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Post by Slinxter on Oct 6, 2020 12:09:13 GMT -5
I have not been in a relationship with a PWD, but I have not been available to date anyone for (insert absurdly large # here) years. I became available right before we started quarantining. I would like to at least get to know some PWD, not sure I wouldn't act like a total spaz tho.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2020 19:48:12 GMT -5
I have not been in a relationship with a PWD, but I have not been available to date anyone for (insert absurdly large # here) years. I became available right before we started quarantining. I would like to at least get to know some PWD, not sure I wouldn't act like a total spaz tho. Do you live in a populated area ? Quite often there are wheelchair sports teams in larger towns that are welcoming to volunteers etc, that might be a way to make some friends. It’s easier to be more relaxed when it’s not a romantic situation. |
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Post by Nia on Oct 20, 2020 10:58:35 GMT -5
I realize I could be criticized for this but I’ll be honest I have an affair with PWD that is now lasting for over a year. My AB partner knows (we have some sort of an open relationship) so I’m good but my PWD partner in crime is very much taken and his wife doesn’t know. I couldn’t resist since I literally waited for him to appear all my life and frankly he couldn’t resist since he only heard about devs from me. And he was so amazed that we literally jumped on each other and here we are one year after still doing it. I am sort off mesmerized with him but I take it as it is - an affair...
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2020 19:01:06 GMT -5
I realize I could be criticized for this but I’ll be honest I have an affair with PWD that is now lasting for over a year. My AB partner knows (we have some sort of an open relationship) so I’m good but my PWD partner in crime is very much taken and his wife doesn’t know. I couldn’t resist since I literally waited for him to appear all my life and frankly he couldn’t resist since he only heard about devs from me. And he was so amazed that we literally jumped on each other and here we are one year after still doing it. I am sort off mesmerized with him but I take it as it is - an affair... I don’t agree with the deception in affairs but it’s your business so I’m definitely not going to criticise. Do you think there is any chance of it becoming more than an affair ? Are you both unsettled in your ‘full time’ relationships or is it purely a fantasy that you’re both enjoying ? im always curious, because for me there would be a definite preference between them if I was seeing two men. I would want to focus on the man that made me happiest x |
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Post by mili on Oct 20, 2020 22:38:48 GMT -5
And I want to experience a relationship and a sex life with an AB. Ah, it's always the fear of what we might be missing out on. Sex life with a PWD is mostly awesome (especially because you're so extremely sexually attracted to them) but I can't help feeling that I want to experience the AB / AB dynamic at least once in my life. Is this why you're seeking to date AB's now? I'm not in a relationship with a person with a disability. I would be open to it if I really connected with that person and we had a lot in common, but that seems really hard to find among people with disabilities since there are so few, and I'm not willing to move. Maybe I'm picky? I wouldn't want to be in a long term or serious relationship with someone with a disability if it meant I'd have to compromise a lot in terms of what I want in a partner. I would be open to casual dating at first though to see if we're compatible. Samesies. I am new to this board.. But I’ve been struggling with my uncommon sexuality my whole life and when I met my PWD partner my life has changed drastically. I’ve been married twice before to a very very attractive men and didn’t want to be intimate with them. It’ was a TORTURE! Now my boyfriend thinks I’m always sexual. Absolutely the best relationship I’ve ever had Wow. This right here. This is so good to hear and I am happy for you! haha I am new to this board.. But I’ve been struggling with my uncommon sexuality my whole life and when I met my PWD partner my life has changed drastically. I’ve been married twice before to a very very attractive men and didn’t want to be intimate with them. It’ was a TORTURE! Now my boyfriend thinks I’m always sexual. Absolutely the best relationship I’ve ever had I completely agree, I was married to a man who (on the outside) seemed ideal.....handsome, intelligent, wealthy etc etc but only with my pwd partner have I been truly satisfied. This thread puts things in perspective for me and reinforces my decision to look for the ever elusive ideal PWD relationship. I've never been in one and have also dated AB's. |
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Post by Nia on Oct 21, 2020 4:23:17 GMT -5
I realize I could be criticized for this but I’ll be honest I have an affair with PWD that is now lasting for over a year. My AB partner knows (we have some sort of an open relationship) so I’m good but my PWD partner in crime is very much taken and his wife doesn’t know. I couldn’t resist since I literally waited for him to appear all my life and frankly he couldn’t resist since he only heard about devs from me. And he was so amazed that we literally jumped on each other and here we are one year after still doing it. I am sort off mesmerized with him but I take it as it is - an affair... I don’t agree with the deception in affairs but it’s your business so I’m definitely not going to criticise. Do you think there is any chance of it becoming more than an affair ? Are you both unsettled in your ‘full time’ relationships or is it purely a fantasy that you’re both enjoying ? im always curious, because for me there would be a definite preference between them if I was seeing two men. I would want to focus on the man that made me happiest x @delight thanks for the lack of judgement  I honestly don’t know what to say. My relationship with the amp guy is very strange. Over the course of year and a half since we started seeing each other the relationship took some very unexpected turns which left me puzzled... We met through a mutual friend and after only a month of texting back and fourth (very deep texting with our past lives squeezed in those texts...) we met. I went to see him. I developed feelings for him right away and told him how I felt. We kept seeing each other, he was repeatedly making sure that I heard him about not even considering leaving his wife and that I’m only sex to him and I insisted on at least having an open mind about MAYBE SOME DAY blah blah. And he said he agrees with me and it’s not possible to know with certainty that nothing more will ever happen. Last time we met he told me he is falling in love with me. I said that’s cute. I told you, relax:) and I returned home. We texted 3 weeks more and then he TOTALLY disappeared for over 10 months. I didn’t I insist. I was sad and frustrated but I let him go. And then out of the blue he called me again. We continued where we stopped I didn’t want to ask him anything. So I’m puzzled but I don’t want to hope. But from the bottom of my heart I’m telling you- yes, if he asked I would be with him... |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2020 8:34:33 GMT -5
@nia i can imagine how awful it was when he just disappeared with no explanation. I had a very similar experience a few years ago,with a owd, we had even gone as far as discussing me getting a flight to go and meet his family before he ghosted me. I had no idea it was going to happen, we'd spoken the night before and things were great....then nothing for months. I was terrified that he'd had an accident or was really sick etc. Eventually i went a bit crazy and managed to find a phone number for his mum and called saying i was a friend who just wondered if he was ok. She was lovely and said ' oh he is fine, just been busy moving house with his fiancee'. I was devastated at all the lies.
He got back in touch months later and wanted to carry on as if nothing had happened. I blocked him but it still messes with my head.
Im explaining this to say please dont be taken advantage of, it will be affecting your relationship and using up your life. We sometimes tend to put pwd's on a pedestal due to our attraction but they are regular guys and some can still be scummy people. You deserve so much more, even from an affair you should be respected and due honesty and a level of committment x
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Post by Slinxter on Oct 21, 2020 18:23:25 GMT -5
I have not been in a relationship with a PWD, but I have not been available to date anyone for (insert absurdly large # here) years. I became available right before we started quarantining. I would like to at least get to know some PWD, not sure I wouldn't act like a total spaz tho. Do you live in a populated area ? Quite often there are wheelchair sports teams in larger towns that are welcoming to volunteers etc, that might be a way to make some friends. It’s easier to be more relaxed when it’s not a romantic situation. I am in Austin, and I am in lock-down cuz Texas and immunocompromised parents live with me. So, once I can actually get within 6 feet of someone without a mask, I will totally explore your suggestions! |
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Post by didi on Oct 23, 2020 13:48:51 GMT -5
And I want to experience a relationship and a sex life with an AB. Ah, it's always the fear of what we might be missing out on. Sex life with a PWD is mostly awesome (especially because you're so extremely sexually attracted to them) but I can't help feeling that I want to experience the AB / AB dynamic at least once in my life. Is this why you're seeking to date AB's now? Yup. Last year I actually met an AB guy who totally knocked me off my feet. I'm not sure if any of you guys or girls can relate - but for me, that was a huuuge deal! It's like I finally had the confirmation that yes, I can be attracted to AB men as well! It was such a freeing feeling and I saw my tiny dating pool expanding  |
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Post by mili on Oct 23, 2020 22:49:01 GMT -5
Is this why you're seeking to date AB's now? Yup. Last year I actually met an AB guy who totally knocked me off my feet. I'm not sure if any of you guys or girls can relate - but for me, that was a huuuge deal! It's like I finally had the confirmation that yes, I can be attracted to AB men as well! It was such a freeing feeling and I saw my tiny dating pool expanding That's awesome. Were you attracted right away or did you have to really get to know him first? |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2020 15:31:31 GMT -5
Is this why you're seeking to date AB's now? Yup. Last year I actually met an AB guy who totally knocked me off my feet. I'm not sure if any of you guys or girls can relate - but for me, that was a huuuge deal! It's like I finally had the confirmation that yes, I can be attracted to AB men as well! It was such a freeing feeling and I saw my tiny dating pool expanding I approached dating from the total other end, for all of my adult life, I’d only had relationships with AB men as I just didn’t seem to get the opportunity to meet PWD’s. Then after the breakup of a decade long relationship I tried online dating for the first time and oh my God my eyes were opened lol. Had several friendships with disabled men and then met my partner, so for me I’m now happy to say this may be the last relationship I will have, but if not, then I’d definitely be hoping to meet another pwd. i really wish that I’d made more effort as a younger woman to explore the dev side of my attraction but I’m grateful to now have the chance. As I’ve said before, even being with the absolutely perfect pwd it still isn’t all plain sailing, there are the usual relationship irritations and ups and downs but I have discovered a lot about myself and another level of openness and intimacy with my partner. |
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Oct 27, 2020 17:11:20 GMT -5
I am new to this board.. But I’ve been struggling with my uncommon sexuality my whole life and when I met my PWD partner my life has changed drastically. I’ve been married twice before to a very very attractive men and didn’t want to be intimate with them. It’ was a TORTURE! Now my boyfriend thinks I’m always sexual. Absolutely the best relationship I’ve ever had. , I feel this would be totally me. |
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Post by feelsunshine on Jan 25, 2023 4:36:21 GMT -5
I've never dated a pwd but I'd like to have this experience someday... but my dating pool is very small, even for AB guys, so I don't think it's going to happen. I'm gonna settle for my expectations and my imagination. So, what exactly do you mean by “small dating pool”? Is there something very special that you are attracted to, that not many AB guys have? Dev-wise of course, there are usually not enough guys around who fit with what we’re looking for. |
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Post by ichbin on Jan 25, 2023 9:20:08 GMT -5
Ive been wondering how many of us devs are currently in a relationship with a pwd ? For the ones who arent, is it something you would like to happen? I have always dreamt of it and now I am. It's been half a year now. Gets better everyday. |
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Post by ichbin on Jan 25, 2023 17:01:51 GMT -5
I have always dreamt of it and now I am. It's been half a year now. Gets better everyday. Congrats! It must be good Btw, does he knows about your devness? Or do you handle this so naturally that it is not a concern? I've always been curious on how I would handle my devness (freely but without suspicion) if was in a relationship with a pwd. Yes, he knows. Has known from the beginning. If I hadn't explicitly written in my "online dating personal info" that I am looking for a guy with acquired paraplegia TH level, he said he would never have contacted me (he would have thought he's not "good enough" for me) |
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I honestly don’t know what to say. My relationship with the amp guy is very strange. Over the course of year and a half since we started seeing each other the relationship took some very unexpected turns which left me puzzled... We met through a mutual friend and after only a month of texting back and fourth (very deep texting with our past lives squeezed in those texts...) we met. I went to see him. I developed feelings for him right away and told him how I felt. We kept seeing each other, he was repeatedly making sure that I heard him about not even considering leaving his wife and that I’m only sex to him and I insisted on at least having an open mind about MAYBE SOME DAY blah blah. And he said he agrees with me and it’s not possible to know with certainty that nothing more will ever happen. Last time we met he told me he is falling in love with me. I said that’s cute. I told you, relax:) and I returned home. We texted 3 weeks more and then he TOTALLY disappeared for over 10 months. I didn’t I insist. I was sad and frustrated but I let him go. And then out of the blue he called me again. We continued where we stopped I didn’t want to ask him anything. So I’m puzzled but I don’t want to hope. But from the bottom of my heart I’m telling you- yes, if he asked I would be with him... 
