thank you all, you're the best. I knew you would get it and I've been dying to tell someone who really understands. And yes, we will see each other again. I have no clue how everything will be, but it's just too beautiful to let it go. And it seems that I made a good first impression :P. I have to admit that I've already got a big crush on him...
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Post by myrrh on Aug 28, 2020 22:34:16 GMT -5
Go lisa! I'm so proud of you and hoping for the best! You better keep us in the loop. And yes Dani I have seen him several times, in fact I was behind him on one march halfway across the city, which I didn't mind one bit! I did say hi to him once, but it's hard to casualty chat with a mask on. I'm not single but I can definitely enjoy a pretty pwd getting engaged and standing up for his beliefs.
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Post by feelsunshine on Aug 31, 2020 15:37:02 GMT -5
lisa I love your story and it shows again that courage pays off. Keep us posted how the story goes on! I found a cute wheeler online and was even more thrilled once I figured out that he only lives an hour drive away from me. After a few days of chatting we met. We talked many hours. Probably see him again on the weekend. It’s not quite sure which direction this is heading, yet. We’ll see. go Devs. 😊
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2020 15:51:25 GMT -5
I recently had the opportunity to visit a specialised wheelchair design company. It was great to see all the innovations and a lot of the staff were pwd’s but I was shocked by how little it pushed my dev buttons ? I truly thought it would be overwhelming but I’ve come to realise that I had far more dev moments when I was sort of observing from a distance whereas now I’m in a long term relationship and “exposed” on a daily basis to all my fantasies, they seem to have calmed down. It was still super interesting though and we learnt a lot so was good in that respect.
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Post by cilantro on Sept 11, 2020 14:47:52 GMT -5
Once again I found a pwd on okcupid who I have nothing in common with. Am I under a curse or something. Anyway, he plays on the accessible hockey team where I live so even though I decided to let him down easy I did ask if maybe when quarantine ends if I could come to a game. He was nice, but just not my type, someone who wears shirts with sayings about beer. Am I too picky? Anyway, maybe I'll end up at a hockey game and fall in love. Fingers crossed.
OH and I told him that I was a dev, as I do, and he was like "really?" And I think his opinion on devs were negative, but maybe now they're not. I can't help it guys I'm SO ABOUT the revolution
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Post by Amee on Sept 21, 2020 5:35:45 GMT -5
I get the whole long term incompatibility thing, but why not just meet for coffee and make a friend? I'm pretty sure that is what I would do in your situation. Totally missed that somehow, so two months later: I told him that I'm happy to keep chatting just as friends (and would have been down to meet eventually), but he very adamantly said that he didn't want that.
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