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Post by rollnthundr on Feb 6, 2006 14:49:40 GMT -5
In reading several posts around the board, it seems many of you Devos feel strange approaching a gimp to spark up a conversation. I thought that maybe if several of us guys could post how we would like to be approached then maybe it would give you some ideas or more courage.
For me, I think the best way is just to walk up and say" Hi, I'm a devotee and I'd like to fuck you till your toes wiggle", I'd be good to go... lol
Seriously, just smile and say hi, and find something to comment on, I like to flirt so I'll help keep the conversation going, especially if I think your cute.
Things to comment on:
the typical stuff - weather, sports, the long line your in, what ever...
Or maybe the chair - i.e. - I like your wheelchair, I've never seen one like that or my ex-b/f had the same kind or my friend is looking for a new one can I ask you about that one. something like that to let me know you know a little something about gimps.
Lines not to use to start a conversation
Do you need help?
Do you race in that?
Why are you in a wheelchair?
Can you have sex? - unless this is quickly followed by, "right now, because I'm really horny" lol
I think the problem comes with us gimps is because we get approached by people all the time who ask to help us or just make some stupid comment to make it ok when they are caught staring at us. most say something then just drop the conversation. If your interested in the guy, make your comments flirtatious and keep the conversation going. We'll catch on that this is something different.
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Post by wheelie37 on Feb 6, 2006 15:23:52 GMT -5
i agree with all of the above, except for the "why are you in a wheelchair"?
I am often asked that question and i feel comfortable telling them. It is how comfortable they are afterwards that counts.
To me it is a good start to a conversation where they get to learn about you and have the opportunity to find out more if they wish.
It is a way to be intimate in a friendly manor.
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Post by matisse on Feb 6, 2006 15:42:01 GMT -5
Well, lots of the devs here seemed to have issues with even giving a second smile after an initial one.....so for them to actually go up and talk to a wheeler is probably out of the Q.......women like guys to make the first move and apparently devs are no different. But it would make it a lot more difficult since as you point out, we are always getting smiles, hello's and Q's.
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Post by babs on Feb 6, 2006 17:16:36 GMT -5
Nice thought of you encouraging and helping us girls with how to approach a gimp guy. But I'm alright. LOLOL. Never had any problems with it.
For me it's not an issue of how to approach, but more where to approach. I never seem to meet any nice, to me goodlooking wheelguys these days. Well, not as nice and goodlooking as you are, rollinthundr.
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Post by wheelie37 on Feb 7, 2006 2:36:27 GMT -5
where have you tried looking Babs?  |
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Post by BA on Feb 7, 2006 22:46:04 GMT -5
Gee, I kind of like my approach to be a real good long look in the eye (given by me to him), follwed by a nice big smile.
Think any of you guys might take that as a hint of interest?
Tho' I must admit, when I first saw my present "buddy/friend", I stopped dead in my tracks and just blubbered something to the effect of "too hot".... and started fanning myself. But, he got the hint.
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Post by wheelie37 on Feb 8, 2006 5:53:02 GMT -5
Gee, I kind of like my approach to be a real good long look in the eye (given by me to him), follwed by a nice big smile. I would think the person is trying to be nice and making an effort to look at me and not look away. i would appreciate the friendly gesture but wouldnt think i was fancied as such (but then a lot of wheelers are like me i think) |
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Post by Pisti on Feb 8, 2006 8:41:24 GMT -5
I can be sooooo freaked out... I wouldn't dare to talk to the guy even if he parked his rear wheel right on my foot...  |
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Post by wheelie37 on Feb 10, 2006 12:30:42 GMT -5
why so freaked out judit?  |
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Post by Pisti on Feb 10, 2006 13:12:22 GMT -5
I don't know... |
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Post by dolly on Feb 10, 2006 19:31:57 GMT -5
the only thing that makes me a bit gun shy is my experiences in the past where my smile or eye contact seem to have been misinterpreted as gawking or pity, or whatever. i just hate when that happens!
plus i never seem to find cute wheeler guys in a situation where conversation is possible...either the guy is absorbed in a group of his friends or it's a "in passing" thing where we are passing each other on the sidewalk. etc.
if i was stuck in a line, at an ATM, or in a social setting, i would not have a problem. it just never happens!!!
i have found that a lot of folks in chairs avoid eye contact as well.
i am a very outgoing, friendly person and i am not any more intimidated by a wheeler than any other man...the situations have just been less than optimal thus far.
but where there's life, there's hope...so here's hoping! ;D
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Post by Pisti on Feb 10, 2006 20:57:05 GMT -5
i am not any more intimidated by a wheeler than any other man... Me neither... But I think beeing freeked out by everyone isn't the same...  And yes, I have a friendly and kind personality, too,... Only I need to open up like a seahsell, to make that pearl visible...  But beeing friendly can be awkward sometimes, too... I used to travel a lot and party a lot, and there you cannot avoid getting into conversations.... and one day or one week or one month after you find your travel buddy or party buddy at your door with some flowers asking you to marry him (and those are just the marriing ones - there are also the "lets have sex" ones and even the "give me a child, please" ones...), even though you didn't give him your address , so you know that he spent time and money to find you again... and you have hard time explaining him, that you've been friendly because that's how you are, and not because you fancy him... OK - once it is romantical, twice or three times funny - but after the 5th or 6th you start to question your communicational skills and try to avoid friendly converstations... |
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Post by wheelie37 on Feb 12, 2006 3:35:59 GMT -5
the only thing that makes me a bit gun shy is my experiences in the past where my smile or eye contact seem to have been misinterpreted as gawking or pity, or whatever. i just hate when that happens! plus i never seem to find cute wheeler guys in a situation where conversation is possible...either the guy is absorbed in a group of his friends or it's a "in passing" thing where we are passing each other on the sidewalk. etc. if i was stuck in a line, at an ATM, or in a social setting, i would not have a problem. it just never happens!!! i have found that a lot of folks in chairs avoid eye contact as well. i am a very outgoing, friendly person and i am not any more intimidated by a wheeler than any other man...the situations have just been less than optimal thus far. but where there's life, there's hope...so here's hoping! ;D I personally tend too look down when pushing along, but this is to avoid getting unpleasant things on my wheels and of course then getting it on my gloves maybe that is why there is reduced eye contact when they are pushing along too |
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Post by Ciao Bella on Feb 18, 2006 19:27:21 GMT -5
I personally think it hard to just go up to a wheeler guy and strike a conversation...come to think of it, even if he's not a gimp...it'll be hard.
Can't we just chat first then agree to meet up? at least the gimp guy will know that the girl's a dev and the girl will know what typr of disability the guy has...make sense? Just rambling off what's in my head...
Isabelle
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Post by wheelie37 on Feb 19, 2006 3:49:26 GMT -5
just chatting first and arranging to meet up is great, but he wont know you are a devotee unless you actually tell him. you can tell him when and if you get to know him better |
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